Gentlemen, Antonio here.
All right.
You've asked for this video, so here it is, how to talk to girls.
How to go out there and approach, meet, and just engage with women.
Now, I know many of you guys out there you're single, you're going out there, you're playing
the game, understood.
I was once there and hopefully you can take this information and use it.
I'm going to focus in on body language.
If you want more if you find that, hey, I want to know how to do conversations and I
want all the other additional information, you're going to want to go check out the
Art of Charm, guys.
They have a lot more information than I'm ever going to cover here on my channel.
They're good friends of mine, AJ and Jordan.
I think they've got a great channel.
Go check out the Art of Charm.
In addition, if you want the research and the studies, I'm going to go over in this
body language tutorial referring to how to properly approach women, I've got the seven
steps right over here in the support article.
We have research coming at MIT and a number of other places.
My friend, Kyle, he helped me write this really detailed article.
And, guys, when you go over check out the article, let me know if you're interested
in a body language course.
Before I get into the seven steps, really quick one I'll let you know, the event location
I'm thinking of for the seven steps is a wedding reception.
I know, pretty easy, we're all friends of friends at a wedding reception, people were
in the right mood.
Understand if you're going to be using this at a bar, you're going to be going out to
a nightclub, it's not going to work as well, much going to be much harder.
However, if you're going over to a friend's house for a party, it may actually work very
well.
So, the environment has a huge effect.
So, the first thing you want to look for is how does she enter the room.
Does she come in and go, you know, straight to a table where she knows she's going to
meet up with her friends?
Or, does she stop does she pause and does she look around?
In a sense, does she look over the men, does she what's available and who she would like
to which takes us to part number two, make eye contact with.
Now, eye contact you, guys, probably knew this was going to be in there, but this is
the telltale this is the most common way that women show men that they are interested.
And, guys, you need to be looking for it because what I found very interesting in this step
was how many times we actually miss her trying to connect with us.
Four times on average a woman will try to look at a guy before he actually picks up.
And then, thirteen times the actual contact is made before he gets up and comes over.
Now, you do want to pay attention to eye contact.
Is she actually flirting with many other guys and if that's the case, don't I'm not going
to say don't approach her, but understand that you may not be the only person that she's
sending this message to.
And make sure you're looking around and that you're giving her ample attention so that
you can possibly make those connections after you've had the two to three second gaze preferably
she actually smiles at you, then you have permission to get up and go approach her.
Let's talk now about tip number three, your approach angle.
If you take anything from this never approach a woman from behind and scare her.
This is the worst thing you can do when approaching.
Again, I'll go into a lot more in the article, but they've got this stuff based off studies.
The best way to approach a woman is actually from the side or coming in from the front,
but then move to the side.
What you don't want to do is stand directly in front of her as well, not as bad as approaching
from the back, however if you stand in front of her it comes off as aggressive unless she
has pointed towards you.
So, again, you're talking to her at this point from an angle, that's going to be your best
bet.
Now, that takes us to point number four which is the conversation angle.
So, you're talking to her at an angle.
She's leaning over, she's speaking with you.
What you want to do is have a normal conversation.
Now, guys, like I said I'm not going to talk about conversation in this video, go check
out the Art of Charm, they cover a lot more over there, just great guys, a lot more information
over there.
But, the goal of the conversation is to get her to start facing you, for you now to start
and for her to choose to actually have that face to face interaction.
Now, one thing to watch for are her feet.
If her feet are pointing in a different direction, then her torso is facing, it could be and
that could be portraying her true intentions are she wants to get out of here, so pay attention
to that and give her the opportunity if need be to leave.
Step number five, intimate versus social gazing.
So, social gazing, this is how when you're talking with your friends you're talking with
a girlfriend that you've known for a long time and, you know, you're just platonic there
if such a thing exists.
But, this is where you're looking at someone in the face and you're going down to about
their chin maybe their neck area.
Intimate gazing and this is if we're interested in somebody we're going to look at their face,
but we're also going to gaze down at their chest.
Men and women, and, yes, women also, everyone is sizing each other up.
It's something that we do very quickly almost subliminally, but we do it and if you can
catch it, that is a good indicator.
All right.
So, tip number six, you've got to take this one with a grain of salt because if you remember
my other body language article which I go into right here, I do say you've got to have
a control you've got to have understand what their normal body language is.
But, if this woman starts to preen and she starts to play with her hair, she starts to
lick her lips, she starts to mimic you, you actually realize that she and this is something
unconsciously people do whenever they are enjoying the company of another, whenever
they are wanting to show the person that they like them.
Another thing to look for is actually how is the conversation going.
When she's speaking, is she speaking not only is she speaking more than one word like yes
or no answers, but actually is she speaking normally, she's speaking maybe a little bit
fast and is it coming out smoothly?
MIT research shows that this is actually a great indicator that she likes you.
So, point number seven, let me end this, guys, with talking about intimate space and touching.
So, intimate space, if you put your hands out, anyone enters this space in and around
here, they pretty much entered you intimate space.
For me, it's my wife, my kids, they're allowed to enter this space and I usually, you know,
I'm expecting a hug where I'm going to get close to them.
This, if you enter her intimate space and if she doesn't reciprocate by touching you
or actually if she backs up, that is a bad sign, that's a sign basically you've just
moved a little bit too quickly and you probably need to step back and respect her boundaries.
Now, understand this changes from culture to culture.
Some people may be over in I've been in Hong Kong and people seem to think it's okay to
get up really close to you.
So, if you're in a large city, just, hey, people don't have as much space, but if you're
in let's say the Central US where I'm from, people actually are very careful about not
entering each other's intimate space.
I also alluded to this, but touching.
If she touches you, this is a great sign, guys, especially, you know, if she touches
your elbow, she touches your back, she touches your shoulders, all of these are great indicators.
And why I advocate guys wearing things like cashmere sweaters or something that has texture
like a sports jacket, people want to touch.
Guys, when you break that and she starts touching you even if it's very innocent, research has
shown, guys, this actually is great sign that we feel much closer to people that we have
actually touched.
Now, guys, I'm going to step back from all of these.
I do want to tell you that everything here you don't want to follow this robotically.
If you take these seven steps and you think that you can just apply and it's going to
work like a formula, that's not true.
You have to practice this, make this part of just the way that you're interacting with
people and you know if nothing else, have fun with it.
But, I would love to hear from you, guys.
What do you think I missed?
What would you add and let me know in the comments down below and especially if there's
any ladies out there maybe you can give us some feedback.
But, guys, remember, go check out the article.
The last thing I'm going to say is I want you to go check out a YouTube channel that
teaches you how to dance.
Guys, if you want to meet people and you're really serious about, you know, getting closer
to people, dancing is, I mean think about right there you ask a stranger they expect
to approach them and you ask them a question you take them out on to the dance floor, yeah,
half the time they'll probably say no, but on the other hand, they say yes and guess
what?
You are touching then you really get around a lot of things.
But the channel is Show Her Off and I think you're going to be surprised as to who is
running that channel and how amazing of a dancer this guy is.
I'm not going to ruin the surprise for you, but go check it out.
He's a good friend of mine.
I've gone into towns in which we know absolutely nobody and that night he'll be sending me
pictures because I'm the good married guy staying at home, he'll be sending me pictures
of him with two beautiful ladies on each arm.
And, yes, I just share those stories, but guys, go check out the channel, very cool,
Show Her Off and let me know what you think in the comments down below.