Hey, it’s Kati again and thank you for checking back
today I'd like to give you a little tip
But, I'm not just going to give you a tip I’m also going to ask that you do
Kind of a little homework and I always hate using the term homework with my clients
Cause, I know even myself I’m like uh... another thing to do that I probably won’t want to do, and I might
put it off
Until it’s too late
and I know that they’re coming to see me, the day before and they’re freaking out because they haven’t done it
But this is just something to put on your list of things to do when you have a little down
time there's no deadline I’m not going to check in with you and give you call or shoot you a
Tweet and say “Hey have you done it?”
I don't like that kind of relationship
this is just me giving you tools to better help yourself
It has nothing to do with me
So, the tip that I would like to give
is to start listening to your own inner voice
okay
my own inner voice
Let me think about that that's really hard to understand, right it's hard for
Us to even
conceptualize what I mean but the key word in that is your own
Inner voice
for instance
a lot of times I’ll be sitting at home
And I’ll watch a certain commercial and I’ll think “Oh I’ve got to have that!”
that shampoo is supposed to lighten my hair that’s amazing, I’ve got to get on that
got to get to Target today! That's not my own inner voice. I watched a piece of marketing
And I felt compelled
that has nothing to with me
A way that I have some clients when they come into my office and I tell them
This and they say, “I don't know what you mean Kati, you’re talking crazy, you’re not making
any sense. I can’t do this!”
especially some of my clients who are
more perfectionistic
they want to do it perfectly for me they're really worried
“I don't know what you mean!”
the tip that I give them to get you to even thinking about your own inner voice
go grab your journal
I want you to jot this down, because this is a Great tip
write about your best childhood memory
Now, childhood could be…you can be six
you could be ten you could be twelve you could be fifteen
Whatever. Whatever that one memory 'cause I'm sure all of you
when I first said that there's something that came to mind
like for me for instance
I remember I was probably eight or nine years old, my brother and I were building a
tree fort
There are so many stories that go along With that
But, that’s the memory that is so vivid to me that, I mean we spent a whole summer
doing this. That was a great experience
So get into that person even close your eyes sometimes
our eyes are the biggest
method of distraction
We’ll start looking around and we’ll start thinking about something else
close your eyes for a minute
think about that person
that girl or that boy that you were when you were that little
Do you remember what you ate that day?
Do you remember how much you worked out?
probably not
so get into that mind set. That person
was a healthy, happy, simple,
easy loving person
what would she tell you?
you know when you're having a hard day and you sit down for your snack
And you’re like “I can’t do this”
“I’m freaking out”
And you start getting all amped up
think about that girl. What would was she say?
What would she do?
if she was sitting down with an apple and peanut butter
She’d probably just eat it as she went along, talk about her day, I did this, it was
so exciting
think about that person
journal about that person from that voice
if there’s certain music you need to put on to get in the zone. That can really help
I want you to get in touch with that
part of yourself because that's the authentic you.
that's
who really cares about you
who really knows what you want
what you don't want
what hurt you what doesn’t hurt you
what really gets you excited and what
leaves you hanging
they know that part of you that's
the person that we lose touch with as we get older we hear so many things from
so many people as we've been in treatment
We have this therapist and that therapist
And that's a lot of voices in your head
So, this week
I challenge you
listen to your own inner voice
take the time
close everything else out
find out what really makes you happy
because that's really the first step. If we don't know what we want, how do we know
how to get there?
And let's continue on this journey
to healthy mind
and healthy body