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All right, so in today's video,
I thought it would be a fun little exercise
to imagine if I were having people over for dinner,
you know a nice, small dinner party.
Who would I invite of the 16 personalities?
Who would I want there
to create a nice, social atmosphere and, you know,
have a good time and all that?
It's not just about who do you wanna be with,
but it's like, who's gonna get along with other people?
And what do they bring to the table
with the social dynamic?
It's a lot to think about.
So I'm gonna pick six.
I think six is a good number,
plus me, that's seven for a dinner party,
the six types I want at my dinner party!
Why am I doing this with every one? (laughing)
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Okay, so before I start inviting people,
I gotta get into some dinner clothes, okay?
I gotta dress up a little bit.
Let me snap my fingers and change my clothes. (fingers snap)
Okay, so here I am.
I've got on a blue Oxford shirt,
a standby of any man's wardrobe,
with a black and white diagonal stripe
on the tie, on the skinny tie.
So you've got this mix of the old and classic
with the new contemporary.
But enough about me and what I'm wearing.
Let's get on with this experiment.
Who would I invite to this dinner party
of the 16 personalities?
And of course, look,
I would never invite people to a dinner party
based on their personality type.
(laughs) That's just dumb.
This is all for fun and games and all that.
So if I don't invite your personality type
to the dinner party, do not be offended.
In fact, you probably prefer not to be invited.
I don't know, it's probably not
gonna be that fun of an event if I'm hosting it.
Let's get real.
So what type do I want there first?
All right, so we've gotta think.
We just gotta get an extrovert there.
Probably an EJ, someone who is
going to just be talking all the time.
Someone who's gonna take the pressure off me
to keep the conversation going.
Perhaps even someone who just loves to entertain,
loves to, you know, get people feeling good,
have a good vibe going on.
And maybe even is gonna go so far
as to bring some food or beverage with them.
So you might see where I'm going with that.
I think first up, we gotta invite an ESFJ
to our dinner party.
Let's get this on the board,
make it official.
My handwriting is terrible
when I'm turned around like this.
All right, that was an important one to take care of.
We need to make sure that there's gonna be
someone there mixing stuff up.
But you don't wanna invite all introverts,
'cause then you just having a bunch of people
sitting around the table, not saying anything.
And you'd also don't want all extroverts either,
or you're gonna walk in the house,
and it's gonna be a shouting match
as all the extroverts try to be heard over one another.
So let's invite, so hey, guys. (laughs)
So let's invite an introvert next.
Let's see, who do we wanna invite?
You know what, I've got some,
someone who's gonna have interesting conversations.
Someone who maybe isn't gonna say a whole lot,
but when they do say something,
it's gonna be this well-formulated thing.
It's thoughtful, it's insightful.
You're like, "Whoa, that's, that's pretty bright.
Thank you for adding that to the conversation."
I think next, let's invite an INTJ.
I think that fits the bill.
Not gonna be talking their head off,
but is gonna come in with some insightful stuff
into the conversation, some thoughtful stuff.
Looking at things from angles you maybe wouldn't expect.
I think it's a good choice.
Okay, so so far, we got ESFJ, INTJ, and those two types
are maybe not gonna get along with each other.
They've, they (laughs)...
So we gotta have some friends for them to have.
Let me think about this for a second.
While I'm thinking about my next pick,
why don't we stop momentarily,
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Also it's gettin' really sunny behind me.
I feel like I look like I'm coming out of heaven right now.
Like this is "Touched by an Angel,"
and you know, I'm just like, I'm Roma Downey right now
being like, "Oh no, we're actually angels."
That was the worst Roma Downey impersonation ever. (laughs)
Anyway, great, that was really great, Frank.
Let's make a reference to a show
no one has seen in 20 years.
Okay, but you know what?
I think the person, I think the type
that can bridge the gap between the ESFJ and INTJ,
and also keep the conversation going
with a lot of really cool, uh things. (laughs)
A type that's funny, a type that is charming, witty,
a type that is just gonna
take anything you throw at them in a conversation
and come up with something weird to say back to you,
to keep it interesting, shake things up.
I think that type is an ENFP,
I think they would fit in great.
They have something in common,
a little bit with both of those types.
And I think the INTJ will appreciate
kind of the creative, intuitive way
that the ENFP's mind works.
The ESFJ will just be cracking up
at all the jokes that the ENFP is coming at them with.
So I think that's the third person we're gonna invite.
Okay, much better.
I do not feel like I am burning up anymore.
Okay, so this is interesting.
We've got an EJ, an IJ, and an EP.
So we gotta invite an IP type.
We gotta balance things out a little bit, I guess.
Now here's the thing,
if I was just really trying to
balance out the types that I have on here,
the letters that I've got on the board,
I might say an ISTP, 'cause we don't have a,
we'd also have an SF, an NT, and an NF,
but we don't have an ST type yet.
But you know what?
An ISTP probably isn't gonna enjoy
going out to dinner very much.
I mean, honestly, any IP type might be like,
"I don't wanna go."
Or there'll be, (laughs) they'll be like,
"Yeah, I'll be there," and then not show up.
But you know what, now that I think about it,
I'm just gonna go with that.
The ISTP if we invite them,
they will probably not talk much.
They will probably feel awkward.
But if you get them talking about something
they're interested in,
and this is somethin' about the IP types,
all of 'em in general,
is that a lot of times they're really quiet,
and they won't say much,
but then once they hit a vein of conversation
that they're interested in, especially the TI types,
INTP, and ISTP, if they start,
if the conversation turns toward
what they are interested in,
what they find fascinating and compelling,
they just won't stop talking.
They will be the type at a party
who maybe will kind of corner you,
and talk your ear off the whole time
about something you don't even understand.
But in the the presence of these other types,
I think it'll work.
I think we can make it work, guys.
Okay, let's then invite the ISTP.
And we'll be like, okay, (laughs)
it's a risk if they show up,
but I think he or she is gonna have a good time.
T-P, all right, we've got,
we've got a good-looking group so far.
Now, maybe I should put it up here.
We can only invite two more.
I'm freaking out.
I don't know, how are we gonna pick?
Who is gonna fit into this group at this point?
Everything is very balanced right now with this guest list.
We have an equal number of thinkers and feelers,
equal number of sensors and intuitives.
And we can keep it that way,
because we have an even number,
you know, so we can make it work out.
We also have one of each of the temperaments.
So an IJ, an EJ, an EP an IP.
All equal, but that cannot stay equal.
We're gonna, it's gonna end up
getting to a point where there's gonna be
two of one of those temperaments,
and two of another one of those temperaments.
And then with the two letters in the middle SF, NT, NF, ST,
which really gives the flavor of their communication,
that's gonna become out of balance too.
So we gotta start thinking about,
what's the general feeling we wanna have at this party?
Probably don't want a party that's very ST-heavy.
So we're not gonna invite another ST type.
Now of these other three,
ah, this is really hard,
because they all bring something good to a party scenario.
Not that the ST wouldn't be,
but if we want maximum fun, probably not. (laughs)
You know what, I think we've gotta invite
another SF type.
Because the SF types,
they're just all about the enjoyment of life.
What is good in life, in the real world,
that we can experience?
Let's do that, let's appreciate that.
Let's have a good meal together
and enjoy this time of gathering hypothetically
with other types.
So I'm just gonna put SF down for now,
then we'll fill out the type.
If we're looking at SF, we have an SF type there,
what temperament do we want to surround that with?
We already have an ESFJ,
so we're not gonna invite two of the same type.
Uh, I think actually,
maybe we wanna go for an ESFP.
Someone who is really just all about
being in the moment,
enjoying the moment as it is right now,
finding new experiences.
They're always a good friend to have,
because they're always up for whatever you wanna do.
They are spontaneous.
We could invite them two minutes before,
they'll be there at the dinner party,
assuming they didn't have some other plans.
The other thing is, I think that they will
get along pretty well with the other types.
The INTJ, they're the opposite type,
at which you might think,
"Oh, well, if they're opposite they won't get together."
Well, I think they will.
And I think they will have a good synergy, if you will.
They share the FI with the ENFP
so they'll be vibing on that level.
Maybe not get along with the ISTP as well,
but they do both have extroverted sensing.
That might help out with their communication.
I don't know.
ESFP's got enough people to get along with.
ESFJ, ESFP they get along great.
No worries about that.
So, yes, fifth spot locked in, ESFP.
So now we have to come up with one more type.
This is a lot of pressure.
There's gonna be so many people disappointed
that they're not invited to my party,
my dinner get-together.
Ah, I hate letting people down like this.
So we gotta figure out do we want more NT,
or do we want more NF?
Ah, uh.
Well here's something to take taken into account,
we have three introverted feelers,
the ESFP, INTJ and ENFP.
And we have two extroverted feelers, ESFJ and ISTP.
So maybe we should find a type
that has extroverted feeling in the middle.
So basically we're looking at an ENTP or an INFJ.
Which one do we want?
ENFP and ENTP have the same dominant function.
They both extroverted intuitives.
So if you invite the ENTP along,
and have the ENFP there, they could go crazy.
It could, they could dominate.
It could be an extroverted, intuitive explosion
all night long.
It would be utter chaos.
Like, how are we gonna contain them?
But if we have an INFJ come along,
they're the same as the INTJ,
they're both introverted intuitives.
You know, they're not gonna go crazy,
but maybe they will just be hanging back so much,
taking in everyone else
and just mirroring what they see with other people.
It would be weird, or maybe it would be good. (laughs)
I'm actually convincing myself with that.
If we invite the INFJ,
they're called the chameleons of the MBTI.
They can become just like any other type.
So, you know what, for that reason, yes.
Final invitee is an INFJ.
Bam!
And I didn't plan that.
I bet a lot of you were like,
"Oh Frank, you just saved that for the end,
because you know, you want people to watch the end."
I did not want to invite an INFJ,
but here, here they are on the list right there.
What is that? It's barely an arrow.
It's just like a squiggle.
But there you go, there's my six types
that I would invite to my dinner party
to break bread with me.
Let me know down in the comments,
what six types you would invite to your dinner party.
And no, you cannot cheat and just pick one type
and six of the same type.
No, none of that.
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