How do you stand like I'm a man? (It's a MAN BABY! - Austin Powers) Well in this video I'm going to teach you how in
three steps but I want to tell you a story first I saw a guy in public the
other day he wasn't talking to anyone he wasn't even walking he was just standing
there and I could tell just from looking at him for a split second two things he
was not confident and he had low social status what's this gonna do for you if
you're at a networking event or you're waiting for a date and they see you and
they start assigning those attributes to you before you can start to interact
you're shooting yourself in the foot but the beauty is we can completely control
the way we stand without any question there's no variability there's no one
who's like hey buddy why standing like that right or pushing it like that
there's nothing so we need to learn how to control everything that we put out
there within our communication so we can we can encourage people to start
assigning positive attributes to us see the human brain is wired to kind of
start telling itself a story about what that person that they're watching is
probably like are they attractive are they competent are they high status do
they have a good job all these different things and the funny thing is our brains
are very good at doing it and are usually pretty spot-on and it's a strong
perspective that's coming in our mind too because once someone starts
assigning those attributes to you and say they eventually do talk to you like
if I would have gone up and talked to that guy at the park everything they say
is gonna be filtered through that perspective that was already established
in my brain so let's get that perspective strong let's give off the
right body language let's learn how to stand the right way to show and
communicate the right things so we can start with that head start alright so if
this is a bit advanced for you and you're just trying to get an
understanding of what's going on around you socially you get a really crisp good
understanding why people do what they do around you I put together a social
invincibility checklist you can touch or click right up here download it for free
and it's gonna go through five things that'll help you get up to speed on just
understanding social interaction in general all right let's jump into the
three steps step number one I want you to focus not on getting long so many
people have all these weird say you stand up super long and tall I
just want you to focus on the portion of your spine from the bait from the top of
your shoulders to connecting to your head the little portion right here just
focus on raising that that's gonna nicely raise your shoulders and nicely
stick out your chest just a little bit and it feels really good you can feel
that your body's on alignment we did it's just gonna be a quarter inch or
something like that just focus on doing that and it's gonna really bring you
into Nice alignment and a lot of linked without looking like you're trying to be
lurch out there six foot six when you're really five foot ten the second thing
you want to do is roll your shoulders back a lot of us have really become use
to having shoulders that are down see a lot of people kind of standing like this
so it's comfortable our bodies may naturally over time we're like that and
the older that we get the more you're gonna find yourself like that we need to
consciously fight this just by rolling on our shoulders back see it's very easy
to do it actually feels really good once you do it but to break the habit of
rolling forward is all you need to do so by doing this for two or three weeks
you're gonna find yourself naturally wanting to revert back to that because
it does feel a lot better now one kind of troubleshooting tip I'll tell you a
lot of people who are coming from more of a slouched body language and then you
tell him to put the shoulders back and they say this they feel like they look
like a tough guy like they're going to pick fights with people they're not
that's not does it look like I'm trying to pick fight with you when I stand like
this no but it's the difference that in their mind they feel like they're
standing like this when they're really just rolling their shoulders back a
little bit so understand it may feel a bit different when you do that to start
but once you get comfortable with it you'll realize it's a very natural and
healthy way to stand it keeps your shoulders back and it's gonna prevent
you from slowly going further and further down now the last thing you need
to do just understand how your feet impact your stands a lot of people they
put the feet a bit too close together I would encourage you nice and easy keep
your feet about shoulders width apart it's not even
a little bit wider just do it's comfortable but understand a lot of
people you know their tendency to try to not take up a lot of space so bring
their feet in really close together it doesn't look solid looks like you can
just go up and knock the dude over real easy you always want to look nice and
solid because that exudes confidence your physical strength does exude
confidence doesn't mean you have to be in the weight room six days a week but
just by standing like you've got a bit of a stature it's something that you can
easily do to combine to the third step now if you haven't seen this video right
here I highly suggest you check it out I think you're gonna like it
and if you didn't download that social invincibility checklist it's gonna give
you a good idea of social concepts and five things you can immediately go
through to understand social interaction better you can click right here to do so
I'll talk to you soon