- To a really fun,
And it kind of feels like the end of one chapter for us
and hopefully cheers to the beginning of a new chapter.
Thanks. Cheers.
I feel like our marriage is still going well even
though we've had ups and downs.
I think we're still where we are in getting to know each other.
I think it's pretty normal.
I mean, I think, you know, I've definitely been frustrated
at times with things, but do feel like there's
always little steps forward.
Like what do you think is the next step
that we would need to take to really feel
like we have a better marriage?
I just think it's time.
But it's hard not to feel like time's running out right now.
We're in a unique situation where we committed to the eight
weeks, and then at some point that
needs to turn to a commitment to each other
because I don't think that we've made that decision yet.
AMBER: Wow.
Decision day is right around the corner,
and that scares me because I just don't know where we stand.
Dave is having a really hard time viewing this
as a marriage, and that hurts because my vows were real
and this is real life.
Dave's my real husband, and I have real feelings.
And other things that happened wouldn't
have happened in normal life.
So would you want to be at a resort with me anyway?
It has nothing-- that's completely beside the fact.
No it's not. DAVE: Yeah it is.
That's what you're trying to get to.
You're trying to figure out, would you want to be with me
if you didn't have to be?
At this point for how far we've come
and I feel how connected we are, I would just
think that you'd have stronger feelings at this point
than you do.
AMBER: Don't take--
Or any feelings.
See, I mean, this mode that you switched into when
we have this conversation--
No, because you started it.
I've told him so many times that I
have deep feelings for her, that I care about her deeply.
I think I show her that on a daily basis.
So in this moment where that's probably what I should say,
I'm not telling her because I'm just frustrated.
I'm over this because we've had this same conversation
hundreds of times.
You have to allow me to go through it the way I'm going
through it, and I think that it can
be different for both of us.
I'm asking you a question, would you want to be here,
because I would want to be here with you.
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I would feel better if you wanted to do this with me too.
I don't think that's a relevant question.
How is that question irrelevant
when we are married to each other
and we're trying to figure out if we want
to stay married to each other?
It's a very relevant question.
It's the most relevant question I could ask.
I can't tell what's going on with David.
I don't know if he's just being stubborn and not admitting
that he has feelings or if he just really doesn't and he
doesn't want to tell me and he's just been having
fun with me this whole time.
You're just being honest, so it's fine.
I can't make you say something that you don't feel or feel
a way that you don't feel.
It's pretty embarrassing that you don't know
if you want to be here with me.
You would just be here because you have to be.
I didn't say I wasn't happy to be here with you.
How many times have we talked about doing
vacations when this is over?
A lot.
That's all I'm saying.
We're here because of this experience.
If it's going to work, we'll choose each other.
And that's the way I view the reality of this.
It's not me saying I feel like I'm stuck here with you
or whoever it would be would be fine.
You know I like you.
I've expressed a million times that I like you,
that I'm into you, that I have feelings for you.
AMBER: All I wanted today was to hear that Dave has
feelings for me, to hear that he does
want to work on our marriage.
But I still feel like Dave may not be ready for marriage
and maybe he didn't want to be married as much as I did.
I don't know.
I think that you don't like this,
but I think you have to let me experience it the way I'm going
to experience it and stop trying to make me experience
it the way you experience it.
It's very hard not to take that personally.
I would just think that you'd have stronger
feelings at this point.
I don't really think this reaction is fair.
I think that you're taking it in a very different way
than I'm trying to say it.
I want to get there.
I want to be there with you.
I mean, like right now it sounds better how you said it.
And what I was saying was not meant
to be a put down of our marriage or anything
like that, just kind of how I'm feeling.
So I think now, at least, even if the conversation
is frustrating on one side or the other, at least
there's honesty.
I get what you're saying and where you're coming from.
I still just want to have a fun day.
DAVE: Let's go have a fun day.
[music playing]
(SINGING) Say anything.
All right.
(SINGING) Just say anything.