Hey, what's going on, Tripp Kramer here from Tripp Advice.com. Today we are talking about
confidence. Guys want confidence, women like to be with a confident guy. It is important to learn how
to be confident so you can be more attractive to the women that you meet. Also building confidence
is going to drip into all these different areas of your life. I remember when I first started to
learn how to meet women back in my early 20's. I remember that I was not a confident guy. I would
even say that I had pretty low self-esteem. And once I started to learn how to meet women
and it started getting a little bit easier for me and I started to see more results,
what I found was I started to become more confident in all these different areas of
my life. I became more confident with talking to family members and having hard discussions.
I remember being more confident around friends and social situations. I remember feeling more
confident with work calls and networking. I became more comfortable around people and socializing.
Confidence really is amazing and building it through the process of meeting women...
it's just crazy how much it can affect all these different areas. This wonderful domino effect of
all these different areas, just feeling better. I think because when you start to feel confident
in one area, you end up building self-esteem. And self-esteem is built through keeping the promises
that you make to yourself. If you're building confidence in some area, you build competence in
an area. That means that you've been doing things where you have been keeping the promises you're
making to yourself. You're saying hey, I'm going to go and talk to this many girls. I'm going to
try and approach girls. I'm going to set up an online dating profile and get pictures. You're
doing all these little mini steps these many things that start to build your self-esteem.
You start to see yourself as a valuable person. You start to give yourself value,
aka self-esteem. You look at yourself like a worthy person. Then the reason why you're around
people and feeling good is because you feel good about yourself. You are subconsciously thinking,
I should be totally allowed to be having this conversation with this person at this
time talking about whatever you need to be talking about, socializing with these people,
talking to big crowds, because you feel more worthy. That's how this is all connected together.
How you're going to do this is through competence. I've never heard of anyone ever building
confidence by just sitting here on their couch. It doesn't happen that way. It is a process.
And if you want to build that unshakable, crazy courage and confidence with women,
it is going to take crawling through the mud a little bit. I want to share with you something
real quick to interrupt. There is a free video I literally just remembered that I had,
that's true, it's called Instantly Confident. It's going to give you some more information,
a little bit of a deeper dive. It's completely free, you can get it. I'll just send it to
your email, click the link below. It's called Instantly Confident. It does a little bit more,
it gives you a bit more information, a little bit more work and exercises that you can do and
goes a little bit deeper. Check that out when you can. There's a link down in the description below.
But I digress, we're talking about how you can build confidence and start a little bit of an
introduction, a beginner's kind of confidence. And that is going to be by going out and talking
to women and putting yourself out there. I work with a lot of clients that are wanting to know
what's the quick fix to confidence and it's by going out there and getting rejected over and
over. Which sounds insanely counterintuitive. I know. You're thinking... if I go get rejected,
I'm going to feel like crap because I got rejected and I'm getting all this proof that women don't
want to talk to me. However, the crazy part about this is I found through myself and through other
guys that I coach and give this advice to, that when they go and do that, they don't end up
feeling as bad as you think you're gonna feel. You picture yourself feeling a lot worse. But there's
a lot happening here. You're thinking like oh, I'm just gonna feel this feeling of rejection because
I'm going out there and I'm getting rejected and talking to women and putting myself out there.
However, yeah that might happen and it will. I'm sure it will happen. You're gonna feel crappy when
you get rejected. But what's going to overpower that is the fact that you kept the promise that
you make to yourself to go out and actually do approaches, talking to women, go to parties,
socialize all that. You're gonna feel that burst of energy and that burst of self-esteem. Also,
you're going to be going through the motions and you're going to be proud of yourself for doing it
because you did something that's really hard. And you're expecting that you're just going to
get rejected by every single girl and that is not going to happen. You will have at least one girl,
if you do it enough times, that's going to give you a reaction where you're gonna be like okay,
that wasn't so bad. Or you're gonna get rejected by a girl and you're gonna laugh and you're gonna
go, that was really not that bad. I have a client that I'm working with right now. I'm pushing him
to do approaches and he told me just the other week he goes, I think I got the worst rejection of
my life Tripp. I go, what happened? I got to hear this. He goes yeah, I just went up to a woman and
the second I was about to say anything to her she goes "no, please stop, get away." And I was like
so how do you feel? And he says, I just laughed. It was so intense that it was so jarring that it
just made me laugh because it was funny. I didn't even say anything to her and she just pushed me
away. Which is funny because it reminds me of an old story when I did that. A girl was just like
"fuck you". I didn't say a word and she goes "fuck you". And I'll always remember that story because
it's funny. And you would think that that's probably the worst rejection because nothing
worse than that ever happens. What I'm saying to do here is I want you to build confidence through
meeting women in person, doing approaches, getting online on the dating apps and getting a
lot of first dates and doing a lot of this over and over until you callus up. Until you get a
little bit tougher, a little bit stronger, and you realize this isn't so bad. Like I said, a little
recap here, you'll build self-esteem because you're keeping the promises that you're making
to yourself, you're gonna realize the rejections aren't that bad, you're gonna be proud of yourself
for doing it and the feel good chemicals are going to be dripping from that because you accomplished
something. That's serotonin by the way. That is going to be huge for you. But you can't build the
confidence without competence. Please, as a PSA, don't sit at home. Don't even sit here and watch
all these videos to build the confidence. Use the information I'm giving you to go out. If you want
a deeper dive, check out my Instantly Confident video. I think it's only about 15 minutes long.
Just a little bit of a deeper dive if you're interested in this topic. Click the link down
below. It's completely free. Go grab that. Hit that like button if this was motivational
and this helped you. When I see those likes, it makes me know that you like this kind of content.
And of course, I will continue to create more. Hope that helps. I'll see you on the next video.