- In today's final challenge,
I want you to make a pledge,
a promise to yourself,
to become a creator, not a consumer.
Just like me, you too are plugged in to a device
that gives you the opinion of a billion people
at any given moment.
The trouble is, when we become passive consumers
of what other people are feeding us,
we give away our powers, our creative powers
over the narrative of our lives.
Today, I wanna challenge you
to make a mental decision, about your identity,
a pledge if you will, and to sign a contract with yourself
that you will no longer allow other people's stories,
dogmas, philosophies, ideas and dictates
to become your own inner voice,
to override your own ideas and stories,
to control how you feel about you and your life,
unless you give them consent to,
unless you handpick them, as people who uplift you
and empower you, as ideas that make you stronger.
So for example, you won't allow
that person that you're stalking on Instagram
to make you feel like a rubbish parent by comparison,
because, you'll understand that you're no longer
gonna be comparing your backstage, to their front stage,
or your resources to theirs.
Or, you won't allow that article you read
on the importance of special time or co-sleeping
or whatever it is, to make you feel lesser than
or not good enough,
because you'll remember, that we all do the best we can
with what we have, and we all have unique needs
and resources and challenges and kids.
You'll remind yourself that
you get to decide, which parenting philosophies
resonate and work for you and your family.
You won't let that comment from your neighbor
rub you the wrong way,
because you'll remind yourself,
that you get to decide which voices to listen to,
that you don't consume other people's opinions,
you create opinions of your own.
Today, I want you to pledge to yourself
that you are on a mission
to create family bliss, moment by moment,
that you are a creator, and no longer just a consumer.
My guess is that you already know what to do.
You've read the articles and seen the videos
about how to help siblings with rivalry
or, how to take charge of your own mindset,
or even how to design your home,
but there's a powerful difference
between knowing the things and doing the things, am I right?
How many of us have seen hundreds and thousands
of memes, articles, comments, ideas, videos, podcasts,
that tell us, how to live our best life,
how to be the parent we wanna be
and create the home and family life we wanna create,
but then, we do nothing about it,
it stays in the realm of things we know.
Let's compare this to someone who knows
what they need to do to get healthy.
They know what they need to eat,
they know what they need to do at the gym,
they know they need to sleep and drink water,
but they don't do it.
That's a consumer.
That's someone who is just accepting passive information
but not taking action and creating the results
they wanna see in their life,
and that person is not gonna see those results,
even though they know all the things.
So today, I wanna challenge you
to stop being a consumer of other people's ideas,
of how you should live your best life.
Sure, take the information, get the inspiration,
but don't stop there.
Look, truth time, I am a performance coach for parents,
and I measure the success of my work
in other people's real life results.
If I just inspire you and give you ideas,
I've failed honestly.
My job is to get you to take action on the things
that will create family bliss for your family,
it's to get you to see real results.
If I don't help you create real results in your life,
then I've failed at my work,
inspiring you is not enough.
I need to get you to take effective action
and really see the transformations
that you're craving in your real life.
So let me give you some examples
of what it means to be a creator, rather than a consumer.
When you log in to social media,
come with the intent of being a creator,
not just a consumer,
adding and contributing something positive,
uplifting, inspiring or helpful to the platform
that you're engaging with,
rather than simply consuming passively.
Or perhaps in your home,
rather than being a passive consumer
where you just buy a bunch of stuff
and then you're overwhelmed by clutter
by hand-me-downs, by build up, by default situations
or default furniture that you've just happened to have,
you become a creator, who mindfully designs,
play zones and spaces, that really support your children
and the stage that they're in.
How about becoming the creator of your time and your flow?
Have you considered, that time is something that we create,
we craft, rather than just going through the day haphazardly
and letting things happen to us,
we can become intentional creators
that create the experiences we want throughout our day.
You can become a creator of the type of parent,
you wanna be.
Rather than consuming all of the books
and articles and podcasts and just getting stuck there,
you actually move into changing your words,
your communication skills, your behaviors,
your schedules, your rules at home,
in order to adapt and become
and create the type of parenting
and the type of relationship you want.
And become the creator of all the relationships you have.
Create the type of family experience
you want to be a part of,
the type of family experience that lights you up.
That was what you signed up for to begin with.
It's the reason that you founded your family.
Don't just sit there passively and say,
"Well, my kid just doesn't play,"
or "My kid is super clingy,"
or "My marriage is super tense."
There are things that we can do about it,
become a creator,
create family bliss.
Creating bliss is possible, even in the darkest of times.
Focusing on the joy, the connection,
the love, that characterizes those blissful moments
scattered throughout our day,
this is exactly what families need right now more than ever.
It's what we always need,
and that's what we do in Present Play,
we are creators.
We don't just accept the hardships, the default stress,
passively and helplessly,
we actively shape our family's lives,
into what we want it to be.
We create space, flow, experiences,
peace, presence and wisdom.
Present Play is performance coach for visionary parents.
You have a vision for your family,
whether you know it, consciously or not,
you're on some kind of mission.
Present Play, is designed to help you create bliss
every single month.
You're already the founder of your family unit,
now it's time for you to become the CEO.
CEOs are visionaries, and it's time for you
to hold that vision for your family,
to take the pledge with me now,
to move from just consuming,
to also being creative,
to create family bliss.
And if you wanna take this further,
I warmly invite you to join Present Play.
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