- [Narrator] Hey, Psych2Goers,
do you want some subtle tips and tricks
that can make you appear more attractive?
Sometimes the strangest things can draw us to someone,
and there are quite a few habits
that can make someone drawn to you.
Here are five easy habits
that make you instantly more attractive.
Number one, show your androgynous side.
A 1983 study published
in Administrative Science Quarterly found
that those who have a mix of feminine
and masculine qualities were perceived
as more attractive by their test subjects.
The study states the results indicated
that, "Androgynous persons were favorably perceived
on the gender-linked dimensions
of instrumentality and expressivity
and exerts neutral desirable traits."
They were regarded as better adjusted, more likable,
and as having an advantage
in the occupational domain compared
to masculine and feminine persons.
The Encyclopaedia Britannica explains that in psychology,
"Androgyny refers to individuals
with strong personality traits associated with both sexes,
combining toughness and gentleness,
assertiveness and nurturing behavior
as called for by the situation."
So any androgynous traits, features,
or styles can be helpful
when you're out on a date with your crush.
Number two, be around your group of friends at first.
Ever heard of the cheerleader effect?
This is when people perceive others as more attractive
when they're in a group.
A 2013 study published
in the journal Psychological Science tested this theory
and their results supported the cheerleader effect.
The authors state,
"Individual faces will seem more attractive
when presented in a group
because they will appear more similar
to the average group face,
which is more attractive
than group member's individual faces."
We tested this hypothesis in five experiments
in which subjects rated the attractiveness
of faces presented,
either alone or in a group with the same gender.
Our results were consistent with the cheerleader effect.
So if you're at a party, it might be a good idea
to catch your crush's attention first
when you're with your group of friends.
Then, when you're alone, let them know you're approachable
by displaying some open body language, a smile,
and those flirty eyes.
Number three, work on your emotional intelligence.
One habit you can work on, improving your EQ.
Emotional intelligence is all about communicating
and managing your emotions in an effective way.
Emotionally intelligent people
often have an easier time understanding their emotions
and reflecting on them before simply acting on them
out of instinct or habit.
They take a moment before responding strongly
due to a sudden emotion
or feeling during a heated discussion
or intense conversation.
They also reflect on their feelings
in a calm and productive way.
This helps them make healthy decisions
and communicate better
with those around them and themselves.
This can help you appear more confident, less insecure,
and less defensive, which can be very attractive to others.
Make it a habit to reflect more and pause,
and think before you respond or react to your emotions.
It's not only likely to be an attractive quality to others
but can help you in the long run emotionally, anyway.
Number four, listen with the intent
to really understand the other person.
How often do you actually listen
to what the other person is saying
with an intention to understand them?
Are you just waiting for a your turn to speak again?
Certified positive psychology life coach Karen Austin
explained in her Psychology Today article
that research shows
that only about 10% of us listen effectively.
She also explains
that active listening is an essential skill,
and one of the best ways to connect with another person.
The good news is that it's a skill
that can be improved with some effort.
It also bears noting that there's a distinct difference
between hearing and listening.
Hearing is a psychological act.
Listening involves your ability
to unpack the meaning of words and the silence in between.
Think about it.
Would you be more attracted to someone
who understood you and let you speak
or someone who only focused on their points
with no care to understand or respond thoughtfully to yours?
It's not to say that you'd want someone who only listens
and never has an opinion of theirs to say.
Remember, you have to listen to them as well.
Thoughtful and active listening is something
that can be practiced,
a habit that can be formed,
and it's an attractive one at that.
And number five, introduce yourself
and talk to someone new often.
How often do you approach someone who intrigues you?
Do you try to get to know new people at your friend's party
or do you shy away from it?
Having the confidence, and sometimes courage,
to approach someone new is something that is often admired.
The more you break out of your comfort zone
and introduce yourself to new people,
striking up conversations with those you find interesting,
the more you'll get used to it.
Then you may just be a bit more confident
in your approach towards meeting new people.
You may not only make a new friend
in the process of doing so
but also appear more confident and attractive to them
because of your boldness,
as long as they're comfortable
with you continuing to talk to them as well.
Approaching someone and being unafraid
to strike up a new conversation with them
not only makes you appear confident, but with due time,
you may start improving your confidence
and comfortability with new people as well.
So make it a habit to talk to those you want to talk to.
They may just find your confidence admirable or attractive.
So which of these tips will you try?
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