Matt: Is it really possible to create sexual tension immediately with a random woman
that you've just met? And can this sexual tension be so intense that it actually
turns her on it makes her feel aroused? Let me tell you man, it's all about
creating that movie moment that pretty much every woman fantasizes about yet
they hardly ever experience it! My name is Matt artisan from The Attractive Man,
and this is how to create sexual tension immediately.
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Matt: This is really important because when you do this you're pretty much
never gonna land in the friend zone again. There are five key points to make
this work and not come off as creepy. There's a fine line between having a
sexual vibe that creates tension, and being creepy. "Hey baby!"
And you'll want to vary the intensity depending on the situation. For example
at work, I don't recommend doing this at all. Whereas during the daytime at maybe
a park, at a mall, a coffee shop, wherever. You can definitely play around with this
and definitely use it. Same thing on a date, and even at a bar or club you can
amp it up a lot more. And of course it also depends on the girl, some girls are
into it right away. They're - you know, they can activate their sexual feminine vibe
very quickly, other girls are a little bit more closed off sexually and they're
not gonna be reciprocating right away. But don't give up. Practice and fine-tune
the things that I'm about to teach you and you're gonna get awesome results.
First, I want you to focus on feeling sexual in your body. Don't be afraid of
your own turn on, your own masculine sexual energy. Now I know sometimes
Society tells us that this is wrong but **** Society. Social norms are often very
wrong, it used to be the norm to think that the world was flat. Now, a word of
warning: Don't do this at work. You will get fired. Now once you get used to it
you can turn it on and off pretty much at any moment, especially when you're
talking to a woman, you'll allow that just sexual part of you just to elevate.
When you're talking to a guy, not so much. So one way to get into that sexual state
is think about a past sexual experience. One of your best and most favorite
sexual experiences. Go ahead and take a second to do that right now. You may not
want to look at me while you're doing that. Now after you've thought about that
experience, doesn't that change the way you feel just a little bit? Don't you
feel like you're in a different state? You're a little bit more calm, relaxed,
you probably have a subtle, sly smirk on your face right now. Well guess what? Now
you have a more sexual vibe, and beautiful women can feel that. Now I'm
not talking about the pickup artist, Leisure Suit
Larry type vibe where you're like... "Heeyy baabyy!" If that's the case, you need to tune
it down. That's way too much. Now one way you're gonna convey this new vibe is
through what I call the "Look of Desire" which is more than just having strong
eye contact. Because you can have strong eye contact with a girl and it looks
very creepy. Not good. This however, is a very specific look I want you to look at
her with appreciation. Appreciate her feminine beauty. Women love to feel
desired by a powerful, masculine man. So when you look deep into her eyes she can
actually feel that masculine essence. She will feel it and it will be very
intoxicating. I have a friend in his 40's who's bald and he's five foot three, and
is a master at showing his intensity and his power through his eyes. And it's
landed him a lot of tall, stunning women! So I want you to look at her like you
know that you could give her the utmost sexual satisfaction - if she was so lucky.
You see, when you have that type of mentality, your entire demeanor shifts.
That's a very specific type of eye contact, and women find it irresistible.
Another way to amp up the sexual tension is to pause and speak slowly. Especially
when you first approach that woman. For example, if you walk up to her and say: "Hi,
this is really unexpected, but I just saw you here and I wanted to say hi, hi!"
There's absolutely nothing special about that; there's no sexual tension and it
seems really nervous, like I need to say everything I have to say as quickly as
possible, because I don't believe in myself, I don't believe that she's gonna
listen to me. Not attractive. However, if I walk up to her and I say, "Hey, real quick,
this is totally random.. but I just saw you here, and I had to come over and say
hi... I just thought you're really cute." Do you see how those pauses and speaking
slower increase the intensity and the sexual tension in that interaction? You
see, a couple things happen during those pauses. Of course it increases the
intensity because she doesn't know who I am, I'm a random guy on the street I'm
around or random stranger approaching her
so of course there's gonna be some intensity. It creates drama, it creates
anticipation, she doesn't know what I'm gonna say next.
Also during those brief - you know one, or two second moments of silence, I'm
grounding myself. I'm just allowing myself to look at her, and really breathe
her in and appreciate her beauty. And she can feel that. Oh hey, by the way, if
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new video. Another really easy way to increase that sexual tension is to stand
a little bit closer to her. Now you don't want to overdo this and stand right in
her face because that can seem obviously a little creepy, weird, and even
threatening and make her feel unsafe. So what I'm talking about is very subtle.
It's about an inch or two into her personal space her personal space is
about arm's distance away. This is a pretty comfortable distance for two
strangers. However, if you just take a little step into her personal space - not
too much, like I said about two or three inches max. This will really increase the
sexual tension. She will feel your masculine presence even more intensely.
Now if she takes a step back, it just means she's not ready yet and give her
that space. However, some women will actually take a step closer to you to
increase that intensity even more, and what is crucial is that you just stand
there and be present and grounded in that moment. If she takes a step towards
you, do not take a step back. Because that shows her that you are afraid of her, and
she can't be attracted to you if you're afraid of her. And next is touching, so of
course touching can be very arousing it increases oxytocin, a hormone that's also
experienced during orgasm, but if you do it too much too soon
if you escalate too quickly or touch her in inappropriate places, that can
completely kill the interaction. So, I recommend start small and work your way
up. In a club type environment, obviously you can escalate a little bit quicker.
You can go really close to her, maybe touch her on the small of her back, and
say something into her ear because it's so loud. You have to get close to her to
communicate, which is one benefit of going to bars and clubs. So what can you
do to use touch to increase sexual tension during the daytime? It's very
simple: Shaking her hand. First of all, you must shake her hand like a man that
doesn't mean crush her hand, but don't do the limp fish. A lot of guys think, "Oh
she's a girl, she's a delicate little flower!" "I need to shake her hand - you know,
different than I would a guy!" But no! Shake her hand the same way you would
shake a man's hand. Allow her to feel your strength. Because a weak handshake
can completely kill the attraction. And to take things further and create that
sexual tension, hold her hand just a little bit longer than normal. A normal
handshake is about two or three seconds, and play with it, experiment with it. See
how long you can hold her hand while maintaining that really strong eye
contact, that look of desire. While standing a little bit closer to her
than normal to really amp up that sexual tension. Now, of course at some point
you're gonna break that tension. It can't go on forever. You know, you're gonna go
into a normal conversation at some point. But that few moments of sexual tension
is what really sparks that intense attraction, makes you really memorable,
also makes her comfortable with you, because if she can be comfortable with
the complete stranger in the matter of seconds, - having that kind of moment? I
guarantee you she's gonna want to see you again, and take things further,
probably very very quickly. So I hope you're ready to escalate things further
with her. Because it's the man's job to make the move. So to help you escalate
things all the way to the bedroom, I created a free Escalation Cheat Sheet.
It's filled with advanced escalation techniques that will turn a platonic,
friendly vibe, into a more sexual, "I want to rip your clothes off!" vibe. This is
very useful when you're talking to girls and it's going nowhere. Click the image
in the bottom right of the screen right now to download your free Escalation
Cheat Sheet. There's also a link down in the description. Get it, because you'll
want to keep it handy but where you go out. And if you're not
already subscribed, hit that subscribe button. And if you want us to work with
you in field, make sure to check out our bootcamp schedule. My name is Matt
Artisan from The Attractive Man, and I'll see you in the next video.