I'm a little, um, worried about what could come from this video, but in the interest
of affirming the experiences of other women, I felt like it was important for me to use
my platform to talk about this, regardless of how many people see it or don't see it.
I just want for people to know that this happened and that, um, the women who've experienced
things at the hands of this man are not alone.
So I want to start out by saying that I have a lot of really complicated feelings around this.
I am a survivor of sexual violence.
I've been raped and assaulted several times in my life.
And there are a lot of experiences that I've had that I have not always interpreted as
assault, but when you put them out on paper, they are, that is exactly what they are.
And while I do not hold my experience with Ron Jeremy in my head as a thing that was
traumatic and upsetting, it was something that happened and it was wrong and it was
messed up.
So I guess we'll start from the very beginning.
I was a teenager who really liked reality TV.
And one of my favorite shows on VH1 was the show called the surreal life.
And Ron Jeremy was in that cast.
I felt that Ron Jeremy as a really interesting character because he was a porn star.
I'd never heard of him before this, but he was a porn star and he was funny.
He was hilarious.
He was just was a fun guy to be around, you know, and yeah, he has a porn past and yeah,
maybe he's a little perverted, but that's not all of who he is.
Right.
So, you know, regular viewers of my channel know that I'm part of the alternative community
out here.
I like to go to a lot of really interesting, fun places where there are a lot of people
doing interesting, fun things.
And one of my big focuses when I moved to LA was finding a place where they did live
music.
I wanted to just make live music and supporting local bands and supporting, you know, bands
in general, part of my sort of LA tradition.
So I found this bar, I'm not going to mention the name of the bar because the bar is currently
struggling as a lot of bars are, but I found this bar and they do regular jam sessions.
And there are bands that play there constantly.
And I'm usually kind of in the area when I was first living in LA, I was living in Crenshaw.
Now I live in Hollywood.
So it's really, really close to where I live.
And so I would go there pretty often.
I was, you know, somewhat of a regular, I wouldn't say it was quite a regular, but I
was somewhat of a regular, my first night going to this bar I saw as I was walking into
this bar, Ron Jeremy.
And let me tell you, the Ron Jeremy from the Surreal Life is a little different from the
Ron Jeremy today.
Ron Jeremy, physically, is this very sort of frail, I guess you could say, man, he's
definitely a lot older than he was in the surreal life.
And he just sort of seems like a grandpa.
You know, he just kind of seems like that sort of grandpa, that's got a lot of stories
and he's largely harmless, right?
I saw him, but didn't want to do the fan girl thing.
Some of you guys know that I personally hate when people do the fan girl thing with me.
And so I didn't want to do that with him.
There was a band playing upstairs.
So I went and listened to the band and had a good old time.
So by the end of the night, I was drunk.
I was pretty drunk.
The way that this bar kind of works is they close the upstairs earlier upstairs is where
all the music stuff happens and everyone kind of goes out to the patio and it's kind of
this big sort of thing for a good hour or so.
And then everyone leaves.
Now I am the kind of person who I stayed at the very, very bitter end, the bitter bitter,
bitter, bitter bitter end.
And if I'm remembering correctly, I was sort of having conversations with people.
I was connecting with people, you know, I was doing my sort of, you know, friendly LA thing, I guess you could say.
The night was ending,
I had had quite a few drinks and I was standing on the patio waiting for my Uber and Ron Jeremy
was on the patio as well.
We were literally the only two people at the patio, right?
And so Ron Jeremy starts to have a conversation with me.
And he mentioned to me that he had seen me walking in, he introduced himself.
Now this was a moment where I thought, because he introduced himself that I could sort of
express, Hey, you know, I used to watch you on surreal life,
I think you're really, really awesome or whatever.
And I was kind of having my little fan girl moment, I guess you could say.
And so I go to hug Ron Jeremy, you know, we're having a conversation introducing ourselves.
I'm a very friendly person.
I'm a hugger.
I decided to hug Ron Jeremy, as I'm hugging Ron Jeremy, he grabs my hand and puts it
down onto his penis...
Which is fully erect...
Now, before we get further into this video, I want to say this, I have my experience.
And I hope that what I'm about to say about the experience doesn't negate, the other experiences
other women have had, because I'm not saying any of this to make light of it or to make
it seem like it wasn't a violation because it was
to be honest with you guys, I'm just going to say this.
I was trying to speak around this when going to say it, I'm very used to men groping me.
I'm very used to men assaulting me.
And there's a part of me that is very quick to laugh it off.
It's very quick to dismiss.
It is very quick to like, okay, whatever.
This was a situation where that happened.
And I had a response that I think, I guess, reflected that.
So he's kind of really aggressively holding my hand on his penis.
And he says to me, do you want to see a magic trick?
And that's a very strange thing to say when you've got your hand on somebody's penis.
So I was like, okay, sure.
And he says, Ronnie, go down.
And his penis deflates, he has one of those surgeries that men who have erectile dysfunction
get when they cannot maintain an erection and they need to sort of have extra help getting
them there.
So after that, I'm like laughing about it or whatever.
And he's, you know, touching me and things in mind, you I'm very drunk when he's, when
this is happening.
I'm very, very drunk and it's clearly inappropriate.
But again, in the back of my mind, I'm thinking of this, this Ron, Jeremy, you know, and again,
even though this is wrong, he's an old man.
You know, he's kind of this old horny dude who, yes, this is inappropriate, but I feel
like we all have people like that in our life.
Or like he's inappropriate.
He's from a different time, you make all these excuses for them.
So after that point, he tries to finger me and I'm kind of like, ah, you know, and I
think that's what I really started to kind of register it as like, not fully.
Okay.
Because I just introduced myself to you.
You've put my hand on your penis already and now you're trying to finger me also.
We are in public.
Yes.
There's nobody on the patio right now, but we're in public as kinky, as I am.
I don't really want to get fingered in the front of the bar that I frequent.
Right.
Um, and also I'm transgender.
He's, he's, he's putting his fingers right on, you know, onto my genitalia and I'm pushing
him away.
And I'm, I'm, you know, explaining, trying to explain to him that I'm transgender.
And he doesn't really believe me, which is very, very common as he was doubting that
I was transgender.
He started to like, feel the front of my genitals.
And he was like, no, this feels like the so and so, and the such and such time.
And he was naming off like very specific parts of the vagina, the vulva, et cetera.
He was basically saying, you're lying to me.
It's like, no, no, it's not.
No I'm yes.
I'm trans.
So to be honest with you guys, Ron was actually really chill about me being trans.
He was like, Oh, okay.
You know, he like complimented me, said that it was beautiful, dah dah dah dah
and slowly but surely started, like backing away from me and left me alone.
Right? Now, there are some people who will hear this story and say, well, good thing.
You're trans because that's the thing that saved you.
But the crazy thing is, is I had so many experiences with Ron Jeremy after that experience.
And he never remembered who I was
After my first experience at the bar, I started
frequenting the bar.
It was going all the time.
I loved going for the jam nights.
I loved going for the live bands.
Um, I go to this event all the time.
It's really close to that area.
So I would go after that event all the time.
And Ron Jeremy was always there.
I think that of the times I've been to this particular bar, Ron Jeremy is probably not
been there like twice.
Like he's always the bar and he's usually standing pretty much in front of the bar.
I keep seeing him and it does become this sort of thing where I go to the bar.
I see Ron Jeremy, I say, hi, hello, whatever he does, his little perverted thing.
And I dodge it and we just sort of accepted it's Ron,
That's Ron
That's what Ron does, you know?
And you would see as sort of the men, because I've never saw a woman do this.
Kind of like brush it off all the time.
Well, that's just Ron,
He's just a little pervert dah dah dah dah, you know, and it was just kind of the way that things
were. Ron just sort of did that there.
That was just kind of what it was.
And so a lot of the times I, when I would be there and he would try to start a conversation with
me, um, you know, I would just kind of like, you know, be polite and be nice, but like
I would, I knew that he was probably going to try to grope me and I didn't want that
to happen.
And so I would often just kind of like dodge around it, right?
So fast forward, there was this one night where I was at this bar and I started talking
to this guy and he started buying me drinks.
And he was in this big group of Hollywood people.
And Ron was part of that group.
We all went to this sort of house party afterwards.
There is this backroom where everyone was this guy, this guy, this guy who who's part
of this was as a whole other story that I've actually told before.
I've actually talked about this on Twitter.
Which I'll get to later.
This guy was like showing off his wealth, basically.
That night I was wearing this corset, which if you've ever worn a corset, especially
one that's good for you, pushes your boobs up.
You know, my boobs were all the way up here.
And, um, I had like walked off to go to the bathroom.
I was coming back and, and Ron was laying on the couch.
Ron has, um, I believe it's like narcolepsy.
He falls asleep all the time randomly.
Um, and he had like been on the couch and was just waking up from one of his naps as
I was going back to the group.
And he, without even really talking to me, puts his fingers into my dress.
I was wearing this like pink velvet dress, i've worn it on here before, with my corset
and he like put his fingers like into my dress and grabbed my nipple.
Like it was nothing, I told so many people in the story when it happened.
It was a story that I told with the subtext of laughter, because I thought that it was
just such a funny, quirky experience in LA, but I had to have several people point out
to me that that was kinda messed up for me to really be like, Oh yeah, I guess it was
messed up for him to do that.
It was a weird experience that I thought was kind of hilarious.
I thought it was just kind of this funny weirdo experience that I had with this strange man
in LA.
Um, but a lot of people telling me that Ron, Jeremy has a pattern of doing this.
This is kind of his M.O.
This is sort of what he does.
And I didn't know that there had been so many accusations against him.
I didn't know that he was banned from AVN.
I didn't know any of this stuff.
And when I shared it today on my Twitter, there were a lot of women who came forward
to say that they had literally the same exact experience with him.
In fact, there was a porn star who came forward and said, Hey, he literally did the same exact
thing to me.
Ron Jeremy has been accused several times of assaulting sex workers.
And unfortunately the way that a lot of this shit works in society is if a porn star comes
out and accuses Ron, Jeremy of assault, the reaction from the general public is, well,
what the fuck did you expect?
You know, I am not a porn star.
I'm not a sex worker.
When I talked about it on my Twitter, I had this just torrent of men telling me that it
never happened that I made it up, that I'm looking for attention, all of this shit.
Right.
I even had men say, okay, but aren't you a porn star?
I even had a guy say, well, okay, but you're taking pictures with your tits out.
So dot, dot, dot as though any of this, any of this makes him grabbing my hand and putting
on his penis.
Okay.
It doesn't.
But the thing is, is I think this is habitual for Ron Jeremy.
And I think he specifically goes after the kind of women who probably aren't going to
be seen as sympathetic victims.
There are so many porn actresses who have called him out.
I mean, there are a lot of women who have told stories of, of him putting his hands
underneath their dresses and actually inserting a finger inside of them, knowing that he tried
to finger me so quickly and so easily without knowing me very well.
I believe it, I believe it.
And we can't all have the same story.
You know, we can't all have the same experience.
There's, there's a there's footage of him assaulting women.
There's footage of it.
I'm not going to share it in this video, but there's footage of it.
I will, I will link, um, a video by this woman named ginger, who did this video years ago,
talking about it.
I'm not having this conversation for attention or anything like that.
I'm literally talking about this because I want to affirm the experiences of other women,
because here's the thing while I might've laughed it off.
Would I ever tell one of my girlfriends to hang out around Ron Jeremy alone?
Never. Never, never, because I understand that what he did was wrong.
I understand that him grabbing my hand and putting it on his penis is a violation.
A of people ask me why I didn't talk about this sooner.
Why I didn't call this out earlier.
First of all, I have talked about this before.
I did talk about it in a really vague way on Twitter.
When it happened, my personal friends have seen me post about it on Facebook.
What had happened, cause I've had so many run ins with Ron Jeremy.
And it's literally just because for me, it was a blip on a long list of blips that I've
had when it came to men, groping me.
I've been groped so much in my life, especially just existing as a young woman, who's sex
positive and the alternative community.
It's like, it just happens all the time.
And I really feel like I would really lose my mind calling it up every single time it
happened, but I want to reaffirm that it happened because I know that there are people right
now who are dealing with all of these people, men usually saying, Oh, it never happened.
He would never do this.
But when I saw today that he was being charged with rape and sexual assault, I felt like
it was important for me to share this because even though I don't look at my experiences
with Ron Jeremy and say that he traumatized me or anything close to that, and I definitely
brushed it off and dismissed it.
I intellectually understand that what he did was a violation.
I understand that there's really no scenario where I should just accept this man groping
me.
I think that a lot of people and I'm guilty of this sort of dismissed a lot of it because,
well, that's Ron, Jeremy, first of all, he's a star.
Second of all, he's an old ass man.
He's an old, he's an old, old, old, old, old ass man.
And I think we do that in general.
You know, when your grandpa says something racist, you're just like, okay, grandpa, like
you're just being racist or whatever.
He's from a different time.
This is like a popular phrase.
He's from a different time.
You know, I don't think there's literally ever been a time where it was okay to grab
a woman's hand and put it on your penis.
I don't think that's ever been okay.
A woman doesn't deserve for a random man that just insert himself inside of her.
It's it's, that's not okay.
And we shouldn't be enabling it.
I think the thing that's so wild to me about this is that everyone knew about it.
Like everyone knew that this is what Ron Jeremy did in this bar specifically.
And the thing is I talked to a lot of women who said that they had the same experience
with Ron Jeremy and they also laughed it off.
Like it wasn't a big deal.
It, it, it does really make me sad to know that he went so much further with other women
and assaulted other women so much further.
It it's genuinely a really upsetting thought.
And I feel really bad that maybe my own reaction to how he treated me, how he handled me, might've
fed into this sort of idea that what he did, wasn't very harmful what he did.
Wasn't a very big deal.
It wasn't worth making a big stink over.
There's no way that I could know that he, you know, grabbed my hand and put it on his
dick and not believe that he assaulted and raped other women.
I can't, I can't look at that.
Even if it wasn't a bad experience for me, I can't look at that and, and not, uh, not
see it as a violation and, and not believe that he also violated other women.
I can't, it would be so silly of me to act like that.
Wasn't the case.
So in closing, if you are a woman who has been assaulted by Ron Jeremy, I just want
to say, I believe you, I believe you I've been through it as well, and you are not alone.
I really hope that anything I've said in this video hasn't made it feel like your experience
was not as serious or not as severe.
There's really no logic that supports the idea that it's completely okay for a man who
you don't know, who you've never spoken to, who may or may not be famous to just grab
your hand and put it on his junk.
It's just, that's not okay.
It's not okay.
It's all I had to say.
And hopefully his victims will see justice.
I'm here to say that he did it.
I believe them 100%.
I believe that he's guilty.