Have you ever wondered how long most men last in bed? I'm Dr Rena Malik urologist and pelvic
surgeon and today we're going to talk about the average time to ejaculation based on scientific
research if you're new here I make your logic content every Monday and Friday so if you like
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you to promescent for sponsoring this video let's start with the basics during any sort of sexual
stimulation a man reaches a certain level of sexual excitement and he sends signals through
nerves in the penis one of which is called the dorsal nerve of the penis to the spinal cord in
an area called the spinal ejaculatory Center this then triggers an ejaculation as a reflex meaning
once the signal for ejaculation has started you can't voluntarily stop it yourself your
body signals areas of the body that store and carry semen to contract including the seminal
vesicles the bladder neck and the VAS deference forcing semen into to the urethra the second
part of ejaculation is when there's muscular contractions of muscles around the urethra and
pelvic floor that essentially eject the semen out of the body the amount of semen ejaculate varies
from man to man but it's typically about 1.5 to 5 milliliters now let's talk about the average
time it takes for a man to ejaculate the time it takes can vary a lot depending on the individual
and the circumstances around the ejaculation so I'll be talking about ejaculation in the
setting of penile vaginal penetrative intercourse researchers did two studies evaluating nearly 500
heterosexual couples around the world and they were asked to use a stopwatch or a blinded timer
and time exactly how long they lasted during penetrative intercourse over multiple times
they had intercourse during four weeks now this doesn't take into account the time for foreplay or
other types of sex that don't involve penetration so when they took all the data and put it together
they found that the average man lasts about 5.4 to 5.7 minutes but there was a huge amount of
variability so you may be wondering okay if that's average how long do women want it to
last so there's a couple ways to look at this one study looked at Canadian sex therapists and they
asked them how long should it be and it's called the intervaginal ejaculatory latency and they
described it in a few different categories that it was adequate if it lasted three to seven minutes
and desirable if it lasts anywhere from 7 to 13 minutes however greater than that became a little
less desirable however when you look at studies that ask women how long they want sex to last and
that typically includes foreplay it ranges from 33 to 37 minutes but they want the penetrative part
to last about 14 to 18 minutes this discrepancy between what normally happens and what people
want can create a lot of issues in fact many men struggle with feeling like they're not lasting
long enough or they might be a rapid ejaculator or they don't have enough self-control around
ejaculation and we estimate that it's common in up to 20 to 40 percent of men and it can be
a real problem in fact scientific research proves that ejaculating before you or your partner wants
to can have a major impact on your psychological well-being and your quality of life Studies have
shown that men with premature ejaculation have less self-confidence less satisfaction with sex
and difficulties in relationships as well as feelings of embarrassment guilt worry tension
or even a fear of failure also we know that these negative issues are not only affecting the person
themselves but they're also affecting their partner and the worst part of all this is is
because of issues like embarrassment lack of knowledge about treatment options or feeling
like this is not something you want to bother your doctor with often prevents people from
actually seeing their doctor so there's many different different ways of treating early
ejaculation which can be really easy for you to access for example a lidocaine-based delay spray
is an over-the-counter medication that you can pick up online you just apply a few sprays to
the penis a few minutes before intimacy and it helps delay your ejaculatory response but it's
important to know that not all delay sprays are the same some generally are a little bit more
effective in performance and may also help reduce the chance that you'll transfer any
of that delay spray to your partner that's why I like the promescent delay spray it's a great safe
accessible option for men who want to increase their time to ejaculation and one that I often
recommend to my patients in fact it's the only delay spray product in the United States with
clinical data proving its efficacy plus it's available over the counter so you can buy it
without a prescription they use a proprietary formula that has anti-transfer technology and
a metered dough spray that quickly absorbs in about five minutes that means you can use it
without worrying you're going to transfer anything to your partner and once you figure out the number
of sprays that you need you'll be able to do that same thing over and over again in fact
they studied 91 men and they found that using this spray increase ejaculatory time on average
from 6.5 to 11.2 minutes that's almost five minutes longer they also saw that with this
delay spray the partner climax 50 more so it's a win-win for both check out promescent delay spray
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the 15 off and it will be automatically applied at checkout now despite what the studies say I
would argue that there is no right amount of time for sexual activity it's more about finding a pace
that's comfortable and enjoyable for both partners and even within the same individual that may vary
sometimes people want to have a quickie and other times people want to have a leisurely experience
what people think they want is often skewed by what we see or hear on the media from society
and they often make it sound like having sex all night is the greatest thing in the world yeah
sometimes it probably is but all the time probably not bottom line what matters is how you and your
partner feel about sex that includes foreplay and all other types of sex penetrative or not often
either the person penetrating or their partner has an unrealistic expectation of how long sex should
last and it's important to discuss that with each other to find out what exactly they're looking for
is it because they're not reaching climax or do they just want the whole thing to be longer and
more intimate in that case you can try to spend more time with foreplay consider other ways to
increase pleasure for you or your partner if you want to learn ways to increase pleasure in your
relationship make sure to check out my video on 10 ways to increase sexual pleasure I hope you guys
enjoyed this so much as always remember to take care of yourself because you're worth it [Music]
thank you [Music]