have you ever heard of the idea that in order to get anywhere with women you
need to communicate with women indirectly rather than directly well
there is a lot to that so in this video I want to give you five great indirect
compliments that women love
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point hit that button okay now before we get into my five indirect compliments
that have sort of crystallized as favorites over the years that I tend to
maybe give a girl I wanted to briefly talk about compliments per se and also
what indirect communication compliments themselves are an interesting thing some
people say you should never give compliments other people say yeah give a
compliment why not and what I found over the years that if you give very obvious
compliments like oh you're so beautiful you can sometimes put yourself in a
situation where you're automatically conditioning the woman to feel that she
is now in a courtship process and that she is the one that's in power and in
charge and it doesn't make a very exciting very often if you give a woman
too many straightforward compliments it will flatter our ego but it will not
make her feel attracted to you on the other hand you shouldn't just stop
yourself completely from saying anything nice about her then you would come
across like somebody that's potentially either not interested in her at all and
that's really actually not very useful either or you just coming across as
somebody who's not very generous or who doesn't really appreciate her so much
what you want this is why I made this video is to be a little bit playful and
indirect about it and by indirect I don't mean pretend lie or anything like
that by indirect I just mean you hinted something you give her the chance to
conclude as a second step that there is something of a compliment in there never
seen a movie where everything seemed very obvious and you knew what was going
to happen the next step and the next step now it's a lot more interesting if
things are being hinted at and you need to figure it out yourself by Clues
you see something in the first scene and then you see it
again it builds suspense and then when you figure it out
you feel a lot more excited about it and you got feel good vibes going around
because you've been smart so you want to give that same feeling to a girl you
want her to figure out that you've just given her a compliment rather than just
hear the compliment so to give you an example here's the first and probably
the one that comes out of my mouth most frequently when I'm talking to girls
just because it just is sets everything up it puts the right relationship in
place and it also is indirectly saying something really good about her and here
it is you're distracting me or you're very distracting you know or you're
distracting me from work so that's if she's actually in front of you or in
your vicinity you can also text this when you see her picture or something
let's say you've just spoken to her and tinder and you've texted once or twice
and you have to go back to work and you just say you're a big distraction you
I've got to work but what does that mean you say when you say somebody's
distracting you it means they have the power to distract you that means you'd
rather spend time with them that means you find them interesting that means you
probably find them attractive yeah if somebody wasn't interesting to you then
they wouldn't have the power to distract you see what I'm saying
here's number two it's another great indirect compliment sometimes I say
something like you know your parents actually didn't screw you up too much
did they yeah so what's the subtext here well actually means you have your shoe
together and I kind of respect you for
that yeah so that's actually pretty nice
compliment to give somebody here's the third in the right compliment that works
really well especially if you're having dinner or you're eating or something
okay you just look around you go you must have a very good metabolism yeah
and that basically means I can see you eating which is nice but I can see you
also fit yeah short description you're fit that's the subtext
and you notice it you notice how she looks here's the fourth indirect
compliment I like to give sometimes you're a bad influence on me you know
that what does that mean that sounds like a put-down doesn't it but it's
actually a compliment and most women figure that out now what does bad mean
here what am I actually saying well I'm saying frankly that she's making me have
sexual thoughts because of how cute and attractive she is and how sexy she is
okay but in this context always means sex
getting dirty you know that kind of thing in a playful way that is exactly
the message she will get all right that doesn't mean I have guilty issues with
sex at all in this context of being a good girl being a bad girl being a bad
boy being a good boy you know in this context bad means sexual thoughts stuff
like that right so this is another one this is when the evening basically
progresses a little bit alright number five is this stop it you're turning me
on okay that is my fifth sort of compliment and
for this you have to be in the right context you have to have flirted with
her already quite a bit and it's it basically is another compliment that is
giving a compliment in terms of her impact on you and that's a great way of
complimenting a girl look how you make me feel notice how you're making me feel
how you're affecting me huh you know I have to say you're doing things to me
that I didn't think a girl could do to me those are compliments that basically
get filtered through your reaction to her and that is really great because it
sets up a great dynamic as it you have power over me at the same time I am free
that I can say that out loud and I don't have an issue with it why you know I'm
happily acknowledging it and I'm being playful with it so obviously this one
means that you know you turning me on you're making me feel like I want to
have sex with you if you ever want to get down to having
sex with a girl at some point it needs to come up in a conversation that topic
should come up otherwise you can't really gauge your reaction to it so
these are five simple examples of indirect compliments that you can give a
girl in the right context they work really well and they happen to come out
of your mouth quite frequently and they set up also the relationship in a really
good way and they do a lot of other things at the same time but the video is
too short to get into all that now if you find this intriguing you don't know
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