Kris Krohn here today on Limitless TV.
And we are talking about a pretty difficult conversation piece.
We're talking about authenticity.
I mean we live in a world where we have some people that are authentic and man we live
in a world filled with inauthentic people.
Some that don't even know it.
So today, we're gonna explore what is authenticity.
Then we're gonna talk about what you can do to start representing yourself in becoming
that super authentic human being.
Because we're craving to meet you that way.
Before we talk about how to be authentic, It's important to learn what it is to be inauthentic.
Sometimes inauthentic people, is like they're wearing a mask.
Like this one.
Alright, inauthenticity, wearing a mask.
Think for a moment about people pleasers.
Are you a people pleaser?
Cause you know what?
here's what people pleasers do, they put on a mask.
You don't really know what they like and you don't always really know what they want because
they're too busy being the chameleon that changes who they are, what they say, how they
dress, and how they show up for your approval.
They're trying to get something out of people.
They're manipulative.
And for me, a people please is a liar because they're not being true to who they are.
I also know some of the things that being a people pleaser is like.
One of the godly virtues like, no I'm just trying to make everyone happy with rainbows
and cupcakes.
Listen, this is a lie.
Being inauthentic is a lie.
Changing you know who you are from who you truly are, that's the lie.
And, I used to be one of the biggest people pleasers out there.
I was raised in a family with other brothers and sisters and my mom wanted me to be perfect.
She wanted all three kids to be perfect and to show up perfect.
And, I started quickly developing this idea that I didn't matter what was always right
or wrong, I felt like I needed to say the right thing.
If I did something wrong, I was scared to face up and rather lie and say I didn't do
something wrong.
And as I became an adult, people started recognizing that there are these inauthenticities with
me.
They kept using these words, why aren't you more authentic?
I'm like, huh? does authentic mean honest?
Cause I think I'm pretty honest.
Authenticity is very different and so much more than just being honest.
So first of all just take a personal inventory.
To what extent do you ever manipulate other people or even yourself by showing up different
than what is true to who you are.
Because if you can see that, then the next part of this video is gonna make a lot more
sense with what it really means to become authentic.
And I'm gonna share with you a specific formula that will help you shed the mask.
Help you take it off.
Because on every mask, what we are really carrying around is our limiting beliefs.
We got ideas written on this thing that we want to project to the world.
I'm perfect, I'm happy, everything's awesome, don't worry about me, give me your money.
There's all sorts of different messages that we're sending with these masks and yet, we
live in a world today where people are, they're really sensitive about this topic of authenticity.
Many struggle with, knowing how to be what authenticity is and we're willing to follow
those who are authentic.
So we're gonna give you the breakdown and show you what it means and what you can do
to take your mask of and become more authentic.
Being authentic means being real.
And a lot of people are like, well what does it mean to be real?
Be real with me.
Who's real?
I met my first real estate investor and he started meeting people and telling me he's
real, he's not real.
And I was like, what are you talking about?!
what do you mean real?
he's like a human being I can pinch and touch him.
He's like, no no no.
He's putting on a facade.
He want us to believe a certain thing about him.
He's projecting a certain presence.
It's not real.
Being real is a combination of sincerity and vulnerability.
I'll say that again for you, being real is the combination of sincerity and vulnerability.
Sincere means that you are, that you are, that you're real and you care and it's not
just all about you, It's the lack of ego.
But the vulnerable part is the hardest part in our world today.
It's the part that says, I'm willing to show you when I suck, I'm willing to show you when
I'm awesome, I'm willing to show you when I'm sad, willing to show you when I'm angry.
People that portray something different that who they really are, that's what inauthenticity
means.
And to be real, there's a level of vulnerability that we're craving for.
You look at social media and the post that you're reacting to, often when they are heart
felt, is from someone that is willing to just, it's like, it's like they're telling you who
they really are even if you might think less of them.
Because being honest and truthful, while that's a part of it, they're also willing to allow
you to see the mess that they've had in their life.
That's like me telling you right now and in all of my real estate deals, I've had things
go brilliant.
But I've learn from things going really really bad.
I've made bad investments.
One point I invested in gold and oil and in trucking and even in certain real estate deals
it didn't go bad.
My worst, my biggest bust in the mid-west was buying a tape of 300 homes at a 92% discount.
Thinking that I had just won the lottery and was gonna make 10 million dollars.
And I lost a million dollars to get that entire real estate debacle off of my hands.
Real equals sincerity, caring, and vulnerability.
And friends, you know what?
That's what we want.
We want to deal with real people.
Real estate for example something I'm hugely passionate about it's a conversation of people
and not structures.
That's the real thing.
That's the most real thing that is out there.
So my invitation for you is to step in to the, figure out how do you take this and how
do you take it off?
How do you start seeing yourself the way you really are and representing yourself appropriately
as you really are.
Cause when you do, you will make more friends, you will keep more friends, and you will influence
more people.
Best wishes.
Be authentic.
Thank you for watching today's video.
I really hope that this helps you.
And you know what?
drop some comments below.
What are the things that you've tried that have helped you be more authentic?
We would love to hear from you.
Additionally, make sure you subscribe because tomorrow for example, we got a video that
is all about overcoming embarrassment.
I got this 11 year old daughter and she'll stop living life and get stuck because she's
embarrassed because of something that happened with a boy or at school or whatever it is.
And as adults, we do the exact same thing.
Embarrassment, we'll step into shame.
When embarrassment and shame start holding you back in life, guess what? you're no fun
to be around.
You're stuck and your life doesn't move forward the way that you want it.
That's what we're tackling tomorrow.