watch out for this mistake when you're learning NLP stay tuned this is Damon
Cart from NLP Gym what is the NLP trap if you haven't already please click
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the NLP trap is basically focusing only on NLP and only looking at NLP to find
answers and to solve problems the paradox to this is if you really
want to get good at NLP learn it use and take what is useful and then move on
to other disciplines using NLP to learn other disciplines and the strange thing
is is in your NLP skills will get even better opening of every module I feel
the need to give some sort of inspirational speech so that I can
motivate you to be excited and enthusiastic about learning NLP for the
rest of the weekend cool right what if I told you that you should learn
a lot of other stuff besides NLP a great way to start off the weekend I said well
there's a in when you're learning any discipline and NLP is a great discipline
to learn in order to evolve and I found that it's been one of the greatest
things that I've learned or discipline that I've taken on in order to learn and
to evolve learn other disciplines and evolve myself as a person Yoga has been
another one and as I'm doing this I'm realizing that there is more to learn
beyond NLP and on the journey of evolving yourself on the journey of this
journey of learning NLP hopefully you come to a point or hopefully you realize
that there's so much more than NLP and then that and then realizing that and
understanding that NLP will become much easier to learn and it becomes much more
useful so I'm not advocating that you not learning I'll think that would be
really strange of me to to be teaching a class where I tell you
not to learn an LP and when I think for myself I got kind of caught in well this
is this is not the way like nobody who has never been a religion for me but I
thought that I could sort of pass everything through in NLP and NLP would
make me better at anything that I wanted to do and in a sense that's true in a
sense that's not true in the sense that it's true is that
through this it'll be journey for me I've discovered that NLP is not all that
it is and I think NLP strangely enough helped me understand that and how I
understood this once I was in a training a few weeks ago in San Diego and I met
someone who whose skills exceeded mine and what I had to understand very
quickly is that's because he didn't stay with just an LP he evolved beyond it and
it just shined a light on my shadow my shadow being that whenever I couldn't do
something that I wanted or couldn't achieve something that I wanted or I was
having a block or something like that I dealt back into NLP to try to figure
that out and solve that problem about 80 70 70 to 80 percent of the time it
actually worked and that's because this technology is quite amazing but 20 to 30
percent percent of the time it wasn't working and what I realized is that
because you have to get out of NLP you have to then learn other disciplines and
what that does is it will reflect back on NLP what's missing and what's great
about it and it'll highlight what is most useful for you it can be quite
overwhelming and I think in the first module that we did I think people were
overwhelmed and I was practicing with a friend of mine Gugu she has no NLP
training and I purposefully picked her to practice with because I wanted
someone who was not going to go along with everything that I was telling her
to do because she goes oh I know what he's doing he's he's looking for my
positive intent or he's anchoring me I need to go with that I wanted someone
who was completely oblivious to NLP Tecna
to work with me so that she came in like a blank canvas she came in free of any
of the jargon and the processes and the presuppositions or anything like that
and a really strange thing happened she was so hard to work with and not for
the reasons that you would think someone would be hard to work with she was hard
to work with because it's the first thing she asked me when I said I want
you to come over and I want to practice and I'll be with you to prepare for this
training and she says what homework do I need to do and I was like no I know what
I don't want you to do any homework I don't want you to go read up on an LP I
want you raw I want you where I don't you're not going along with what I'm
telling you to do I want you to be completely free of this so that it's a
true test of my ability to be able to work with you and I didn't go into that
much explanation I said no no just don't do any homework just show up so she
shows up and I started doing a process and she was having a lot of trouble with
it and I'm thinking okay you know use my flexibility flexor and this move around
it and she's still struggling she's still struggling and then I realized
what it was and it linked back to her asking me if there was any homework to
do she went into total student mode student
mode in the sense of public school student loan and she was really
concerned about whether or not she was doing it right and I was like no no no
no it's more an issue of whether or not I'm doing it right you just be who you
are and finally she let her guard down and was just doing it like a normal
person would not doing it thinking what does Damon want me to do and when that
happened in the process we got through the process and it worked and she even
texted me the next day and said you know I didn't really buy it even after you
did the process but now I keep firing this anchor in my heart and it's working
and I was like well of course it of course it does this stuff is amazing it
really works but I think that happens in NLP trains I think people come in and
they started saying you know I didn't go into that student mode and they want to
please the teacher and that can be that can come out in many different ways you
might be showing up here saying I want to be able to get this stuff because I
want to understand what Damon's doing and I wanted to validate that we're in
this together right we're teaching you you're learning and if you break down
and not and you're not learning and somehow you're breaking rapport with me
or you know I'm doing what I want you to do and so what I'm gonna invite you to
do and it's completely empty yourself of that for the entire weekend and you
might feel it start to crop up again am i doing it right is is gonna give me
some feedback that says you know I'm not doing it right or just completely empty
yourself with that and that's how you're gonna get the most out of this and also
be playful about what you're learning here some of you are also coming in with
NLP training or in fact actually I think old your you have a little bit okay
friends you have lots of the healthy training roast you've had it don't be
training so that you down and then James has got it just because he's around me
enough took the internet to receive it drop all that to and when when I took on
this training when I decided I want to do this I didn't go and find seek out
the material of people whose courses I've already taken and I at first
actually that's what I attempted to do and then I got a roadblock and then they
came back said yeah you can go ahead use it for that by that time I had already
moved on and I specifically decided to do the material that Steven Connery
andreas created because of how meticulous they are and how chump down
it would be in that it would be a long training and I think this is really the
only way to really do a practitioner training the other reason I did it is
because I knew it was going to be different than anything I had done
before and if I was going to learn something it needed to be different it
couldn't be the same thing that I had already learned from another course or
the training what this means or what I'm getting at is that it's in the
differences and the differences of things I knew early on it was an
instinct of mine that I knew that I wasn't going to get everything from one
an Okie teacher I knew I was going to get everything from two and healthy
teachers I knew I need to go and visit a lot of NLP teachers to
give more dimension to my understanding of my learning of the healthy you and
now I'm getting the point where I'm starting to realize there also needs to
be other disciplines I need to learn other things outside of NLP and that is
an evolution of my learning NLP that's where it is where it's taken me so when
you're when you're learning this stuff I noticed a lot of people clear an
enormous amount of pressure on themselves to do it and so that fits
with wanting to be a good student this is a program that was probably created
in here when you were a student but there's also this idea of well when I
know NLP and then I will be able to do XYZ I know I carried that around for
myself for a very long time and so I want you to let go of that too because
you already have all this potential in you NLP is going to help shine the light
on that it's going to help you develop that potential but life doesn't stop
until you learn in Ltd and keep it at NLP and then you can have all the things
that you want now you can have it all right now it'll be the teacher that is
already in you and that was a focus where I started last module was that if
I can project on to any object or any intangible thing like a relationship or
an idea or concept and I project onto that if I once I have that then I'll be
fulfilled I'm projecting that state on to that
thing and if I'm projecting it that means I already have it in me I don't
have to wait to get to get that thing to experience that state and be fulfilled
and so that's the same thing we're doing here it's not when you learn NLP it's
this is just a new discipline for some people or for some people it's a refresh
of a discipline among many disciplines that is going to give you multiple
perspectives which will give you a lot of skills and ultimately will be
fulfilling because you'll be growing and you'll be actualized in your potential
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