Hey guys, in this video, we're going to talk about
can you get your ex back
when she blocked you?
If you're new to my channel my name is Anna Jorgensen
welcome to just the tip Tuesday.
So, if she blocked you
it's obviously because she doesn't
want you to contact her.
But there may be a couple of reasons why
that is that will help you
potentially get her back.
So, what are those potential reasons?
First of all, she may have blocked you
because you were
way too needy, attentive, and desperate.
You were moving too fast
you showed a lot of low self-value traits
and she's just completely turned off right now.
And you keep pushing and the only way for her
to get you to stop chasing
is for her to block you.
So, that's one way.
We're going to go over how to respond to
each of these different ways
after I give them all to you.
Second way or reason
that she might have blocked you
would be because she actually
can't help but be completely drawn to you
and your relationship is just turmoil.
She knows that for some reason
either legit or not legit
because of you or because of her
because of the dynamic of the relationship
you are bad for her
and if she lets you in with just a crack
then she is going to go flying back to you
and start the whole process all over again.
And the third reason why
she might have blocked you
is because she legit has moved on
and she's either seeing someone else
or wants to be seeing someone else
or she has mentally
made a commitment to date other people.
So, she may or may not be dating someone
but she might be on a dating site again
or still or actively looking
and she just doesn't want to deal with you.
She wants to make a clean sweep of it.
Okay, how do you get her back
if she's blocked you?
Well, the thing you have to know is
that whatever turned her off
whether you were too needy
or whether you were too aloof
maybe didn't even respect her
didn't even contact her, never replied,
ghosted her way too often
you have to show her
not tell her, show don't tell
that you are a completely different guy
than the guy she rejected.
So, if you can't show her that
through text or other
I'll give you the other in a little bit
then she's going to assume
you're the same guy that she didn't want.
She doesn't want the same guy that she rejected.
She wants a different guy
so you have to prove to her
that you're a different guy.
So, you can't use the same M O
that you were using before
because all that says is
you're the same guy
that won't work.
So, if you were overly attentive
or needy or desperate or clingy
or moving way too fast
then you need to do the opposite
you need to scale way back
and be less concerned.
Take her off that pedestal
if you put a woman on a pedestal
she will look down on you,
you have to know your worth
is higher than her worth.
Yes, we're all worth the same,
but if you act like she's worth more than you are
she will instinctively,
intellectually, unconsciously, believe
that she is worth more than you.
What woman wants to be with a guy
that is worth less than she is?
No, she wants to be with
at least someone on the same level
so you have to believe
that you're at least on the same level.
And if you act as super needy then
you have to act and behave
on a much higher level
there's my arm way up there
just to balance out the equilibrium
because of where you really believe you are
in the relationship.
So, you need to step back
and be more aloof
and care less
and be less attentive
and less quick to reply.
Initiate less all of these things.
But okay yes, you're like
yeah, but she's blocked me how do I even get there?
Wait, just wait we'll get to that
hold on, hang tight, not from a bridge.
Okay if you were aloof
or didn't res... You know
maybe you were playing the game
or maybe you are a player
or maybe you got three girls on the go.
Whatever it is if you made her feel unimportant,
if you were aloof, if you never reached out,
if you ghosted her,
if you took forever to reply
if you were on the other end of the spectrum
and that's what drove her away
then you need to be more attentive,
then you need to reply,
then you need to maybe give some compliments.
Or don't do that if you were overly complimentary
but if you basically starved her of these things
then this is when you go back in and you
offer up some of the things
that she was lacking that you
restricted the relationship of.
So, essentially here's the key point
the key point is she needs to feel like
what the F who is this new person
that is now trying to get back in my life?
Yes, we'll get to the blocky part
hold your horse.
And this third situation is if she's already
you know, dating someone else
or moved on or whatever
if that's the case
then it's not necessarily too late.
It depends on if you were
too aloof or too attentive
possibly other things as well.
There may be legit reasons why
the relationship didn't work out.
Maybe your values,
beliefs, and long-term goals didn't align.
If you haven't taken my wake up to love program
you need to take that
because if you're choosing the wrong person
based on beliefs, values, and long-term goals
it's just not going to work out
you're going to be in for a bumpy ride,
not a fun ride.
If you want a fun ride
then you need to get in alignment
with your values, beliefs, and long-term goals.
So, it could be that she's legit realized
that you really just don't have
any long-term potential
based on those three things.
And no, that means that
you're not going to be able to get her back
and you shouldn't get her back
and shouldn't want to get her back
even though I know it's painful
sorry I know, I know.
Here's some other things
if you were way too submissive,
if you're a nice guy, if you were beta male,
then you need to go to dominant alpha
qualities, characteristics.
You need to show her your dominant side
in a kind respectful way.
You can still be alpha dominant and respectful
a lot of guys don't understand that,
that's actually mutually possible.
If you were super dominant or
dominant in a disrespectful way
or didn't show any vulnerability then you need to
express a little bit of vulnerability
not too much even though
women will tell you they want vulnerable
they really don't.
Women say they want it
because they want a little bit of it
but they still want you to maintain your masculinity
otherwise she goes into maternal mode.
Maternal mode and arousal mode
cannot happen in the same place
in an intimate relationship.
If you were needy
you need to wait for her to break contact
break no contact.
If you were aloof you need to reach out to her more
if you were too serious
you need to add some playful flirtation
and fun and teasing and flirting in there.
If you were way too humorous
and everything was a joke
you need to scale back
and maybe let her see a little bit
of your serious side
and if she's seeing someone else or wants to
then let her see someone else
do not break no contact
during a time where she's out dating someone else.
Instead, you want to suggest that,
that's a good idea.
This is reverse psychology, what?
What do you mean it's a good idea
for me to be dating somebody else?
Don't you want me?
Well, if she actually has a little bit of
interest left over for you
or if she still has a ounce of attraction
she's going to wonder why
you're not fighting for her in that way.
Go ahead, see what else is out there.
I know I'm the right guy for you.
But you're not going to also wait around for her
never wait for a woman, never.
I mean never, never, never, never, never, never, never,
never wait for a woman.
You're putting yourself on the shelf,
yourself on the shelf.
Come on that was kind of cute.
That means there's no competition
she's got to believe that you're out in the world
subject to the admiration of other women
and she's going to lose out on you
if she doesn't figure out soon
that you're the guy for her
and if she's seeing other guys you can always suggest
Hey,
we can still hang out as friends
and then you work the friend angle.
I've done other videos on that
watch them.
Now, if she's blocking you
because she's super attracted to you and she's
merciless to your charms
eventually she'll unblock you
and contact you
and then you just move in for the close
and try to mitigate
some of the things that you did that
drove her away to begin with.
Not completely, don't go completely the other way
or she's going to lose respect for you.
But you're going to compromise in some areas.
Like, if you're out all night
with your guy friends all the time and
inappropriately flirting with other women
well, you might want to curtail that.
If you want to be in a relationship
that's not really appropriate behavior for
an intimate healthy
especially monogamous relationship.
Now, here's a tip as well for conversations.
Even if you were needy
and you're going to go the opposite way
and not be needy
by being confident
and independent and autonomous
and have a life.
And I've done other videos on how to get your ex back
by having that life
so watch those because there's a lot of detail there.
But you're going to do that
but you're still never going to ghost a conversation.
Instead, you might end a conversation by saying
look I got to go I'm meeting some friends or
look I got to go I'm meeting someone
don't specifically say gender because she'll wonder
or whatever.
But let's talk again soon
or hey, beautiful.
You know, you want to just be confident
in your interactions but you also want to
end the conversations early.
So, she's doing all of the initiating
especially when she comes back but
you're ending those conversations in a
polite and respectful way
while leaving some mystery for her.
And also closing the deal.
So, you're going to ask to get together
hey, let's get together.
If she doesn't then you're going to
close off that conversation pretty quickly
with respect, don't make her think
that you've had an effect on her.
Just that if she wants more of you
she's going to have to provide more of her.
Now, if she does sense that you might be
changed from what you were
she's probably going to test you
to see if those changes are real.
So, just be prepared for that
and you may even want to watch my play list on
how she tests you and how to pass those tests
because there's a lot of detail there.
But just expect it because of course,
you're coming back as this new person
and she might not trust that
those changes are actually real.
Very good idea while you're doing no contact
is to work on yourself.
Again, you should definitely do
my wake up to love program
because it's going to make you into
the kind of guy that
every woman wants.
Like, the details in there are for
what every woman wants
and then there's specifics where you go in
and you fine tune how to be the guy
that the girl you really want, wants.
And while not compromising yourself
because the most important thing is
that you have to have self-respect.
So, never change yourself
for someone else
and it teaches you how to do that.
Because self-respect is probably
one of the most important qualities
that a woman needs you to have
for her to be able to respect you.
If she can't respect you
she can't get aroused for you,
she cannot be attracted to you
as a partner.
And you're going to basically be starting
the relationship over from scratch.
Whoever she was dating before,
that you before that's not you anymore
you have to be a completely different person
than the one that she rejected.
Because in her mind she's building up
all the reasons why she did leave,
all the reasons why
it was a good idea for her to break it off.
So, all those attributes that turned her off
are going to be magnified in her memory.
If you were too nice
you definitely want to watch my nice guy play list.
Remember that no contact
doesn't mean ignoring her messages
if she does reach out
it means not initiating contact with her.
Another key point is
if and when she does come back
or if you do reach out to her
and you are starting to
engage again in conversation
do not talk about the relationship you had.
You're going to start from scratch
you just met this girl
you're starting from scratch.
If you start talking about
what went wrong in the relationship right away
it's too heavy.
Just you want to go in light and playful
and again, just start from the beginning.
Now, one thing
and you're not going to like this.
But if the reason that she
broke off contact or blocked you
is because you were needy and desperate
and overly attentive
those impressions last,
they last longer and it's far more difficult
to get her back.
The only way that you might be able to get her back
is by showing her, never tell
that you are a completely different person.
And the only way that's going to be possible
is if she unblocks you
and she can see
through maybe your social media
or through mutual friends
that you're a different person.
At some point if there's still a glimmer of attraction
then she will find a way
to make contact with you.
Now, the one time that this might not apply
where she has been driven away by your
neediness or desperateness
or low self-esteem
is if you've already been together for a while
and the reason for your behavior is situational.
Like maybe you lost a job and
it's been really hard to find a new job
and it's kind of beating up your self-esteem
and so you're starting to act
not very masculine.
You're starting to act like a needy child.
Well, if she saw you before that happened
where you were you know confident and masculine
and all the qualities
that she was originally attracted to
then there is a memory of that in her psyche.
So, there's a potential, a greater potential
that she can see that in you
if you show it to her again.
But if you started the relationship
being needy, desperate, clingy,
overly attentive, overly flattering,
and moving way too fast
then she doesn't have anything else to gauge
that is your first impression
that is the lasting impression
and it will be very, very difficult
for her to see you in any other light.
So, if you were that guy
then you need to ask yourself what was it in you
that made you act that way with this girl?
Did you think that she's better than you?
Did you think that if you don't latch on to her
that you're going to lose her because
she's going to figure out that
she's better than you, that she can do better than you.
If that's the case then you need to
work on yourself
and get yourself to a better place
so that your confidence will be
reflected by any woman
that you are with or approach
or are interested in.
So, again, wake up to love
is going to help you do that.
Now, you're wondering okay, but you didn't tell me
how to get her if she blocks me.
That wasn't the title of the video,
the title of the video was
can you get her if she blocks you?
And the answer is if you are super needy
and she blocks you and never unblocks you
then no, you're going to need to step away from her.
If she unblocks you at some point
then that means she's thought about you
enough to unblock you.
At that point in time, if it's been
at least 30 days preferably 60,
then you want to break no contact
and communicate with her.
I've done other videos so watch those
other videos about that.
If she unblocks you and
contacts you then definitely
move in for closing the deal.
And closing the deal is getting together
without talking about the relationship
and just seeing what happens.
Starting from scratch light fun and playful
giving her what she didn't have
the original relationship.
So, giving her what she didn't have in a needy,
when you were needy means
giving her space,
giving her pace.
She needs to pace the relationship
well, you need to lead the relationship
but it's what you need to hear
and if you're in the situation where she's just
probably not going to come back
then I also suggest that you watch my
how to get over her play list
there's only four videos there but
it will be worthwhile and
my heart does go out to you.
I know I've given you some tough love here today
but my hope is that it will help you
get past this and become the kind of guy
that you respect,
that your peers respect.
And if that happens then
the right woman will respect you
and want you as well.
So, lots of love, big hug,
hang in there not from a bridge
and I'll see you next week.
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