"[Courtney's] going to be famous and [Kurt] already is, but unless something happens,
they're going to self-destruct.
I know they're both going to be big stars.
I just don't want to be a part of it."
This is what one of the writers from Vanity Fair had to say about the very notorious relationship
between Kurt Cobain and Courtney Love.
We've got a lot of requests to do a video on Cobain, and so here it is Juicers.
The couple were the King and Queen of the 90s rock scene, but unfortunately, it wasn't
a romance that oozed rose petals and rainbows.
Instead, a massive amount of controversy plagued their relationship.
Even after Kurt's tragic death, people still pointed their fingers at Courtney and blamed
her for what had happened to him.
So how toxic was their relationship, and what happened to their daughter?
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There seem to be a lot of versions of how and when the couple actually met.
According to friends, the pair first met in 1990.
Love explained her initial reaction to Cobain during an interview, sharing that she was
instantly taken with him.
"He was super-cute, but he carried himself as someone who didn't know that.
And that was part of the charm.
He didn't know he was a better-looking guy than Brad Pitt."
Love confessed.
And the one thing they didn't do, was take things slow.
They were officially introduced to one another at a concert in May of 1991, and from that
moment on, Kurt was smitten.
Nirvana was at its peak, and Cobain was overwhelmed by the newfound fame that came along with
his band's booming success.
He was already suffering from bouts of depression, and he wasn't sure how to handle all the attention
that was on him.
When Love was introduced to the singer, she had allegedly pursued him with fierce determination
and, according to those close to Kurt, was the one who introduced him to heroin.
After just a few months of dating, Love and Cobain decided to say "I do" and exchange
vows in Hawaii in February 1992.
Courtney wore a dress that was previously owned by Hollywood actor Frances Farmer, while
Cobain wore stylish green flannel pyjamas.
The wedding bells weren't the only thing that rang quickly; Love was, in fact, already a
few months pregnant with the couple's first child.
Just like their wedding, their honeymoon was nothing short of unconventional.
Cobain took time off from his Nirvana tour, and rather than enjoy a relaxed beach holiday
and bathe in their newlywed bliss, the couple bathed in a lot of … well, drugs.
Love admitted, "We went on a binge.
We did a lot of drugs.
We got pills and then we went down to Alphabet City and Kurt wore a hat, I wore a hat, and
we copped some dope.
Then we got high and went to SNL.
After that, I did heroin for a couple of months."
Courtney added that Kurt never wanted to leave the apartment, he only ever wanted to get
high, paint and play his guitar.
He had become so overwhelmed by all the press and attention his relationship with Courtney
was receiving, he didn't want to go outside and face the world.
So he chose to shut himself off from the world.
Cobain and Love's drug use continued until 1992, when they both attempted to get clean
before the birth of their first child.They both signed themselves into separate rehab
clinics, but their attempts to get clean were short-lived.
Unfortunately, after just a few days in the clinics, the couple quickly checked themselves
back out and went right back to their bad habits.
A month after their daughter, Frances Bean Cobain, was born, Love said she used heroin
while pregnant during her interview with Vanity Fair.
But, she later claimed the publication misquoted her.
"I did do heroin when I was pregnant, and then I stopped.
And I knew she would be fine.
So it was never a concern that our child would have — I assured him I was built like an
oxen and could carry this pregnancy to term and not have any problems."
Courtney admitted.
There's no doubt that the couple had to face incredibly dark times, the documentary about
Kurt's life, "Montage of Heck", released in 2015, revealed snippets of the sweet and intimate
times the couple shared too.
In never-before-seen video footage from the documentary, Cobain is seen joking with Love
in the bathroom, while another moment captures Love teasingly climbing on Cobain's back while
singing a song.
However, it is almost impossible to ignore the downward spiral and self-destruction that
Kurt begins to go through in the film.
In one scene, he suddenly walks out of Frances' first birthday party.
In another, he's nodding off while she's getting her first haircut.
"Kurt, you don't want your daughter to see you behaving like this, on drugs," Love screams
off-camera.
"I'm not on drugs!"
Cobain claims.
"I'm tired."
Friends thought that if there was anything that could draw Kurt out of his own darkness,
it would be his daughter.
Cobain considered quitting Nirvana altogether so he could focus on fatherhood.
But, he chose to stay with the band, and despite wanting to be a good dad and husband, he couldn't
didn't kick his drug addiction either.
Despite their love for their daughter, the couple's marriage was also unraveling, exacerbated
by their drug use.
In early March 1994, Cobain attempted suicide in Rome after he sensed the possibility of
Love, who was in London at the time, having an affair.
Courtney admitted that she had considered having an affair but never actually did it.
"He must have been psychic or something.
I almost did one time, and he knew it.
... I have no idea how he knew it.
The plan didn't ever go anywhere.
Nothing happened, but... the response to it was he took 67 Rohypnols and ended up in a
coma because I thought about cheating on him.
I mean, f-ck."
Cobain eventually recovered from the coma but still battled inner demons that led him
deeper into a depression.
Unfortunately, his problems weren't just with Love, they also stemmed from a much darker
sense of loneliness.
The passion for his music dwindled as Nirvana soared into popularity.
He felt like the music he was making had lost all of it's meaning.
The screaming fans, the fame, the flashing lights, it felt all-consuming, and Kurt felt
like he was being swallowed whole by the world around him.
The pressure he felt was unspeakable, and it seemed as though no one understood him
or really knew who he was.
Amongst all the chaos of fame and the substances that came along with it, he felt like he had
completely lost himself.
He no longer knew who he was, and felt like his purpose had been lost too.
Not even the love he had for his daughter could save him.
He isolated himself from all those who loved him and dove deeper into the only thing that
could numb his pain.
His addiction was the only thing in control, and it held a suffocating grip over his existence.
Sadly, it all became too much, and Kurt had made the decision to end his pain.
After a couple of days in a California rehab center, Kurt told the staff he was stepping
outside for a smoke.
He scaled the six-foot brick wall and flew back home to Seattle before his wife could
cancel his credit cards.
Love hired private investigator Tom Grant to find her husband, while Cobain's mother
Wendy O'Connor issued a missing person's report.
Though his home was searched, nobody thought to look inside his garage or the greenhouse
above it.
It's uncertain what exactly happened between April 4 and April 5 except that Kurt Cobain
likely propped a stool up against the greenhouse's French doors and stayed inside, doing illegal
substances, possibly writing or finishing the infamous note, and finally, took his own
life.
At just 27 years old, Cobain killed himself by a gunshot wound to the head at his Seattle
home on April 5, 1994.
"He is considered to be the rock star who didn't want fame, the weak pathetic guy who
was taken over by this controlling female, and yadda yadda.
It kind of f--ked me up...
He's a hard act to follow.
I love him and I always will."
Courtney shared after his death.
Frances Bean Cobain wasn't even two years old when her father died.
Over the last few decades, she has experienced her own share of drug use.
No one could ever imagine what it must have been like for her, forced to trudge through
the inescapable fame that she's been given as a result of her parents' destructive relationship.
She's become an outspoken supporter of anyone battling addiction and internal demons, connecting
with them on social media and attempting to spread compassion.
More notably, her frequent use of "peace, love, empathy" is directly tied to her father's
last words in his tragic suicide letter.
Frances recently went on RuPaul's podcast "What's The Tee" and talked about life growing
up with Courtney Love as her mom.
She noted that while her mother is a beautiful and kind person when she's on a "healthy path,"
she is also "highly self-destructive."
Despite that, Frances wants to love and support her and wants their relationship "to be based
on open communication and love and truth."
The 29-year-old also admitted that she was "so f–king bitter and angry and upset and
resentful for a really long time" with her mother.
Speaking of things she's had to experience growing up, Frances admitted, "Some kids were
like, 'f–k I didn't do my essay,' and I'd be like, 'f–k I had to call the paramedics
to get my mom's stomach pumped last night'… just a different set of priorities."
Thankfully, it seems like Frances and Courtney's relationship is on the mend, and they're trying
to put their traumatic past behind them.
Kurt's memory will forever live on through his music and his daughter, and fans can only
hope that others who are suffering lean on their loved ones and seek the help that they
need.