Ladies and gentlemen of YouTube….
Have you been wondering WHY your ex broke up with you?
Like, what was the REAL reason?
Ah yes, well… that’s a question that almost everyone asks themselves after they’ve been
dumped… it’s only natural.
For a lot of you watching, you probably want to know so that you can FIX those things,
and hopefully get back together… or maybe you’re more in the “seeking closure so
I can move on” mindset.
Either way, in the next few minutes….
Right here in this very video…
I’m going to tell you the REAL answer… the TRUE reason for your breakup that your
ex will NEVER tell you about.
Now I don’t want to be rude here, so before we begin, I should probably introduce myself…
I’m Breakup Brad….
Or if you’re feeling formal, you can call me Brad Browning.
My channel here on YouTube, which currently has just under 300,000 followers and a little
over 30 million views, is the #1 breakup advice resource on the planet.
Speaking of breakups…
I promised to tell you the REAL truth about why your ex broke up with you, and I know
your time is precious, so let’s get started.
First, there’s a couple of crucial facts I need to share with you.
And please stick with me here, because the last of these facts is absolutely critical,
and something most people never even consider…
FACT #1: Your Ex Lied To You, or Hid Part of The Truth.
I’ve been a breakup coach for more than a decade, and I’ve worked with literally
thousands of clients from 131 countries win back their ex or get over a breakup… and
one thing I’ve learned during that time is that exes lie.
In fact, I’d even go so far as to say that this is pretty much universal… your ex is
just NOT going to tell you the full truth about why they decided to break up with you.
Sometimes that means your ex will tell you a half-truth and withhold the full story,
but often it will just be a flat-out lie.
Regardless, it’s safe to say that if your ex DID say anything about their reasoning
behind the breakup, you can’t assume that’s the only reason, or the REAL reason.
I’ve covered this topic in a previous video so I won’t go into detail here, but basically
there’s 2 reasons for this: either your ex wanted to avoid hurting you by telling
you the painful truth (like, for instance, they’re secretly leaving you for your best
friend… or they’re leaving you because you’ve gained 140 pounds in the past 3 months…)
or simply because they just don’t want to get into another big fight or drawn-out, drama-filled
discussion about it.
FACT #2: There’s No ‘Silver Bullet’ That You Can Fix To Make Your Ex Take You
Back.
Look, I think you can probably figure this out on your own, but let me spell it out just
in case: there’s no one thing you can change or fix that will suddenly change your ex’s
mind.
Even if a big reason they dumped you was because of something tangible and easily fixable -- they
hated your friends, for instance, or they’re no longer attracted to you because you gained
20 pounds -- simply making that issue disappear is almost never enough by itself to reverse
a breakup and go back to a happy, loving couple again.
In fact, if you’ve already signed up for my Ex Factor program or you’ve watched the
full video tutorial on my website BreakupBrad.com, then you probably already know that bending
over backwards for your ex is the complete opposite of what you should be doing if you
want them back.
You don’t want your ex to think you’re so desperate and heartbroken that you’re
willing to change for them… and for God’s sake, please do NOT try to tell your ex that
you’ll change and things will be different if they’ll give you another chance.
That will make matters much worse, trust me.
What does this mean for you?
It means that, generally speaking, learning the REAL reasons behind your ex’s decision
to break up won’t really help you much if you want to win them back.
Before I reveal fact #3, now is a good time to tell you about my free quiz tool… if
you want to know whether you’ve still got a chance of getting your ex back, go to BreakupBrad.com/Quiz
after the video and take 5 minutes to complete the quiz.
The quiz will evaluate your answers and give you a detailed analysis of your situation
and your odds of ever winning back your ex.
Again, the URL is BreakupBrad.com/Quiz, so check that out -- for free -- after the video.
Moving on...
FACT #3: Getting “Closure” Is Not Really Going To Make You Feel Any Better
OK, if you’re not that interested in getting your ex back… or if you’ve basically given
up trying… then maybe you just want some “closure” from your ex so that you can
flip the page and start a new chapter in life.
News flash: it ain’t happening.
That closure doesn’t really exist, or at least not in the way you might think.
Sometimes, hashing things out with an ex can maybe make you feel a bit better or help you
learn how to do things differently in future relationships… but generally, the idea of
“getting closure after a breakup” is a myth.
And guess what happens when you sit down and talk things over with your ex?
You start thinking about them again, and that brings up all of those memories and emotions….
If you’re trying to move on or even just push your ex out of our mind to numb the pain,
getting “closure” will quite literally achieve the exact opposite.
OK, there’s one more fact I want to share, and this one is the most important one….
And the one that most people -- including a lot of other so-called “breakup gurus”
-- really fail to understand or appreciate.
FACT #4: Even Your Ex Doesn’t Actually Know The Full Truth.
Yes, you heard me… in most cases, your ex won’t actually really fully know why they
want to break up with you.
Before you write me off as a lunatic here, let me explain, ok?
Humans are emotionally-driven creatures.
You might think you are in control of your feelings and behaviours, but you’re really
driven by a series of chemical and hormonal changes in your brain… these hormones and
neurons firing inside your head are what make you fall in love, feel betrayed, feel happy,
feel heartbroken… it all boils down to chemical reactions inside the brain.
Now, most of the time, that’s irrelevant.
Who cares what the actual mechanism behind your heartache is, right?
It hurts regardless of what’s causing it, which hormones are out of balance, and all
that sciencey crap…
Except, wait a second… think about it… your ex is human, right?
I’m assuming so.
And remember how I mentioned earlier that falling in love is actually the result of
certain hormones in the brain?
Oxytocin is the main hormone, in fact, that’s responsible for feelings of love and affection….
And, back when your ex was crazy in love with you, in the ‘golden phase’ of your relationship…
your ex’s brain was releasing a TON of oxytocin and other similar hormones like dopamine and
serotonin.
And, when your ex started to fall out of love….
When they were no longer attracted to you in the same way as they used to be….
Their brain just wasn’t producing those hormones anymore.
What were the triggers that led to this?
Was it stagnation and boredom, or was it really those 20 pounds you put on after you started
dating?
It’s likely a combination of many factors, and your ex won’t even know the true extent
of the reasons.
Now, if you are trying to get back together with your ex… well, this is the part where
I get to give you some great news…
You now have a fool-proof recipe for making them fall back in love with you!
If you can bring back the oxytocin and trigger those same hormones that led to them falling
for you in the first place, the exact same thing is going to happen again… and there’s
quite literally NOTHING they can do to stop it from happening.
As I said, we’re all at the mercy of our brain chemistry, and nothing on this planet
can stop your ex from feeling in love with you if their brain is flooded with oxytoxin
and all the chemicals that cause us to feel affection and attraction… no rational, logical
reason your ex could think up would ever be enough to overpower their fundamental brain
chemistry.
In other words, it doesn’t matter what their reasons were for the breakup… if you can
stimulate those love hormones like oxytocin, you’ll build real, organic attraction and
your ex will fight to have you by their side, regardless of how many times they’ve told
you “we’re never getting back together”.
Like I said, we’re all at the mercy of our hormones.
Now, this video is already getting way longer than I had planned, so there’s no way I
can get into the details of HOW you actually use this information to help win back your
ex… but, as science-fiction sounding as it might be, there ARE ways to stimulate your
ex’s brain to produce oxytocin, and you CAN use what I’ve just said in this video
to help get a second chance with them.
I’ve gone into more depth and shared some of the simplest tricks and techniques you
can use in the full video on my website, BreakupBrad.com... so please go there and watch that video now
to learn more.
Boys and girls, ladies and gentlemen….
Thank you for sticking with me as I got a little sciencey here in this video, but hopefully
I’ve helped you better understand WHY your ex broke up with you….
It all boils down to hormones and brain chemistry, really, and you shouldn’t put much weight
into what your ex says were the “reasons” for the breakup.
Thanks for watching, thanks for subscribing, and thanks for leaving your questions and
comments below the video….
later!