having our brains these unconscious
patterns and not even knowing that we
have them I mean this is normal this is
this is how you're supposed to do it now
right Pam we have the right to be angry
we have the we are justified in our
anger and we we and and then you know
what when people who are really angry
asking us are justified and you know
they'll say with strong emotions you
darn right I am oh well let me not say
that they're not angry they just say
this is just how you supposed to do it
but see then again it's it's these
little programming that we have picked
up and discovered and started operating
from it's not good it's not healthy to
keep it but sometimes if you have this
anger it does sometimes motivate
ourselves motivate us now by the way if
you use your anger to inflict upon them
your sin it's a ministry that's it's a
your your Saint anger and you're passing
it on you know and you're you're
teaching your children how to be this
way and it's a ministry the Ministry of
anger one things I have noticed is and I
kind of already knew it before but it's
really been driven home again just over
the last few weeks a lot of my anger is
what really is right underneath it it's
fear it's it's in it happen so quickly
that I don't even know that I started in
fear and actually went to anger because
the anger must have felt better and
because I noticed as I start to untap
that's usually what will be uncovered
first is some level of anxiety fear or
powerlessness and that which would make
total sense that would make you feel
fearful so one things I've been thinking
is that maybe what I in if I'm if when
it's not collapsing when I'm addressing
the fear head-on I mean the word the the
anger head-on try if I can if I can
figure out what part of me feels out of
control or out of you know frightened by
whatever and if I can even a tap away at
that maybe then the anger will collapse
to more easily there there definitely
are Laver layers to this anger is the
explosion of what is underneath it you
know you know it's the atomic bomb is
not that the mushroom assist an
explosion underneath it which is the
fear
which is the hurt which is the feeling
of being inadequate or the feeling of
being threatened or the feeling of harm
or whatever it is it's driving us so the
anger is just like trying to just make
you straighten up you know like the lady
who's foaming at the mouth you know
she's trying to straighten those people
up and of course behind it obviously or
apparently is the feeling of but
probably not being recognized or not
being honored or not feeling rejected or
feeling whatever that was that's behind
it so so it really breaks down to I'm
hurt I'm threatened my rules are
violated and it's our something fear
fear of pain and also it's also an
automatic emotional conditioning that
has been happening for years automatic
natural unconscious responses so when we
start addressing our biggest problem
which will we'll discover is really just
us you know and of course when you
become you know st. Linda anger ministry
you know quote calm I mean I mean we do
that and some people do the the the
guilty judgment ministry or do it my way
or the highway ministry you know which
you know again when you're born and you
come in this world one thing they're
always doing and that is trying to tell
you what to do
little baby they're trying to mold you
they're trying to curb you they're
trying to direct you they're trying to
force you they're trying to manipulate
you into doing something they go to
school they're trying to force-feed you
this education they're trying to change
you mold you and when Uncle Joe or
grandpa or whoever who had had the
negative impact on your life they're
still doing it to you the deal is what
we have to do is go back and change this
feeling of helplessness the feeling of
no control the feeling of whatever it is
that's underlying now that's that's one
of the biggest and major most
driving force is this helplessness
hopelessness feeling of no control
whatever it is is that that kind of
makes sense that's that's the basis I
mean cuz everywhere you go they're
trying to do that don't you think that
there are times when anger can be self
protective definitely it is all self
protective well because there's times
that if you could get angry about
something you could possibly deal with
it better so is there ever a time when
it's healthy to try to get angry well
when you can't feel any anger well I
thought you know that's an interesting
question well give me give me a scenario
that you think you should be anger but
you're not I mean for example that
helped me understand it okay what what
if one of your children have you loved
dearly
that's something that lets say hurt you
and you're having a hard time getting
over that you love them and if you could
just get angry with them for a little
while
you could protect your your yourself
that is so good basically well I'd like
to address this because this is really
good so basically what you're saying is
that say for example your child does
something and hurt you I'm not a person
who gets angry easily it's hard for me
to get angry even when I need to to
protect myself so there are times that I
want to get angry and I can't good now
now how many of you heard of this idea
this concept we need boundaries
boundaries alright now what is a
boundary boundary says I need this wall
of protection so I won't let you hurt me
right and if you cross the boundary I'm
going to get your elbows straighten it
up right well here's the problem you
remember we talked about that for
example the two models of the world all
right one is
right here my son my daughter the guy
next door my mother my father does
something and I am hurt right and if I
were angry if I could get angry I will
straighten them up and that right
defense right all right
so inside of this little diagram right
here we are hurt and we have this big
button right here pain or slash hurt
right all right so we have this button
inside of us from home kind of like it's
a vibrating with light you know like the
Sun the ones that you know push the
button and it says something stop it all
right this button right here so here it
is I have this button inside me and if I
got angry I will straighten this person
up they will stop doing it but here's
the problem we have this within us this
is the pain buttons or the hurt button
all right and so what we got what we
need to do we need to create as a
boundary so we're gonna draw this
boundary and the interesting thing is
you can have a square like a the
interesting thing is inside this
boundary guess what's inside of it I'll
read it again read out here can you read
it hurt and pain so what I should do is
allow this hurt and pain to radii
radiate out and straighten up Joe right
again what are we using we're using
anger to motivate and to correct whoever
will get to that part he said does
forgiveness come into it all right so
here it is we have hurt and pain and so
what we need to do is we get angry
enough we're gonna say stop that stuff
right but
what is motivating behind it what is the
power force behind this pain and hurt by
the way if you build a wall then I'm
going to create a boundary around me so
I'll be protected what is stuck inside
the walls okay so how are we to solve
this problem drifting back to the very
now this is the higher model of thinking
this is what enlightened people are
aware of by the way this is an
enlightened class us and within this
enlightened class we begin to discover
first of all inside of us inside of this
little hurt and pain we have some
processes I'm going to draw a little
circles like that up there inside of us
we already have hurt and pain and within
this hurt and pain we have memories to
support our hurt and pain
we have emotions feelings and sensations
to provide and build a certain pain and
then we also have sounds in our head and
we also have the how-to inside of us so
if if we're using hurt and pain to
explode with anger to straighten them up
guess what we also are administrating
hurt and pain and also we're also
teaching in order to get anything you
got to be angry and by the way you'll
justify it so what's the key the key is
going right in here and my son my
daughter my in-laws my whoever stirred
up what my ability to heal or to kill
myself now let me help you understand to
heal or kill yourself now in order to
heal what we want to do is start to make
peace in side our
that means if somebody something stirs
up some kind of a hurt or pain or anger
within you and if you explode you're
also giving hurt and pain which by the
way it is the Ministry of anger Ministry
of hurt and pain and you could you know
you could be you know the Saint in this
ministry I mean you could be disciple
Linda disciple Susan right all right but
if you realize that Joe is a gift from
God as a matter of fact this gift from
God has just stirred up your ability to
be angry or hurt and you say wow such a
great gift I'm going to tap and tell
this sucker than ever bother me again
if you use this as the gift to help you
heal then all of a sudden there is no
pain there is no hurt and when Joe acts
like that again you kind of laugh you
say stop that stuff and you don't
operate from hurt and pain you know what
I'm saying so the key is if they hurt
you stir you up if you're in the grocery
store line and you're bothered with a
capital P and you tap it out who is
spiritually improving must slow the
spirituality out who is emotionally
improving all right so we're what do you
how do you do this first of all you
eliminate the hurt button now how would
you do that well first of all you look
at Joe and think about what Joe said
what Joe did how Joe performed and then
you start releasing it now of course we
use the releasing process is the tapping
go back and feel it see it and make it
bother you again and tell Joe Joe could
say anything it says well interesting
behavior you like that feeling huh
double it because then when we begin to
realize that it's you every person every
opportunity will come to your door the
guy pulls in front of unit in the on the
highway and if you get upset that's your
gear
to heal now the part that kills you is
that you're gonna start blaming Joe
matter of fact you'll think about Joe
you laying bed and I can't believe Joe
just so mean to me and he hates me and
you think about how Obama or whoever
else that torments you and you're laying
in bed who are you who are you doing
this - it's you and you're trying to
kill yourself because what happens this
hurt and this pain will start affecting
your joints it'll start affecting all
relationships and if you practice enough
it'll wear you out and kill you have a
heart attack just rush you're so pissed
and pull me at the mouth so that's how
you do it you go inside you and the
moment now here's here's the deal when
you go and heal this you handle this
completely different completely
different so you're saying that we have
to go inside the hurt and pain to see
what's happened in the past it all cause
that to hurt us not necessarily but you
can so the deal is you don't have to go
into the past you go to how you know you
have the pain like say for example you
and I we're walking down the street and
I say something just really tears you up
and you're angry and and we part and you
got angry at first I want to get angry
oh but you hurt alright but I wanna get
now you have to understand here's
something that some people have been
programmed to do by your parents it's
not safe to get angry so what you so
it's okay to be hurt now anger and hurt
could be very similar there just felt
different okay so for some people you've
been taught you don't get angry so you
will not get angry you'll just get hurt
and you won't use that hurt to explode
but you could be angry by yourself and
you might haven't realized its anger
because you're rehearsing it feeling bad
over and over again and you and you you
know you may throw your coffee cup down
or whatever you do however you process
this see depression is really anger
turned inwards sadness and her rejection
abandonment and just self-loathing and
beating yourself up and find
fault and guilting yourself that's the
same thing as anger it's all basically
some of the basic stuff except some
anger is exclusive and others is
internally explosive it shows up and
joint pain it shows up and stomach
problems it shows up in all kinds of
weird ways so how do you fix it the deal
is if you're hurt release the hurt and
the difference is you will handle it
completely different to where it will
impact him to stop it and you'll say
something not out of the pain but out of
if the pain is not there you know what
you're gonna do you're gonna handle it
out of powers control so if you tap way
to hurt you have no longer had the need
to be angry no that would basically or
the it could be not just not additional
hurt it could be out of rejection
feeling rejected their feeling of
violated our feeling of whatever else
could be any emotional attachment there
so so the key is again
you can't fix him see the anger we're
gonna salmo it's you you know I'm gonna
fix you and that's what I did with I
said beat us so then they would beat us
until we totally submit you know as kids
and then breaking the spirit so to speak
but you know we're adults now you know
but if we operate from personal power by
releasing the pain and hurt then you're
gonna handle them in a very positive
powerful way and you know what they may
get upset because you're not playing the
game with them because they're used to
playing this game with you all right so
it's a nested loop I mean it's just like
a Love cycles mom I do this to you I
always do this to all my friends and you
won't play with me now what happens I
won't play with you they'll just go and
play for somebody else who who they can
torment and you can be at peace again
heal you release your stuff and as you
release your stuff you're gonna handle
them in such a powerful positive way and
you won't take it personal because you
realize he's speaking out of it
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