Looking to complete something or to finish what you've started
is an important element to creating success.
Except for
when it comes to trying to create an end
to something where there is no end.
And one of the reasons why people suffer so much,
is because they look for this point of endedness
in things that don't have an end.
They look to get it done,
When there is no way to get something done.
What if You Can Never Get it Done?
One of the most common pitfalls of a person's early spiritual practice,
and when I say early spiritual practice,
I want you to also keep in mind
that a person can technically be,
should we call it, stuck
in the early stages of spiritual practice,
for potentially lifetime,
is that they look for this point of endedness
within their spiritual practice.
They work incredibly hard,
often making themselves miserable,
trying to reach the finish line.
that finish line could be something like enlightenment,
or complete integration,
or wholeness,
or being totally healed,
or being so fulfilled that you have no more desire,
or being totally conscious with no more unconsciousness within their being.
Essentially, they strive relentlessly to be done in some way,
so that they can finally feel good.
What they don't realize,
until they experience years
of never being able to reach that finish line,
is that the finish line doesn't inherently exist.
They are chasing a receding horizon line.
Before I continue with the rest of this episode,
I should probably tell you something;
It might be tempting for you to believe
that I'm one of these beings within the universe
that is super relaxed,
and that loves being in the present moment,
and that is all about the journey, instead of the destination,
but that's actually not the case.
I'm an extremely driven,
achievement oriented being.
I love this feeling of movement.
There's nothing better
than that feeling of achieving something.
There's nothing better
than the feeling of actualizing your potential
and completely mastering something.
For that reason, what I'm about to say
carries a great deal more credibility.
When it comes to certain things,
you need to hold to the goal very loosely.
You need to treat that goal or that achievement
like a north star
that is pointing you in a certain direction.
Fall in love with the potential
of reaching that goal.
Fall in love with the potential
of the achievement,
knowing full well
that you may never make it there.
Indeed, no one may ever make it there.
When this is the case,
your goals become the thing which dictates your direction in life,
Not the measure by which
you determine your success or happiness or lack thereof.
It's also a guarantee that you're going to do things differently.
Why?
Because suddenly,
it means that the journey and the process
actually does matter,
in terms of your level of satisfaction,
during that process or during that journey.
If the means are crappy,
they're not going to justify the ends
if the ends never come.
So you can understand this,
I'm going to give you three basic examples
of things that don't have an end.
Or I should say, which MAY never have an end.
#1.
Enlightenment may never have an end.
Enlightenment is complete awakening and complete awareness.
it is to be able to resonate at the same frequency as source itself,
and as such, to be aware of what source is consciously aware of.
This includes self-realization.
It is to be able to perceive universal objective truth,
which is the amalgamation of all subjective perspectives.
Here is the problem with that:
Essentially, humans like to project
that source, or god, or the universe at large,
whatever you want to call it,
is in the state of endedness.
And that we as humans are somehow catching up to it.
But this is not actually the case.
If it were,
no universal expansion would actually be occurring.
Also, there'd be no reason for life itself.
Life being, this mechanism
through which the universe itself
learns, grows, tracks progression...
You get my point.
So the truth that most people are not willing to accept
is that source itself or the universe at large
has its own subconscious.
It is in the process of becoming more and more and more and more aware
of what it doesn't know that it doesn't know.
More and more aware of what can manifest out of pure potential.
This means it's in the process of awakening
in and of itself.
So, any enlightenment that can be attained,
is gone the next second,
because that barrier of knowledge within source mind itself
is constantly expanding.
There is no such thing as enlightened retirement
or spiritual endedness,
and even if there could be,
would the universe consciously choose that endedness,
over the exploration of all potential possibilities?
If you understood this,
any awareness you gained
would just be:
"The better it gets, the better it gets".
#2.
Another thing which is never-ending, is healing.
The self-help field, the spiritual field
and even the psychology field
are full to the brim, with people who are looking to get done
and over with relative to their healing.
Now, these people are the people that come to seminars
and go and see different experts,
looking for that one answer,
that one thing that is gonna be the end-all be-all
that's going to make them completely and totally healed.
Only they never find it, do they?
No.
Instead, they become discouraged,
finding layer after layer after layer after layer,
often of the things they thought they already healed,
which they need to heal.
Because they never reach this imaginary finish line of healing,
they feel discouraged,
a sense of futility and a serious lack of self-esteem.
As if they're just completely messed up.
The entire universe
which you are a part of,
and not just a part of, you are in fact, a fractal of,
is in a state of fragmentation.
Now i'm going to tell you today that if you truly grasped
the degree of fragmentation that has occurred
within the greater universe,
which is a mirror of you,
and if you truly could grasp
that all things in existence including other people
are a part of you,
therefore your state of healed
has to be mirrored by their state of healed,
it would become so overwhelming to you.
You would finally understand that potentially,
full-blown healing for the universe at large
and yourself along with it,
is not a one lifetime endeavor.
Essentially you'd stop thinking you could fix it all.
also you don't have to heal completely
to experience improvement.
It's quite common
that in the beginning of somebody's healing journey
or even spiritual practice,
they have this belief
that they have to completely heal something,
in order to experience feeling good.
But this isn't actually how healing occurs.
Every bit of healing will bring more and more improvement,
more and more relief,
better and better life circumstances.
So, if you looked at healing like it's going to be a lifelong process,
instead of rushing to get it all completed,
you would have the intention and desire,
but not desperation to fix it all.
Each time it became obvious that something needed to be healed,
you'd feel excitement that an opportunity
for things to be even better for you
has actually arrived.
And every time you experienced a healing to any pattern
or any layer within your mind, emotions or body,
you would have an experience of:
"The better it gets, the better it gets".
#3.
Another thing which may never end,
is desire.
~ Laughter ~
Even the desire to be free of desire,
is a desire.
Okay so here's the thing, desire is the thing
that is creating all of this expansion on a personal level,
and on a universal level, as well.
Desire is not the devil you've been taught that it is.
You only suffer, if you believe
what you want, you're never going to have
or if you're looking for there to be a day
where desire, somehow stops.
Meaning, if you believe that
if you get everything you want,
then suddenly, you won't want anymore.
That day will never come.
A desire cannot exist in you,
if it is not meant to be aligned with and thus actualized.
and desire will never end.
No matter how much you have,
no matter what you attain,
you will always, always want more
and want something else.
Joy must be separated from desire.
Lining up with desire can cause joy,
but joy can be in the continual expansion
and amendment of your desires.
If you know it will never end,
a relaxation about attaining all you desire, will occur.
Make peace with desire.
Make peace with contrast.
The unwanted and wanted which is giving rise to your desires.
If you can accept all of this,
then you will no longer make the achievement of everything you desire
that goal line of endedness,
where you believe that you're finally going to be completely happy.
Instead, your joy will be the result of continually amending
and adjusting and aligning with
and following your desires throughout the world.
and when this is the case,
you will have an experience of:
"The better it gets, the better it gets".
Now that you are getting a feeling for this concept,
I want you to ask yourself a question
about whatever it is that you're "wanting to get done".
Why do you want to get it done?
What do you imagine will be the outcome or consequence
if you do not?
Can you see any resistance inherent in that?
I want you to really look inside yourself for the answer,
instead of just making it wrong
that you want to get it done.
Because then, if you make it wrong,
your being is never going to be safe enough
to offer up the vulnerable answer to that question.
The desperate desire to get something done,
may just be an attitude of resistance to something specific.
For this reason, it may benefit you to watch my video titled:
Urgent! Deal with Your Resistance Before You Do Anything Else
Then, I want you to ask yourself:
"What if I knew today with a 100% guarantee
that there is no way to get it done,
and so I am never going to get it done."
What would you do differently today
and tomorrow, and the next day?
You will be able to find your genuine joy
when you answer this question.
Because the people who experience the most life satisfaction
are those people who would continue going towards a goal,
or following the north star
of their desire
to attain something or achieve something,
even if they knew
that they would never make it there.
Never achieve that,
never reach that goal line.
It is in fact the indication
of their love of the doing of something,
instead of the doneness of that thing.
For example,
Jacques Cousteau may have had the goal of exploring all the world's oceans.
It didn't matter if he didn't accomplish it in his lifetime,
that wouldn't stop him from going for it,
because he loved the doing of it.
Each time, the better it got, the better it got.
Each time he experienced more.
Another example is that a person who loves shadow work,
is not looking to get rid of their shadow
or reach a state of total consciousness,
even if total conscious awareness is a goal of theirs,
they follow it like a north star they may never reach.
The reason they keep doing it day after day,
is because they love knowing and seeing more and more.
They love the outcomes.
Each time the better it gets, the better it gets.
Each time their shadow work causes them to be aware of more.
The idea that there is endless possibility
for them to become more and more aware each day,
and a never-ending supply of things to become aware of,
is exciting to them.
Consider that if you desperately need it to be done or to end,
that you're not really in love with the doing of it.
And you did not come to this life
to hate the doing of your life.
Have a good week.
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But I want to personally thank you
for taking the initiative and having the bravery
to step into the space of awareness.
Not only for yourself, but for the benefit of those around you.
Subtitles by: Tanya Duarte