hi guys changing up the scenery a little
bit today I wanted to talk about my
relationship with working out so this is
not necessarily a this is how I work out
video as much as it is these are my tips
to really starting to love the process
of working out I think where I came from
at the beginning like when I was growing
up is that while I was sports adjacent I
just really wasn't in it for the right
reasons like one time I joined the
tennis team and you know I went to sort
of a smaller school so my tennis team
had like 12 spots open and all 10 of us
who tried out made it yours truly made
the tennis team and my first match
honestly was me approaching the net and
stuff with the ball and whatever and I
honestly was like what do I do I don't
know what I'm doing here and the girl
that I was up against was like have you
even played tennis before and the joke
was on her because I hadn't so that was
sort of my background with working out
and sport and all that was I didn't have
good enough justification for it so I
want to talk through all of that in a
little bit but just wanted to kind of
approach how I originally viewed Fitness
in general and how I've grown to love it
today and so today I want to talk
through my journey to fitness and also 9
tips on how you like me could find
yourself working out and actually loving
it even though you might not consider
yourself an athlete my first tip is to
make it a hobby while I never even used
to consider going to a gym and like
being a rat on a wheel more or less I
used to have a really unhealthy view of
that and now like I have my own fitness
equipment like this is a far far stretch
from anything I ever thought I would
even like to do and how I got there is
by finding workout activities that
really just are fun fun fun
so when Zach and I moved to Virginia
we ended up loving to go trail running
trails were right outside
house we had beautiful like mountain
trails that we could just hop on and it
was like being in sort of a park
environment you're running up and down
like all these inclines which really
helped because I don't know if you've
ever worked out with your significant
other but it's not always it's not
always equal playing fields he's like a
foot taller than me and he's so much
faster than me so by running up and down
hills like it was just more fun it was
it was honestly just a really great time
and so it was something we looked
forward to that just enabled me to have
really good form because you might run
on a treadmill okay but if you're in the
mountains and you're like going up and
down out of fast paced there is just no
way that you can not trip if you have
bad form now I lift up my knees a lot
more like I've got a really good strong
pace and that was not me the first day
so the first day might be incredibly
awkward whatever you want to go and try
to do I know a couple that goes kayaking
down the Cumberland River here in
Tennessee like just find something fun
so that's my first tip is just make it a
hobby find something fun to do that is a
little bit more active and just see how
you feel about it it might be something
you don't do forever but having a really
healthy relationship with just getting
out there and having fun is the goal
that leads me into my next tip which is
to just rip the band-aid off it is going
to feel so awkward to get out there and
try a new activity it might mean that
you're a little bit less prepared than
you otherwise would have been if you
your regular at something like the first
day that we went trail running we were
not ready like now we carry benadryl in
case there's like a bee sting or
whatever
now we're prepared we have the right
shoes the right equipment and day one
you probably are not going to feel that
perfect like you're not gonna have the
right tools and all that so just get
ready for not the perfect workout for
not the perfect experience but just to
get in the habit of a new thing that
you're doing makes running or working
out or whatever it is that you're doing
so much more fun than just like going to
the gym every day like
except your routine my next tip is to
get ready so there might be times where
I'm just working out in my house and if
I just look like a hot mess in the
mirror it's not gonna be quite as
motivating as when you're looking
through like instagram under Fitz bow
and you're able to see like all of these
really inspiring beautiful people and
just to be able to look in the mirror
and you've kind of like worked on your
hair a little bit or maybe you've put on
a little bit more makeup like workout
makeup you know like maybe a little lip
gloss or something in your eyebrows or
or something like that where you just
feel a little bit more confident in what
you're gonna do when you look in the
mirror then say oh I'm just gonna be a
hot mess anyways I'm not gonna bother
that comes through in my workout if I
have been looking the mirror and I feel
just that much more confident that's a
win that means I'm gonna work on my form
better like everything just sort of
falls into place next comes with outfit
so same sort of principle where I want
to find confidence in what I see in the
mirror when you're working out it does
tend to matter if you look in the mirror
especially if you're working out in the
gym and it's a public environment and
you find out that your leggings we're
just a little bit more see-through than
you thought like those moments I mean it
just makes such a difference when you
can invest in your workout gear and so
that's my next tip is to really just
work on your outfit like make it
something that you feel flattering in I
know that when I like before I worked
out really I hadn't invested in the
right shoes or or in the right like tops
and stuff so what would happen is my
workout gear would be maybe a dingy old
t-shirt I had from like five years ago
and maybe some shorts that really didn't
fit me right in the first place and I
just workout in those you know what that
ended up doing is it made me less
confident and it made me less equipped
for whatever I needed to do next
stick to it for 30 days I mean actually
consecutively 30 days and when I've
spoken about this in the past sometimes
I'll get pushback like whoa Bethenny
like it's not actually healthy to
workout for 30 days in a row or a year
in a row or whatever it is that time
line that you want to push for it and
what I would say is yeah I agree but
what I schedule off for that day I put
in the amount of time that I want to
actually block off for every single day
right now I'm doing two hours every
single day Monday through Friday and
then my weekends where I don't really
have as much flexibility I will add like
30 minute blocks for those two days but
I want 30 consecutive days of time where
I blocked off to actually work out and
that doesn't mean that I'm doing
straight-up like hardcore hit classes
and like all of this junk every single
day like some days might be more on the
yoga and stretching side than it is to
hit those like highest points of my
heart rate as I can get it type of
things I want to respect my body and
like what it's telling me I might want
to back off from doing as hard of a
workout as I normally would it because I
want to be able to do it tomorrow you
know I think a really healthy way to
view this my friend's mom used to run
all the time and so I said like how do
you do that like where do you find the
motivation to wake up and just be like
I'm gonna do it again today even though
it's pouring rain outside or whatever
and I want to go and run outside what
she told me was it's just like brushing
your teeth it was part of her day as
much as it was to wake up and brush your
teeth she would wake up put on her
workout gear and just go and run one
mile in a day and that was what she did
and I was like that is game-changing
advice to just be able to be like it's
just part of my routine it's just like
brushing your teeth my next tip is music
so if you're doing something work you
can actually listen to music meanwhile I
think that it's so powerful because even
though I am NOT a qualified dancer at
all it is not as rare for me to dance
while I'm even running on the treadmill
like I love a good beat I love a good
tempo if I can hit my feet to the rhythm
of just some song out there like that is
what gets me going so I am really
particular about like the music genre
and stuff so be sensitive to like what
you really really love like what
you love and then you'll find yourself
pushing just a little bit more than
otherwise my next tip for working out if
you really cannot find the energy to is
to make it a game so that'll push you
through those moments where you just
really don't want to it's this idea in
design that we have called gamification
and that sounds like such a weird nerdy
way to explain this but briefly all it
is is this idea of just not missing a
day this idea of carrying on a street a
lot of people when you when they design
a game to play whether it's like I don't
know Sims or whatever else there's ways
to be able to encourage people to keep
going and that's why I would use any
sort of tool that you have to your
advantage that can either give you a
push notification on your phone to
remind you to go do that thing in 15
minutes that you said you were gonna or
else I would say to even just have like
a printed out calendar where you are
literally giving yourself a gold star
every single day that you workout and
just not breaking the chain is a
beautiful idea on how to encourage
yourself through this idea of making it
a game a lot of you guys asked me for my
workout routine so I'll briefly touch
that here because it has to do more with
gamification than anything else I use a
bunch of apps so it really helps because
of the push notifications and the
reminders and also just to keep track of
all my progress so I use a couple
workout apps one is the sweat app and
that's more for like at home based
workouts and keeping track of which
cardio workouts I've done and then it
also helps me for like ideas on what
sort of circuits to do at home and it
also plugs in with my Apple music so
that really works for me
and then we made a big shift in our
lifestyle when we moved away from our
Virginia trails and now we're in
Nashville and it's not quite like I can
just run out my door into the trails
anymore so Zack and I decided we would
invest in the peloton equipment but you
can just use their app if you don't want
to use the peloton equipment or if you
don't have space for it in your house
like it does take up a good bit of space
but having a workout room has really
helped us and just having encouragement
from the peloton equipment is so good
because you can take live classes and
the instructors like call you out and
that's like so motivating and then it's
also sort of a race because if you want
to actually keep up with the leaderboard
you can and it also plugs in with my
heart rate monitor so keeping track of
that is really good and I'll get to that
in a second but just having equipment
that encourages you has been really good
I also use an app called progress and
that's where I keep track of my
measurements a lot of you guys ask me
for comparisons on like what's my weight
and what's my height I'll gladly tell
you I'm five foot one but I don't even
keep track of my own weight because I
feel like it's just not a good
measurement if you build muscle that's
gonna influence your weight too and it's
not necessarily a bad thing your weight
you know it's weird to sort of compare
yourself on that metric so instead I use
measurements I measure my bicep my waist
my hips my thighs and I do all that
through my progress app so that leads me
to my next point which is to track your
measurements I want to have a really
healthy relationship with how fast I get
my heart rate going during cardio so I
wear a really accurate a little heart
rate monitor I can link you guys to this
if you want to look into something like
that but that helps me not go too hard
and I think that it's easy to do that
with some workouts and it also is very
easy to not really put in very much
effort and then you think that you are
and that sort of it's all just like
mindset right and speaking of mindset
it's also mindset on things that I want
to track I read a really good book I can
link you guys to I can't remember the
name of it right now but it spoke to
fitness and measurements as like one
small chapter of the whole book and I
loved the advice in this which is to
track your measurements more frequently
rather than you know once every six
months because then it's not defeating
right so whatever sort of fitness goals
that you want to track whether that is
taking your measurements or you know how
slow you can get your heart rate
working harder on sort of some sort of
cardio whatever it is you fill in the
blank the more frequently that you track
that the less defeating it will be and I
just feel like it's much more likely
that I if I don't take that advice I'm
tracking like every six months and then
I feel defeated so it's good to be able
to track more frequently and my final
tip which is honestly my top tip is to
have a reason for working out so a lot
of times when I didn't have a good
relationship with fitness at all or like
going to the gym or any of that stuff I
didn't see a why I didn't see a reason
for it and now I've learned that it's
not just about like looking good right
like for some people
case closed that's all it is for fitness
but for me like I just want to be more
agile like I want to be able to move
without things creaking and clicking I
want to be able to just be able to jump
and stuff when I'm like 80 90 years old
like I want to be able to be active so
it's more for my future self than
anything else that I really want to work
out so that's my why that's my reason
and I also want to have fun doing it so
going back to my first tip like make it
a hobby make it something enjoyable make
it something that you look forward to
and that in a nutshell is how I've moved
from being this sort of like non athlete
I'm still not an athlete but I now enjoy
working out I enjoy waking up and
running is now part of my life I love it
I even like biking I think I did a video
last year where I'm like I could never
find myself on a bike and now I love it
I absolutely think it's fun and that's
the goal like I have more of a childlike
relationship with it so if you like this
sort of video give it a thumbs up it's
much different than anything else that
I've put on my channel in quite some
time
and so yeah I just wanted to mix it up
today I wanted to also just get posting
again because took a little break and
that was really lovely but now I'm like
just chomping at the bit to post again
so anyways I will see you guys next time
have a great day
else got me down go on if they ever got
me down gonna lift it up whatever is
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