She doesn't respect you man
and that's a problem
that needs to change,
it needs to stop today
because you should not be tolerating
disrespect from the woman you're with
or any woman for that matter.
And so, we're going to be talking about today
why your woman
does not respect you, all right.
So, my name is Stephan Labossiere
I'm a certified life and relationship coach
here to provide
dating and relationship advice.
Today would be relationship advice for men, all right.
And before we get into today's topic
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with a woman who doesn't respect you.
Now listen, when I say...
I just want to make it clear from the jump.
When I say you do not
or you should not be tolerating
any woman's disrespect
please don't take that to mean
getting abusive, physical,
or disrespectful with a woman.
I'm never going to encourage that.
I'm never going to tell you guys
to behave in a toxic manner
to counteract
a woman being disrespectful to you,
but what I want you to understand is that
you as a man will
not receive or will not experience
a happy healthy relationship
without the dynamic
of that woman respecting you.
And there's various reasons we can discuss
as to why she doesn't respect you,
but let me start with this.
Number one, you're a yes man.
You say yes to everything she wants.
Now, I'm sure some of you have heard the saying
happy wife happy life.
And listen, I'm not going to necessarily say
that's a bad say.
I am going to say it's a misinterpreted
theory or misinterpreted belief, all right.
I do believe in making sure your woman is happy,
but I don't believe
in compromising your true desires
your beliefs your values
what you find acceptable
in order to appease her and make her happy.
When you now start to diminish yourself
to now allow her
to be happier with the outcome
we have a problem because in doing that
you start to chip away at your masculine energy.
You start to now become a shell of yourself
you now start to lose respect in her eyes
because she knows she can run all over you.
She knows she can manipulate and control you
at any time.
You've got to learn how to say no.
Now again, we always do this
in a respectful manner,
but no still has to be said.
No, still has to be shown
with your actions,
you still have to draw a line
that says I am not going to accept
anything past this line, all right.
And so, you got to be true to yourself
and know who you are as a man
to recognize what is valuable to you
or what your values truly are
so that you understand when she is crossing them.
When she is behaving in an unhealthy manner,
when she's asking you to do things
that you are very uncomfortable with.
Now again, there are going to be sacrifices
and adjustments in relationships,
but are you losing yourself in the process?
You've got to be able to stand strong in who you are,
but again, you have to know who you are
in order to achieve that,
which brings me to number two.
She doesn't respect you
because you don't respect yourself,
you don't know who you are.
You don't value yourself.
You don't have high self-worth
and so you may have this mentality of
I'm just lucky to have this woman
and I'm going to do everything in my power
to hold on to her.
But in you trying so hard
to hold on to her you're going to lose her.
Even if she does not
walk out of that relationship so to speak,
she is going to step out of it
with another man.
I hate to paint such a negative picture,
but I'm here to tell you as a man
when you don't respect yourself,
when she can sense that low self-esteem
at some point down the line
if she stays with you
there's a very good chance she will cheat on you.
Because that lack of self-worth
becomes unattractive.
That lack of self-worth
diminishes your masculine energy
and you're going to notice that as a constant theme
when I speak to you.
That masculine energy is extremely important
you cannot sacrifice
or you cannot compromise that in your relationship
not in a way that
takes you so far away from it.
So again, you've got to respect you
if you want her to respect you.
And you've got to get to a place where
your fear of losing her
doesn't cause you to lose herself.
So, I'm going to make that number three on this list.
You cannot be afraid to lose her
more than you're afraid to lose yourself.
Listen, you should honor your woman,
you should cherish her, you should treat her like a queen,
I believe in all of those things.
But if she thinks
she can do whatever she wants
and you will tolerate it
you lost, relationship done.
You might as well walk away now
because you're headed down a horrible path.
You have to establish
an understanding of
I'm going to do my part as a man.
I'm going to honor you as my partner,
but if you cannot honor me in return
I have no problem
with walking away from this relationship.
Not because I don't love you
but because I love myself to know
that I'm not going to tolerate that unhealthy behavior.
I'm not going to tolerate a toxic relationship.
I'm not going to tolerate
a woman expecting me to diminish myself
and lose myself
in fear of losing her, no.
You both should have an understanding that
you have to both do your parts
in having this relationship.
Now, granted we're going to have our moments,
we're going to sometimes slip off,
she's going to have her days
where maybe she's off track.
So, I'm not saying leave at the drop of a dime.
What I am saying is
if you've taken
all the necessary steps to rectify the issue
and nothing is working
you cannot be afraid to walk away.
You cannot be afraid to lose her
and if she cannot respect that,
then chances are she's not the one for you
or she is not at a healthy enough place
to have a successful relationship with you.
And understanding that
will help you to maintain
what story I'm looking for...
Just not again, not lose yourself
in this situation, all right.
Number four reason why she does not respect you
is because you have not laid out
a vision and plan in your life.
And so, what that really speaks
to be honest with you is
you finding your purpose.
And you know what, even if you haven't found your purpose
if you can show a woman that
you know where you're trying to go in life
and you're willing to put in the work
that you have that vision and plan,
she will still respect you.
So, there's an argument to be made
that even outside of purpose
she can respect you if those things are there,
but if you want to ensure
that those things are in place,
find your purpose.
Your purpose needs to be your priority
it needs to be the thing that you focus on
whether you are single right now
or currently in a relationship with a woman.
Your world can't just be her, all right.
Your world can't be just trying to please her.
Your world has to be
finding your way in life, your purpose,
and in doing that
she will respect you more.
There is a great book by
David Dieda I believe is his name,
The Way of The Superior Man.
And it talks about
to never put your woman over your purpose
and how when you do that
you think you're making her happy,
you think you're doing the relationship a favor,
but in actuality you're losing her attraction,
you're losing her respect.
You're diminishing the relationship
because you showed her
that you don't stick to your plan and your vision.
That you don't have the focus
to do what you're supposed to do
if you cannot stick to your own purpose
how can she rely on you
to be the man you need to be?
So, you cannot lose sight of that.
So, focus on finding yourself,
finding your purpose,
and putting those things into place.
But to simply wrap this whole thing up
listen, again,
you've got to establish
healthy boundaries in your relationships.
You've got to be able to show that
you can lead by example
with how we're going to communicate,
how we're going to better handle these situations.
As a man, you have to learn how to
be a master over your emotions.
When you're an overly emotional man
who has no uhh...
No...
Lost any kind of poise,
any kind of ability
to manage yourself properly in those moments
that becomes unattractive.
Again, it doesn't mean don't express yourself
you should, it's healthy.
It doesn't mean
don't allow yourself
to have a vulnerable moment.
If that happens let it happen,
but don't just always
lose control emotionally, all right.
Be able to take a step back
process, lead,
communicate,
do the things that will foster
a healthy relationship.
Do the things that show her that
unhealthy toxic behaviors
will not be tolerated in this relationship.
And when you do these things
you will grow
or you will earn more of her respect
and you will be able to have a greater
healthier successful relationship.
Now, I'm sure there's a lot more
other things that we can talk about,
but I just want to give you a quick message
on this topic of why she doesn't respect you
and the things that you can focus on
to change that, all right.
But I'm going to add one more thing,
she doesn't respect you
because she's not the one for you.
So, here's the thing listen,
sometimes you are the man you need to be.
Sometimes you're doing a lot of things right,
but what you are missing is the fact that
she's not it,
she does not belong in your life,
she does not fit in your life,
she's not the one
to walk the path with you.
And you've got to be able to accept that,
you got to understand the difference between
what you want and what you need.
And there's a lot of women you may want,
but you don't need them.
They're not good for you
and they're not going to be the one
that you can have success with in the long term.
So, recognize
when there's no connection there,
when your desire for her
is based on superficial things
or you getting caught up in the hype,
but you got to feel connection.
You got to feel peace with this woman,
you got to feel the ability
to be able to talk to this woman.
If that's not there,
she's not the one for you
and if she's not the one for you
then you can almost bet
that respect at some point
is going to go away in that relationship.
So, again, that's it for real this time
wrapping it up here.
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