You're wondering, how can I tell if I'm a good mom?
Answer these five questions honestly and we'll find out.
Hi, I'm Dr. Paul Jenkins, I'm a professional psychologist and I have worked with
children and parents for my entire career. I know how to tell if you're a good mom.
So let's get to the questions. If you can answer yes honestly and sincerely to at least three of
these questions then you're on the right track. Here's question number one, do I love my child?
How are you doing with that question? Notice I'm not asking, do I enjoy my child all the time?
Because you probably don't and I'm not asking, do I stay calm all of the time with my child?
Because you probably don't and that's normal. All of these things that make the mommy guilt kick in.
Usually are pretty normal things and you're not as crazy as you feel, okay. So, the first question, do I
love my child? If you can sincerely answer that that yes you do, then we're on the right track.
You got one under your belt let's go to the second one. question number two, am I sincerely interested
and invested in improving my parenting skills? Hey, the fact that you're still watching this video
tells me the answer to that. The fact that you're here in the first place, you're a conscious caring
mother. So, notice that. Look, nobody's perfect and sometimes we get in our head that we have to be
or that we should be something different than what we are. The fact that you're interested in making
improvements tells me a lot about you as a parent. Awesome. Hey, while we're on that topic of parenting
skills I've got an invitation for you and a free gift, We dive into positive parenting in more depth
and we get into what you can actually do. There's a web class that I'm inviting you to right now
drpauljenkins.com/parenting. The URL is right there on your screen there's a link in
the description. Come over and we'll help you with that particular task. Hey, there's a lot of us that
are working on this and you don't have to do it alone. Let's see some new ways that we can approach
our parenting and feel even more confident about it. Here's question number three, remember answer
honestly and sincerely. Do I feel a twinge of guilt every time I lose my cool with my kids?
This is a weird question, maybe you didn't expect this. Maybe you were expecting something more like,
do I ever lose my cool with my kids? No, we're not going to go there everybody does, okay. We all get
tipped over from time to time it's not your fault. Some of it's the training that we've received.
Some of its cultural expectations. Some of it's all that stuff we see on Pinterest that we could never
live up to. My question...number three is, do I feel a twinge of guilt
every time I lose my cool with my kids and if you do that tells me something about you.
It tells me something about your conscience. It tells me something about how you are invested in
living according to principles. Now, we all make mistakes and we all depart from that
from time to time and when we do we're supposed to feel a little twinge of guilt
and if you do that tells me a lot about you as a mom. Now, notice, I'm not saying that this has to
continue. In fact, I think those twinges that we feel are simply indicators of what we get to
work on next and you don't have to do this alone. I already told you about the positive parenting
web class come on over, let's get to work on this. You don't have to do this alone but the
guilt is an indicator to me that you're on track. Question number four and really think about this
sincerely, what is your motivation? Okay, here's the question, do I sincerely want my child
to be happy and well adjusted? Now, this is where we're going to peel back from
okay people are going to think I'm a bad mom if my child is off the rails somehow. We're
not going there we're going to, do I sincerely want my child to be happy and well adjusted?
Can you answer that one sincerely? How we doing so far? I told you if you can answer at least three of
these five questions affirmatively you are on the right track and iIget it. I know that you have
things that you're not proud of and things that show weaknesses. Yeah, welcome to earth
you're in pretty good company because that's how good parents feel a lot of the time.
We're working on reversing that with some of the new approaches to positive parenting the
are available to us now. Maybe these weren't even available to our own parents but they're available
to you. So, just tune in to that. Do I sincerely want my child to be happy and well adjusted?
Not too hard of a question. Now, here's question number five, I get a lot of different answers for this but
let's just see where you land with it. Have I already tried multiple ways to help my child?
You have. Yeah, I kind of knew this about you. The fact that you're still watching this video
right now tells me a lot about you. Are you a good mom? If you can answer these questions sincerely
and if at least three out of those five were affirmative that you answered yes to you're
on the right track and you don't have to do this alone. You've got this and remember I've
got you too I've got your back on this. Go to drpauljenkins.com/ parenting and
I'll get you enrolled right away in our positive parenting web class. You're going to see a whole
new way of looking at this and I think it's going to make a big difference in how you feel.
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