do you suffer from low self-worth low self-esteem low self-confidence do you
suffer from self-doubt I've been there I've experienced this for a greater part
of my life you wouldn't believe how many people actually suffer from this even
top CEOs I know because some of them are my clients you want to feel empowered
every single day of your life and every single thing that you do keep watching
hey this is Damon Cart from Life Mastery Gym empowering people all over the world
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Budapest Hungary across Romania and now to Bucharest where I find myself now
you're probably wondering what it is that I could possibly tell you that
would make a difference in overcoming self-worth issues and feeling empowered
because you've probably tried affirmations you've probably even tried
confidence programs perhaps even coaches and nothing has worked and so you're
thinking what could he do what could he say that could change this and that's
why I wanted to make this video I wanted to reveal to you why most of those
things don't work why that is and what you can do to change it so that you do
feel empowered every day of your life and then whatever it is that you do is
I'm really surprised that a lot of people a lot more people aren't talking
about this and not hearing or seeing a whole lot of it so I'll come right out
and say it and that is this idea of self-worth is just not real it's a false
concept or I can just say it's a concept concepts aren't real they're facts and
then there's concepts and self-worth is a concept it's it's an it's a a created
belief it's a limitation that we created in our minds in order to get to where
you want to go it's really important to know where you are
because that's where we're starting so you want to be you want to feel
empowered so it's likely you're feeling a lack of self-worth
and so if we know that then we look at its opposite so where do we want to go
and you might be thinking well I want to increase my feeling of my sense of
self-worth and I would say that that's actually the problem self-worth is not
even real so the more you try to increase your sense of self-worth the
more you create its opposite which is self-doubt lack of self-worth lack of
self-esteem low confidence it really comes down to three basic steps step one
is to realize that there is no such thing as self-worth step two is to
explore yourself without this concept of self-worth so who are you when you're
not locked into this limitation this concept is polarity of self-worth and
step three is commit to who it is you want to become now unfortunately the
steps that I listed one two three don't always go in that order because most
people have a hard time with the first step which is to overcome this idea or
to let go this idea of self-worth so what I found works easier for a lot of
people is to work on who they want to become first just get a vision of that
vision is really important it's the direction you want to go if you were to
imagine your ideal self that you're empowered self the you who has already
overcome this idea of self-worth you don't even believe it anymore you're not
trying to increase your self-worth you're you're already where you want to
be so when you let go of that idea when you're not locked into that concept you
naturally feel empowered you're naturally authentic so let go of that
and make an image of yourself as if you've already resolved this this is the
ideal you who you already solved all this who's empowered and you want to
imagine yourself not doing any particular behavior and not in any
particular context and the reason for that is you want this to generalize as
widely as possible and if you are imagining your ideal self doing a
particular behavior that you want to be good at that's normal
then you might only feel empowered when you're doing that behavior or if you
imagine in a particular context like at work you may only feel empowered
work you want to feel empowered everywhere all the time no matter what
it is you're doing so imagine the ideal you and there's just something about
this image of yourself right out in front of you that lets you know you've
already resolved this the ideal you who is beyond any problems that you might be
experiencing in the present next we go to strategy which brings us back to the
first step step one which is to let go of this idea of self-worth at all okay
so this is our strategy for getting to that ideal you who you want to become so
when you let go of this idea of self-worth at all what you will
understand is you're basically pulling the plug on this concept which has been
creating a lot of suffering and what we normally do is we feel this low
self-worth so we think well I got to go build up the self-worth I could have a
build up my confidence and a lot of times we'll use things like affirmations
which often don't work and actually create more of the problem so instead of
trying to build up your self-worth you want to let go of this idea entirely now
in letting it go the thing that will help you let it go is understanding that
you're feeding this sense this polarity you're feeding this limitation if I can
build up my self-worth then I can also lose it and so then you drop into the
the depths of lack of self-worth so understand that anytime that you're
trying to move toward greater self-worth you're actually increasing the suffering
you're increasing the possibility of then crashing and falling into low
self-worth feelings so let's take it even further - because I really want you
to get this understanding down when you really get this understanding down
everything will change you will naturally feel more empowered think
about animals we never look at our pets and think to ourselves hmm
did they earn my love today did they earn my attention did they earn their
food no we just give love and attention and food to animals and animals don't
question their self-worth now we can learn a lot from this they just go about
life feeling like well if they don't even question whether or not they
deserve the attention the love and the food that you give them they just
receive it or they even you know I know dogs and cats will go will seek
attention now we feel a lot of times that oh I must earn this or
deserve this somehow and you might say okay well that's fine Damon the animals
are animals and humans are different you know we we have to earn our way around
here yeah sure we have to earn our way we have to earn a living but that says
nothing about our self-worth so think about it like this would you look at a
newborn baby and then say mmm I don't know if that baby has deserved love
attention and food I'd be crazy so we would never apply this self-worth
concept to a newborn baby but somewhere along the way as we were growing up we
decided to apply that to ourselves maybe somebody said something to us a
lot of times it comes from an authority figure like a parent or a teacher and
said something to us that created this idea in our minds that somehow we have
to earn our earn loved earn attention and then we started questioning our
value our worth as a person so it's somewhere along the way that newborn
which you were at one time got to a point where you started to apply this
idea about Worth and value to yourself never mind if other people do it that's
their business that's none of your business people might do that to you
they might not but what's the most important thing is are you doing this to
yourself and if you're watching this video and you probably are I don't know
many people who haven't suffered from self-worth issues at some point
understand that at some point in your life you made this choice to start
judging yourself start judging your own value judging your own worth now here's
the thing there is no way you can judge your own value and your own worth
there's no way anyone can objectively judge your Worth or your value it's
impossible how would you do that to yourself
you cannot look back at yourself and say okay on the scale or a judge somehow I
can objectively judge that I'm of high self worth or I'm of low self worth I'm
of high value or low value it's impossible and if someone else tries to
do it to you know then that's impossible and like I said
they might but no one is qualified to do that there is no objective measurement
or scale to do that so it's always purely subjective
some people may judge it really high some people might judge it really low
depending on how you're feeling you might judge it really high or judge it
really low but your value couldn't possibly be jumping and dropping that
fast so hopefully by now you see the absurdity of this there is no way you or
anyone else can judge your self-worth step two is probably my favorite part
which is discovering who you are without this limitation or this idea of judging
yourself worth so what if you just even if you're still not quite to that
understanding that maybe you're you're like yeah diamond I get this
intellectually what you're saying but I still feel it that's fine sometimes it
takes a little while for this understanding to set in but in the
meantime what you can do is you can ask yourself what would it be like if I had
no concept of a self worth out of cotton you know you have a concept of yourself
but remove the the value in the worth part of it then who are you without that
this gets really exciting because this is where you get to really discover
yourself where you want to go now when you allow yourself to step outside of
that polarity that the limiting concept of self worth is what do you want
what are your desires because your desires are really your essence so allow
yourself to explore what it is you want when you're not confining yourself to
this self worth concept who are you without that what do you desire what do
you want get clear about this and it's not the only step though the next step
is to start taking actions that go with those desires so you desire something
you know what it is you want as far as you can tell in your mind and then you
take an action toward it you go you move toward it or you go get it and then at
that point you can reassess do I want this and what more do I want because
you're always gonna want more and that's not necessarily a bad thing
one more is good as long as you don't get caught up in trying to and this idea
that if then everything that you get has to absolutely fulfill you and satisfy
you it's more about the process it's the process of discovering your desires
which is discovering yourself and taking action
on these desires which then further the process of self-discovery and this is
the really exciting stuff because that whole process is a continuous ongoing
never-ending process of discovering yourself and it's extremely rewarding
and extremely fulfilling especially when you let go of the self-worth idea
because that truly frees you to do this exploration and I assure you you will
you will feel so satisfied and fulfilled and empowered in life when you allow
yourself to do this really explore what it is you desire really go after the
things that you want and even if you fail it's okay because you're not you're
not judging yourself anymore you're not judging your value your worth so you can
fail and still move forward so much easier to get back up and keep going if
you're not judging yourself so much and then finally we get to step three which
is committing to who it is you want to be once you get this process started of
letting go of this item this limiting idea of exploring your desires then
taking action on your desires and then exploring those desires more and then
taking more action then you'll get clearer and clearer about who it is you
want to be and that's when you go back to that vision you really start creating
that vision because now you're so much clearer about what you want you're so
much clearer about who you want to be and that vision is also an ongoing
process it's going to evolve it's going to change you don't want to get fixed on
one thing so the more you're growing and discovering yourself the more your that
vision is growing you really want to just see your vision as a direction it
doesn't have to be very specific it doesn't have to be very detailed you
just want to know what is the direction the person who I'm becoming and the
person who I want to become and like I said this never ends it's not a process
of oh I finally get there and then I sit back and put my feet up and I'm
enlightened or whatever no it's a constant ongoing process of becoming
more and more of who you want to be and this is so empowering you just become
more and more empowered to keep moving in this direction to keep wanting and
desiring and to keep realizing your your desires by taking action nothing is more
powerful than commitment is this is at the level of
identity so when you really commit to who it is you want to become then
everything starts to change it also takes little commitments it's
always it's not always about the big commitments you've made it to this part
of the video so far so I'm gonna ask you to make a commitment commit to doing
what I've just taught you in this video and to show yourself that you've
committed that you're going to do this process that I'm talking about in this
video right in the comments below hell yeah
so you're putting the commitment out there in the public yours you're telling
yourself and everyone else I'm committing to this process which is
committing to myself to overcome this issue of self-worth to empower myself
and to commit to becoming the ideal me who I want to become do that you may
really like this process and you may even try this process and you may even
try it many times like I said it's an exploration it's something that's
ongoing and continuous so you want to keep doing it but you might feel like
you want a little bit more guidance you want someone to help walk you through
this step-by-step so yes I am a coach and I do coach people through this
process but I don't do a lot of coaching I fill up pretty quickly and I carry
only a small amount of people of clientele with coaching so the next best
thing is to join my membership program where I do walk you through this
step-by-step you get video lessons every single month and there's exercises that
go with it I also give you hypnotic inductions to help you get this into
your unconscious so you're not always working at the conscious level you also
get to take part in a supportive community of other people who are doing
the same process along with you and you get to compare results and come and
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question in a group I do answer it and then we also do ongoing group coaching
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