Would you rather meet 30 women a month and go on multiple dates? Or meet almost
no women and go on no dates? Now, that sounds like a silly question, but there's
one simple factor that most dating coaches never talk about, yet it can
dramatically help or just totally cripple your success with the ladies.
My name is Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man and this is how to set up your
lifestyle so you meet women everywhere.
First, let's talk about where you actually live. I get a lot of clients that are frustrated because they live
in a small town of like under 50,000 people. And they're complaining that they can't
get enough dates and they can't find enough women to approach. And that's just
because their town is too small. I'm originally from Greensboro, North Carolina
where I went to high school, which has about 200,000 people which, for me,
was way too small. There weren't enough attractive women so I moved to
Newport, Beach California which had a lot more attractive women. And the number of
dates I got went way up. So you have to know your values and decide what's more
important to you. If dating and finding your dream woman and getting this part
of your life handled is high on your list of priorities and values, then you
might want to pack up and get out of that small town. Now, when you're picking
your city, I highly recommend a walking city versus a car city. What I mean by
that is some cities, there's people walking around everywhere like New York,
South Beach, Miami, London, and Paris. A lot of big cities also have a big district
where people are walking all over the place versus like Greensboro where I was
from. There was really no area of walking where you would meet women or Houston or
even Los Angeles is mostly a driving city. And of course it's gonna be much
easier to meet women when they're just walking right by you versus in a car.
"Hey, girl what's up?"
That rarely works. Now, you found your perfect walking city. Now,
where do you live in that city? You can live smack-dab in the middle of the city
or you can live a little bit further away, save some money, and maybe live in
the suburbs. But it's gonna be a lot harder for you to meet women versus just
walking outside your condo and there's beautiful women everywhere.
Plus, you're dating logistics aren't gonna be nearly as good if you have to
bring her 30 minutes to your house. So again, you got to decide what's more
important. You want to save 500 bucks or do you want to be able to meet women
everywhere and walk outside of your place and there's women? You can move to
the suburbs when you want to have kids, not when you want to meet girls. Plus, if
you live really close to your date spots, her coming back to your place is a much easier
decision, than her having to drive 30 minutes away.
Woman: By the way, where do you live?
Matt: Just down the street. Woman: Oh, wow!
Plus, when you're on your dates
walking from location to location is much better than having to drive from
location to location. Because you can walk arm-in-arm.
It's easier to talk have eye contact. You can be a lot more spontaneous and
pick venues that you see as you're walking by. Versus you both
drove to the venue and then you have to both drive to the next venue and then
both drive back to your house, in separate vehicles. Unless, you have a
really nice car and you're picking her up for the day, then in my opinion,
walking is usually better than driving. So, I'm actually filming this in Manila, Philippines
right now where the condo I'm in, is actually attached to a mall. So,
I don't even have to go outside to meet women or go on my dates. It's a very
seamless transition to suggest going back to my place. Plus, there's a club
right outside the condo and I've actually met girls in the club and
suggested "hey, let's go to my condo right next door and do some shots," and they're totally
down because they can be back in like five minutes.
By the way guys, I created a free conversation cheat sheet that shows you exactly what to say in
different situations, create a flirty romantic vibe, and so that you never run
out of things to say. Check it out, there's a link down in the description.
Next, let's talk about who you live with and of course living alone is going to
be one of the best options for obvious reasons. The second best option is living
with somebody who's really good with women or an actual woman. Particularly an
attractive one, who is willing to go out with you and meet girls together. She can
serve as your wing woman, she can talk you up. Plus just being there with an
attractive woman makes you look a lot safer and your attraction goes way up.
It's called pre-selection. The women that see you with her will assume that you
have attractive qualities because you're with this attractive girl. Now, it's
probably not a good idea to sleep with your roommate wing girl. That can get a
little bit awkward, she might fall in love with you but at the same time, maybe
she's open-minded like a roommate I once had who you know, we would go out, meet
girls together and then sometimes, we didn't meet any girls and we'd go home
together and hook up. So, if you find a girl like that, probably your best option.
Now, having a guy roommate who's good with girls is another great option
because of course, you can go out and wing each other. And, he can take
them for the team, jump on that grenade, if necessary. If you have a wingman who
is horrible with girls, well that can hurt your chances sometimes. Especially,
if you bring a bunch of girls back to your place. Now, if you have to actually
share a room with your roommate, then make sure you guys have codes. Put a sock
on the door when you bring a girl, and make sure he knows to leave as soon as
you bring the girl back. Now, some of you might have really bad logistics .Maybe,
you live with your parents, and you can't bring any girls back or you're living
with your ex-girlfriend, and you're just trying to save up money to get out. Well,
get out as soon as possible, but in the meantime, you can still go on dates. You
can suggest getting a hotel room. One way that I used to do that is after we
bounced around to a few different venues. Maybe, it's like two or three hours in
the date. We're having a great time. We're kind of going on this mini-adventure together.
I would say "hey, you know it would be fun. Let's sneak into a hotel and see if they have a hot tub and we'll
sneak into the hot tub" and she'd be like, "yeah, let's do it!"
and so we'd go to a nearby hotel and
scope it out a little bit. But it would seem a little bit hard to actually sneak
in, so at this point she already like has the idea of hot tub in her mind. So, I'd say
"hey, let's just grab a room and then we can use the hot tub"
and I might put a restriction on it like, "but you have to be good, okay? We have to try to behave."
And that would actually work and of course the other option is you can
screen for her logistics, find out where she lives, who she lives with, and suggest
going back to her place. Now, what about actually setting up your lifestyle to
meet women. Well, if you are in college or go to a university, then this is kind of
done for yo, there's women everywhere. So my friend, if this is you, take advantage of it.
I've met so many guys on college campuses that run into me, recognize me,
or see me approaching girls, and they tell me that they never approach. Are you
out of your mind? That's literally the best place to approach. After college,
chances are you're not going to be in that kind of situation with girls all
around you. So for you guys, I got a few rules for you to help you out.
Rule number one is anytime you're going somewhere in the city, whether it's to
the gym, to work, to go to a class, or a meetup group, or any events, arrive 15
minutes early. Because if you had to walk to that event, that gives you enough
time to approach a few girls on the way and get their phone numbers. And if you
drove there, and it's public place in the city, then chances are
there's gonna be people around. And you can find some girls to talk to. Another
rule is to only buy enough groceries for two days. So this forces you, after two
days, to go back to the grocery store. So it forces you to get out of your house
and be in public again. And pick a healthy grocery store like Whole Foods
or Mother's Market because there'll be a lot more attractive women there than
shopping at Walmart. Plus, if you're eating healthy, you'll live longer.
Therefore, you can go on more dates. You're welcome. Another good habit is to
go for a 20-minute walk once a day. I like to do it after I eat dinner before
the sun goes down and go to a public place; a park or just around the city. And,
there'll be plenty of women for you to approach. Now, if you're doing this every
day around your house or your condo, then there's a chance you might run into the
same women or you might hit on a girl's friend that you already went on a date
with. That actually happened to me one time in Moldova. I was with her for three
weeks and I went on already like three or four dates with this girl and I met
her right in front of my condo and then a couple days later, I think was after
our third or fourth date, I run into her best friend. I didn't know that at the
time but I got her best friend's number, sent her almost the exact same text. So
they sent the original girl that I'm dating and the original girl called me
up and said hey you just met my best friend, you just approached her the same
way and sent her the same exact text. I just said, "what can I say, I have good taste."
So, if that happens, if you're worried about running into the same
girls even accidentally like approaching the same girls, don't worry about it, man.
Just own up to the fact that you're attracted to pretty girls and that you
go and talk to them and if you own up to it and it's no big deal for you, then
it's not gonna be any big deal for them either. And if it is, so what? Just
approached another girl. Just don't act like you did anything wrong, you're a man
and you're attracted to pretty girls and you like to go talk to them. There's
nothing wrong with that. It's still okay to be straight. Another idea to motivate
yourself to get out of the house more, meet more women is to get a dog. Because then you're
gonna have to take him for a walk. And you might meet some cute female dog owners. Best wingman ever!
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other videos you'd like us to make. So now, you move to a big city, you're living
in the center, and you have a few habits that get you out meeting women on a
daily basis. Let's ramp things up even more and do some activities and join
some classes that involve women. You can try dance classes, usually full of
beautiful women. So our yoga classes and any fitness
class, for that matter. You can also try an art class or a cooking class. Chances
are it'll be mostly women. You can also try a singles mixer. Perhaps on
meetup.com or online dating live events from OkCupid or PlentyOfFish, for
example. And in my experience, the guys at these events are not very cool.
They usually dress really bad and are really shy so chances are, you'll do
really well. And another option is to have a hobby or an actual job that
involves women, such as being a photographer. You can create an Instagram
account, buy an expensive camera, and just take a couple classes on photography and
then start advertising and hit up some of these, maybe less famous Instagram
models, who want to build up their portfolio. And just offer a free shoot or
you can try to intern at or even work for a modeling agency or he'll just
start one. If you're a younger guy, you can try being a club promoter or being a
bartender, you'll meet a lot of women that way especially if you like
nightlife. Or you can just become a dating coach. I meet a lot of women when
I'm out teaching guys haven't meet women. I have to demonstrate or you can play in
a band. I did that for 10 years and any time I got off stage, I would meet a lot
of girls. They would usually approach me or I would just go up to them and say,
"Hey, are these yours? I think you throw these at me."
I even had a buddy that once worked at Victoria's Secrets and he claimed to get a lot of phone numbers
from the customers. I even found an article of him that says he went to work
for Victoria's Secret where he discovered a knack for pleasing
customers. I'm sure he did, but I don't really
suggest that you date women at work especially if you live in the U.S.
nowadays. But, I'll make a video on that topic, just in case you want to take that
risk. And I'll show you the best way to go about it. So, if you're subscribed to
the channel, then you'll get notified when I record that video. So now, let's
say you've set up your lifestyle and you have really good logistics for meeting
women as well as for going on dates. What the heck do you actually say? Well, I
created a free conversation cheat sheet that shows you exactly how to start the
conversation, how to keep things going so that you never run out of things to say,
and how to escalate and move things forward all the way to the bedroom. If
you don't have it, then download it now. There's a link down in the description
and to the right of this screen and if you want live training in-person where
we show you how to meet and approach women in any situation, then check out
our boot camp schedule. We're all over the world, so chances are we're coming to a city near you.
My name is Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man and I'll see you in the next video!