hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about how to flirt without being
creepy now let's begin number one open signals using open body language you can approach
anyone without looking creepy or desperate body language is a form of non-verbal communication
we send small subtle signals with our body which communicate how we're really feeling
alright let's say you cross your arms over your chest this piece of body language signifies a
closed or guarded personality and that leaves a negative impression on the people you meet
even if you seem lively and friendly your body language changes the way people perceive you
so what signals should you be sending how do you use body language to make a friendly
and attractive first impression open body language makes you look confident and friendly
it invites others to communicate with you because your body is sending positive signals
open body language describes the position of your arms and legs and the shape of your posture
standing up straight with your shoulders rolled back shows engagement and self-assurance slouching
on the other hand communicates nervousness discomfort and a lack of enthusiasm
so pay attention to the shape and position of your body that way you can use your body language to
your advantage if you open up your body language you can flirt with anyone anytime number two
the right questions here's another easy way to flirt without making the wrong impression
when the two of you start talking go out of your way to ask good questions about their life
this may not sound like flirting but it's a foolproof strategy that shows interest and
builds chemistry but what defines a good question a good question is always open-ended an open-ended
question encourages the other person to give a detailed answer open-ended questions stimulate
the conversation and allows the other person to talk about their life for example you could ask
what was it like growing up in your hometown or why did you decide to pursue your career
both of these open-ended questions engage the other person you're expressing interest
in their life but you're also giving them the opportunity to share stories and feel heard
with open-ended questions like these you can create strong connections with almost anyone
number three attentive engagement if you're going to ask good questions pay attention to the way
they answer otherwise those questions are going to get you nowhere this is a very common mistake many
guys come off desperate and creepy because they bounce from one question to the next after asking
one good question they start thinking of what they're going to say next and they stop listening
to what the other person's saying so instead of flirting this kind of conversation feels
more like a job interview don't worry about what you're going to say next instead concentrate on
what the other person is saying right now listen to their stories laugh at their jokes absorb the
information they're telling you because your goal is to get to know this person you want to connect
with them so you need to pay attention to what they're saying now of course that's not the only
reason listening is so important if you're not a good listener the other person will know right
away they'll feel like you're not paying attention to them they'll feel neglected and their interest
in you will disappear so communicate interest by staying engaged listen with both ears wide open
and don't worry about where the conversation will go next number four like conversation no matter
what you're talking about keep the conversation light there's nothing creepier than a guy who over
shares in the first few minutes flirting is not the right context to share your deepest secrets
if you need to be emotional sit down with a friend or family member don't offload those feelings onto
someone you just met otherwise they're not going to stick around so instead of dwelling on heavy
subject matter keep the conversation fun and lighthearted don't talk about past relationships
don't voice your views on the world talk about things that make you both smile because
that's what makes flirting a fun experience in the end the content of the conversation isn't that
important you don't have to have a life-changing interaction to make a good impression you might
talk about movies for two hours if you two have a great time that's the most important thing
because flirting is about figuring each other out you're learning how the other person talks
laughs and thinks and that's where your chemistry comes from by keeping the conversation light you
give your chemistry a chance to shine five over flirting flirting isn't as complicated as people
think you don't need any elaborate tricks and you don't have to put on some crazy persona
many people especially guys go overboard to get the attention of the someone they like when they
flirt they fall over themselves and they step on their own toes this is what we call over flirting
overflirting is when you show too much interest right away overflirting scares people because
you're giving them too much too fast it makes you look creepy and desperate for attention
and that's not the first impression you want to be making tone yourself down flirting happens slowly
but surely you show interest little by little you give and you take one step at a time until the two
of you begin to understand each other it kind of sounds like a game because in a lot of ways it is
so many people try to win the game on their first move you show all your cards right away
but that strategy blows up in your face take it slow and play your cards one by one if you
can do that you can flirt with anyone without freaking them out number six genuine compliments
there's no perfect way to give someone a compliment but there are obstacles that you
should avoid generic compliments for example are always the wrong way to go don't repeat something
you heard on tv or in a movie and don't use a compliment that you've used dozens of times before
if you want your compliment to mean something you have to be honest tell someone what you
really appreciate about them be genuine and that way your compliment carries emotional weight
if you lie just to butter someone up they'll see right through you they'll know you're playing a
game with them and they'll move on to someone else even if you give a genuine compliment it can sound
incredibly creepy because some subjects are off limits for example don't comment on the specifics
of a person's body the first time you meet them these compliments feel creepy and invasive instead
keep it honest and simple your compliments should communicate interest without going overboard
if you think she looks nice then tell her what you think if her smile is contagious don't be afraid
to let her know these compliments will get your foot in the door without looking like a weirdo
number seven basic confidence pickup lines are a really bad idea you may think your lines are
charming and funny but they're probably not most of the time pickup lines are a dead giveaway that
you aren't her type instead of opening with some cheesy pun open with something easy and
straightforward introduce yourself and then ask her a question that you genuinely want to know
this basic approach communicates comfort and confidence it shows your interest without trying
too hard so get rid of those pickup lines and just be yourself number eight personal presentation
the way you present yourself impacts everything you do the same guy can say the same lines to
the same people but a change in presentation completely transforms the impression he leaves
so if you want to improve your presentation clean yourself up whenever in doubt keep
yourself neat and presentable your clothes for example shouldn't be ripped wrinkled and baggy
your hair shouldn't be overgrown and unkempt to make the best of your presentation wear something
nice that shows off your figure shave or trim your facial hair get a haircut and spend a few extra
minutes on your personal hygiene it may not seem like much but these changes have a huge impact on
your presentation not only do you look cleaner but you actually feel more confident and when
you look like a hundred bucks well you act like a hundred bucks this newfound confidence makes you
more attractive and approachable so polish your presentation and leave that messy look behind you
number nine respecting boundaries flirting comes with its own set of unspoken rules
unfortunately the rules change from person to person everyone has their own thoughts
and preferences and most people don't know what they want until it actually happens so how do
you flirt with someone without crossing any personal boundaries the answer is respect and
a lot of patience when you meet someone new make an effort to identify their rules and boundaries
okay let's look at personal space for example humans designate different amounts of personal
space to different people they need a lot of space from strangers but they only need a little bit of
space from friends and family if you want to be respectful of someone's personal space then give
them some room to breathe you don't have to sit 10 feet apart but you shouldn't make physical contact
from the minute you meet now at this point the two of you are strangers they don't know you
and you don't know them if you jump inside their personal bubble it's going to feel
like an invasion of their personal space as the two of you get more comfortable you can start
crossing those boundaries slowly but surely you'll recognize positive signals and you'll get closer
in a way that's comfortable for you both until then be patient and take it slow hey thank you
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