have you ever felt heavy and you try to get out of that state and maybe you've
been trying to cheer yourself up by going out with friends or maybe you're
more the introvert type that wants to just lock themselves away for a while
and just be in their own space and maybe you found that doesn't work in the
long term as well because you just get heavier or when you're out and about
with your friends sometimes it feels like you're there with them but you're
not really there well if you've ever felt like this just to let you know I
feel like that every time I come back from Thailand or any other warm country
where the people are nice where everybody's friendly the food is great
the weather is great and then I come back to very cold London where
everybody's a little bit more rushed and a bit more cold overall on average and
it's just a little bit of a shock to the system for me so in this video I'm going
to share with you what I did and what I believe for anybody is the easiest way
to get yourself back into a state when you want to live when you are excited to
be among people when you want to achieve things when you feel great about
yourself and people around you and it's all about negative and positive
self-talk
see the one thing that you have in common with everybody else that ever
felt heavy or tired or exhausted or frustrated with things is negative
self-talk and by negative I mean self-talk that you are not proud of and
by self-talk I mean what you say in your mind that you don't even say out loud to
anybody I don't even mean that you're shouting at people but I just mean the
thoughts that are running through your mind and that can happen when you by
yourself doing why is this not happening blah blah and this can happen when
you're out and about and that can be like wow what's this guy doing why is he
cutting me off that's all negative self-talk it could be talked to
yourself or talk in your head but it could be about other people it could be
about life it could be about yourself any talk in your mind that you're not
proud of that's what I would say is negative self-talk so how do you turn
that around and what happens when you turn that around what happens is he
start to feel amazing again you start to feel like you on top of the world and
your light lights that's exactly what I noticed this week because I've been
doing this for the last three or four days really consciously all day when I'm
by myself or when I'm around people I watched my thinking and in the first day
on Monday we never had a negative thought about somebody like get out of
the way like casual negativity as I call it I stopped myself straightaway I did
an instant reframe and I just did my thinking so that I'm proud of my
thinking again let's say I'm on a train somebody was bit slow and getting off
the train I wanted to get past why is he taking so long yeah that's a negative
thought that's kind of an aggressive thought straightaway I stopped myself I
noticed what was going on and I said to myself stop it don't be silly
he's just getting off it's his right to walk at his own speed so don't be silly
okay I was interrupting my pattern and I was sort of gently making fun of myself
basically and coming back to a state where I'm proud
of how I'm thinking that's the whole process now the funny thing is when you
start doing that for a while you notice even more when something weird sneaks in
that isn't like you really that's just silly that's just drama that's playing
out in your head and it's even easier to stop it and you also notice that all of
a sudden like that heaviness just lifts off you you start to feel light and
that's probably the most important thing that tells me that I'm doing right I
feel light I feel excited and you also become some mildly oblivious to other
people it's like you don't notice the stuff anymore that used to annoy you
that you used to get hung up on when people do this or that thing that you
don't like that in your world is not the right thing to do like nothing can hurt
you nothing can harm you so here's the process you know just a negative thought
you stop yourself and you instantly reframe with something that could
involve laughing at yourself and getting a grip on yourself and basically
readjusting in a way that you're proud of that's it if you want to get control
over your mind get into an amazing state and double your confidence in the
process then go to my website to the 6vw confidence challenge a lot of people
have been signing up recently the best thing is it's got a free trial for seven
days the first week is all about how you get control and influence over your
thinking with one of my favorite techniques of doing that I catch you
guys later
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