silence shared in words
presents
Bringing up Children.
From Darknes to Light #3
My talking to you has not the ordinary purpose that talking serves: indoctrination -- that is not the purpose of my talks.
I don't have any doctrine; my talking is really a process of dehypnosis.
Just listening to me, slowly, slowly you will be free of all the programs that the society has forced you to believe in.
What is the right way to help a child grow
without interfering in his natural potentiality?
Every way
to help a child
is wrong.
The very idea of helping
is not right.
The child
needs your love, not your help.
The child
needs nourishment,
support,
but not help.
The natural potential of the child
is unknown,
so there is no way
to help him rightly
to attain to his natural potential.
You cannot help
when the goal is unknown;
all that you can do is
not interfere.
And in fact, in the name of help
everybody is interfering with everybody else;
and because the name is beautiful,
nobody objects.
Of course the child
is so small,
so dependent on you,
he cannot object.
And the people around
are just like you:
they have also been helped
by their parents,
the way you have been helped.
Neither they have attained
their natural potential,
nor you have attained.
The whole world
is
missing,
in spite of all the help
from the parents,
from the family,
from the relatives,
from the neighbors,
from the teachers,
from the priests.
In fact everybody is so
burdened with help
that under its weight...
what to say
of attaining natural potential --
one cannot even attain unnatural potential!
One cannot move;
the weight
on everybody's shoulders
is Himalayan.
And it is one of the most difficult things,
not to interfere.
It is
not the nature of the mind.
Mind is basically
continuously,
persistently,
tempted to interfere.
It lives on interference.
The more you can interfere,
the more powerful you are.
How do you measure power?
It is not something
material,
you cannot weigh it...
but it is measured,
weighed.
The way to measure it is by how much you can interfere
in how many people's lives.
Adolf Hitler is powerful
because he can interfere
in millions of people's lives.
You are not
Adolf Hitler,
but still you can interfere
in a few people's lives...
a little, miniature Adolf Hitler.
At least
the husband can interfere in the wife's life,
the wife can interfere in the husband's life.
It is a mutual game;
in this way
both become powerful.
The husband goes on interfering
in his own way.
The wife goes on interfering
in her own way,
without being aware
why they are interfering.
They were supposed to be together
to enhance each other's life,
but the husband will be
coming late every day...
not that
it is essential
to come late,
but it is a question of power,
ego...