Hi its Stephan here, In this video, I want to give you a tip about
a conversation with woman.
It's going to help you to be much more effective, I'm actually having a conversation with women
without working so hard or without freezing up or stressing out or you know treating problems,
and kind of making yourself in to the weaker part of the conversation.
Does this make sense?
Because one of the key things that men do when they talked to women they work too hard,
they work too hard either internally or they work too hard externally, both of them are
not good both of them don't help women to kind of see when is guy that they're going
to be attracted to because of the conversation make sense?
So if you're working hard externally you're gonna talk a lot, you gonna do this stuff
like trying to run routines and all that stuff that some of the pick-up artist say you should
do and you gonna be you know putting a lot of effort into entertaining her and all that
stuff.
Now I honestly think that it doesn't work really it doesn't work in most cases, and
it doesn't help you to get the girl to understand that you are at least her equal or if not
a little bit more in charge and it makes her know that.
Also you're working harder than her which is not good, it doesn't help and the other
thing is if you really working hard internally you're going to be like, It's all gonna happen
here but you're not really communicating with her, so you're not gonna be open, your face
is gonna give you a way that you are really working hard internally thinking hard, you're
not gonna be spontaneous and in the moment as you need to be a really be fun person to
talk to.
So let me tell you a quick story which will illustrate exactly how to think about it differently
and I will give you a key concept that will help you to, I guess understand how to focus
in a conversation make sense?
So I want to tell you something okay, recently see I was travelling a lot through Asia and
stuff like that and I have been evading getting one of this things for a long time because
I always spoke like, "Come on man do I really need one?
You know I'm silly like that sometimes, do I need it?
Or is it just another toy for me?"
So anyway in the end I got one in Australia and I looked around the apps and blah blah
blah of course but I found one which I started playing because I always thought I kind of
like this things so I'm gonna see if I like it on this thing and it's a pinball app.
A pin ball app this how it goes.
You play this and it's like a pin ball machine right like in a pub bar in a bar or something
that they have, I never understood this things but its quiet fun to play actually and you
understand the concept right?
You have to keep the ball in play by hitting these legal stair and you really don't have
to do very much you just have to hit it at the right moment most of the time you just
watching the ball going around and you know you watch it and you check where it is and
then you hit it at the right moment and sometimes you hit up there into the top things I'm not
doing very well at the moment as you can tell.
You hit up into the top bits and you get loads of look I am not concentrating well so let's
do it again.
You get loads of bonuses and loads of a special you know let me try on hit it that once, see?
I missed it again.
So the point I'm trying to make is pinball, the key is you keep the ball and play you
don't do very much you could just keep on going where the ball is you keep checking
where it is and it does all this stuff, it hits on different things, it creates bonus
points you get all your points and wherever and then at the very right moment you just
give it a launch and you throw up put it in the air and you push it in the direction that
you want to and once the ball you hit it into that sweet spot up there the top of the pinball
machine.
You really want to check one out I guess for this you know if you really want to get this
and you get loads of bonus points then, okay.
And to me this is just a perfect metaphor for what a great conversation or having a
great conversation with a girl making it easy for yourself.
It needs to be like and in essence I would explain it as "Minimum Effort Maximum Awareness."
Minimum Effort Maximum Awareness here's the thing if you're a guy and your making only
all the effort on the conversation the girl will notice it and it's not attractive it
just doesn't attractive to you yeah?
You need to be able to show minimum effort in the conversation which is a bit like a
pin ball right because you are not really doing anything you're just pressing the button
in the right time and you're keeping the ball in play and that's exactly what you need to
do with women when you have the conversation.
You're keeping the conversation in play by just throwing the ball up at the right moment
and you know just adjusting the course of the ball with you little leavers.
And in the conversational type that means you know at the right moment just going why
or, oh how is that, or oh tell me more, or oh that's cool how that how is did that come
about, or oh wow that's an interesting thing about you.
Little things like that can take the conversation in the right way into an area where you're
talking about something that's really important to her yeah?
So the key is you don't make all the effort, you don't run around running you're routines
and you know talking about all this stuff in order to keep her entertained.
But you can be more effortless and just basically take yourself a bit a little bit back and
just nudging the conversations in the right direction a bit like paying pinball and then
the ball will go round and the key thing with this whole thing is that one I'm saying is
maximum awareness.
Awareness is more important than you know telling the best stories, what is happening
what is she saying, and what are the layers of what she's saying?
How able are you to pick out what she's actually saying about herself, about the situation,
and what is the information she's giving you so that you can then nudged in the right way,
so it's a lot like playing pin ball honestly.
And the other thing with playing pinball is that is very light process you don't have
to hit it like crazy even though guys always do but you just have to you know hit it and
then the ball keeps going its very fluent, it's very light, and that's what the real
conversation with the girl specially in the social setting like when you're talking to
her for the first time or on a date or whatever should be like the conversation should flow
like the ball in the machine go from places to places.
And also another thing that's quite a good metaphor with pinball is that look they are
a different topics basically, and different topics that you can talk to a girl about.
The key thing is that you feel free to switch it from one to the other and that's the same
with pin ball, you kind of hit the ball in different direction and you want to do that
you want to have that freedom because it's going to go into directions that the girl
will not have experienced before and that's good.
So focus on this next time you talk to a girl, well actually focus on this before you talk
to a girl, and focus on this another conversations as well.
Minimum Effort Maximum awareness is gonna be taking you much further in conversation
with women than maximum effort and you know minimum awareness which is what most guys
are stuck in which is like, "Oh I need to talk to this girl and so I have to come up
with a really funny things to say and I have to work really hard on her" and you totally
forget that they need to focus on what's happening over there in her face so that they can fix
stuff up.
Literally you can be totally effortless with this and you can just basically react to something
that she's saying just by reacting physically you don't even have to say anything and she
will like, "What?
What are you saying?
You think I'm funny or what?"
And you have something going, and it's happening in between you and the ball is conversation.
So remember minimum effort maximum awareness that's what you need to focus on.
Okay?
Cool.
I hope this was useful.
I hope this gave you an idea of some sort and I hope you have an idea that you could
use this and you understand the concept.
Now I need to tell you of course that I have a program a pimp your lingo, http://www.pimpyourlingo.com
that is where the program is and you can get there straight away and this is my pimp your
lingo advance conversations skills for men program that is if you want more, if you want
like to really learn like all of the methods, ideas, and techniques that I found to work
for me over the years from becoming a lot better at talking to women.
That stuff is very unlike many of the things that you learn in the seduction community
because to be honest it is not based on routines or script or any of that stuff.
And to be honest, you want to avoid that stuff as much as possible certainly in the 21st
century and on the other hand you can also go to http://www.pimpyourlingo.com where there
is a launch going on where you will also get the offer at program later on but you also
get some other videos first.
I got a couple of really cool videos lined up there for you and big interview with myself
that was done by one of my esteemed friend from Australia and says a special report for
you as well.
So if you want more of conversation with women that have been difficult for you, if you've
been trying up, if you've been never known how to actually create attraction in the conversation
then this will be cool links for you to explore.