Ever felt completely jittery and hopeless? Ever felt like tearing your hair, biting your
nails and so petrified that you don't know what to do ahead coz you've lost all your
confidence? It can be a very painful place to be in and you know what which is why I've
decided that today we're gonna talk about what to do when you lose your confidence.
A very warm welcome to today's video. my name is Rima and today I'm gonna talk to you about
how you can actually bring back your confidence when you're facing really, really dark times
in life or at work but first and foremost what I want you to do is what I want you to
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Now the first thing I want to tell you is that when you lose your confidence, you have
to remind yourself that you are currently in the best place of life. Now you're gonna
wonder how can this really dark, hopeless place be the best place for me? Trust me,
the universe has a plan for you and life has a plan for you. Everything that you're experiencing,
feeling and thinking is actually for your growth, your evolution and for your best.
So if you're faced with this crazy wall in front of you and you feel like you've lost
all your confidence and all your hope don't worry. From this place, from this moment will
spring forth a wonderful solution which will be the best for your growth and evolution.
Always believe that the best is happening to you each moment and that you are at the
best place for your own inner growth. Now growth doesn't have to be comfortable always,
it could be very painful, very challenging but believe me, this too shall pass. Nothing
remains the same in life. We don't remain the same and nor do our problems. So things
are gonna change for you. They are going to get better. Just focus your mind on how you
can make things better even if you can do it just within your thoughts and always remind
yourself that the place where I'm at in life right now is the best place for my growth.
So I'm not going to complain.
Now the next thing, I want to talk to you about is how to give up on your resistance.
Now, this is very much related to the thought process that I spoke to you about, that believing
that you're in the best place for your inner growth will make things better for you. So
when you believe that the current place where you're at in life is actually good for you.
It’s good for your growth. That’s when you'll stop resisting and start accepting.
So let's say, you have a problem in your life. You probably just lost your job or maybe didn’t
do so well in your exams and all of this has lead to your confidence just disappearing.
Now tell yourself, I'm at the best place in my life for my own inner growth and I'm not
going to resist this problem. I'm going to accept it and see it for what it is. Because
if you're suffering and you're resisting your suffering, you're actually making things worse
for yourself. You know, rather than worrying or wishing about things that are not happening
in your life. You know why don't you just accept what's happening in your life because
when you completely accept the situation in front of you, you're able to find the courage
and the confidence to take some corrective action. but when you don't accept things,
you're feeling so out of control, so hopeless, so powerless that you will not be able to
take any corrective action and you will continue to remain in that place of powerlessness.
So yes, awaken to your power, first accept and then take action.
The third thing you can do when you've absolutely lost your confidence and feel completely hopeless
is take baby steps. That’s right. see no matter how powerless you're feeling, how hopeless
you're feeling, I'm sure there's one small single baby step that you can take towards
a solution and you never know which step could actually lead you to ultimate solution because
when we are faced with challenges in our lives and we've lost all our confidence, we don't
know what the solution to our problem is but we have ideas. Vague ideas, vague advice that
comes in our way. Vague solutions in our head, how about we start taking small baby steps
towards one particular method of resolving your problem? If you take one small step and
if that is the correct path, you will realise that you need to take another small step.
In such a manner taking small baby steps, towards the solution could bring you a little
further ahead than you were yesterday or day before. And before you know it, in a week's
time, in 10 days time, in a month's time, you would have covered a considerable amount
of distance away from your problem and you will be much closer to a solution. So don't
underestimate the power of small baby steps. How did you learn to walk? Just by trying
to take baby steps, right? agreed you fell a multiple number of times but you got up
again, picked up your confidence and started walking again, that's exactly what you need
to do all through life whenever you're faced with a new challenge and whenever you lose
your confidence. Get up and have the confidence to take one small step in the direction of
a solution and that step will take you a long way and will bring your confidence back.
Now the next thing you can do is, pat yourself on the back and give yourself a little credit.
Now you're probably wondering, I'm all down and out. I've lost my confidence, I’m completely
in despair. How do I celebrate myself? I've probably made so many mistakes. Now be a little
kind to yourself. Granted you may have made certain mistakes which may not have worked
out, which is why you're in this dark place of despair. But you know what, you haven't
given up. You’re still trying. You’re still trying to work things out. You’re
looking for a solution. Asking for advice, reaching out to people, trying to take some
sort of action and that my friend is called fighting spirit. That’s called fighting
resilience. That’s called the attitude of never say die, never give up in life. So if
you're doing so much and you're coming from a place of courage, please give yourself some
credit. Yes, you're going through a hard time but you haven't given up and that really speaks
highly about your character. So respect yourself, appreciate yourself. You know praise yourself,
pat yourself on the back and you know what, in no time, small sparks of confidence will
begin to spark and you will actually get your confidence back.
The next thing I want you to remember when you've lost your confidence is that failures
and setbacks are your best friends. Now I know no one wants to be best friends with
failure or setbacks or challenges or problems but you know what, problems are to be celebrated
and appreciated and failure is truly your best friend. I'm gonna tell you a personal
story of mine. A few years back, I actually went through a major setback. A major failure
in my life but the kind of inner growth, I have achieved through that failure because
I chose to learn from the lessons that failure taught me. That inner growth is stupendous.
Trust me, in hindsight, looking back I would not have my life any other way. There is no
other way I would want things and I would not trade that inner growth for any treasure
on this earth. You may think, I'm exaggerating but trust me when you live this reality, you
will relate to it. Failure is truly your best friend because failure really, really teaches
you the core, the most important, the most profound lessons in life. so don't be afraid
of failure and right now if you're going through failure and you're feeling like you've lost
your confidence, it's okay, believe me, you've just met your best friend. So all you need
to do is, be willing to learn from failure and this, like I said earlier, this too shall
pass. So yes life is a series of ups and downs and ups and downs and that's what life is
all about. It’s like a wave so just ride the wave, be willing to learn from failure
and don't let your confidence go away. In fact, keep it up, each time you face failure,
be willing to learn from it and make failure the cause for future victory. When you think
about failure like that, there is nothing that can hamper your confidence.
So there you go. So many different ways in which you can bring back your lost confidence.
Trust me, it's actually quite easy if you put your mind to it. If you want to think
in the direction of confidence and not think in the direction of failure, you are gonna
overcome this. Well, I truly hope that you've enjoyed today's video, this is me Rima saying
bye and take care. I'm gonna catch you super soon with yet another fantastic video, till
then keep watching Skillopedia, the place to learn skills for the real world.