I think, when it comes to spending time,
it has to be intentional.
Like it legit has to be intentional.
You pick a day.
You pick a time, and regardless of hell or high water,
you do that day and that time.
For us, it was helpful, and we call it date night.
Like literally, when his classes change,
we had to change the day.
When his work schedule changed, we had to change the day,
but we still tried to do date night.
Even if it's small, like even if it's at home,
even if it's dinner, we still try to do date night.
I'm a-- I'm huge in the fact that,
when people say this is an issue for me,
that I want to try to fix it.
Absolutely.
Absolutely. 100%.
Right.
I'm big, big, big in that department.
So who handles all of the house duties?
Who's doing all the laundry? Who's doing all the cleaning?
That's you? That's him?
Those are shared? - No, ma'am.
I do that.
Oh, yeah.
[INTERPOSING VOICES]
Gender type, man does this.
I make money.
You make bed.
No, really.
He is.
He's just like Marsau.
He's just not as vocal about it--
OK.
--as Marsau is.
So no, that's me.
I'm the house cleaner.
I'm the cooker.
I'm the laundry.
I'm the keeper.
Are those expectations?
Yeah.
I don't-- I think I have that mindset a little bit.
I grew up really close to my grandparents,
and my grandma was always the preparer,
the laundry, the everything.
I mean, but my grandfather never had to ask.
Listen, we got a different breed of men.
Don't get it twisted.
[INTERPOSING VOICES]
Don't get it twisted.
We got a different breed of guys,
because I think the conversation in this day and age
absolutely has to be had at some point.
Yeah.
It doesn't work like our grandparents.
It just-- - Yeah.
- I agree with you. - Yeah.
No.
I'm raising my boys to be somebody's husband.
Correct.
You need to learn how to do that on your own.
You need to be able to bowl some soup,
make you something to eat, do you a little bit of laundry,
be self-sufficient.
If you can't eat anything else, cereal and soup.
Correct, and that works, like that works, because like--
Are there any like relationship deal breakers?
Anything that's like a non-negotiable?
For me, infidelity.
Oh.
Infidelity, and for me and Maurice,
like when we got together, I think for any woman
and any man getting into a relationship,
they feel like that in their head.
When the rubber meets the road, sometimes, the conversation
changes.
You know what I'm saying?
Maurice and I had the conversation many times
during the course of our dating.
Unless you guys already had that conversation prior.
I think we both had been through it at some point,
and we had committed to the fact that it was like a problem.
You weren't going to cause the other person in pain.
- Right. - Yeah.
Because in my head, as an adult,
I just really feel like--
I know what you're about to say.
Just lead.
- I knew you were [BLEEP] - Just lead.
I'm the same way.
Like I'm for real.
You want that?
Go get that.
You're promised one life.
Go get that.
Have at it.
You know what I'm saying?
I don't know why in my head it seems so simplistic.
To me--
Yeah.
It would crush my spirit, don't get me wrong,
but in my head, that's what I think.
Yeah.
Like peace out.
Louis and I--
and it's funny.
I was just having this conversation
with his ex-wife the other day.
When you're in your second marriage,
it's even easier, because you've experienced loss before.
Right?
And so this time--
You feel like you can get over it easier.
You mess up-- you want that?
Bye.
I really did love you.
I loved you, but you want that. OK.
Go get that.
Is yours a different deal breaker?
Like what's a deal breaker for you?
I honestly don't even know about a deal breaker,
because I feel like my mindset is like I always
have backup plans, and I'm trying really
hard to not have a backup plan.
So if this is what God has planned for my life,
I'm going to be all in and fully committed.
There's not something that's an ultimate deal breaker,
because we should be able to work through anything.
- Really. - Yeah, really.
We've both been--
So does that make it acceptable?
It does not make it acceptable.
Absolutely [BLEEP] it is not acceptable,
but it is something that I might be
committed to working through.
And that is not a green light, so this
is not an open for conversation type deal.
I think, as women, we need to remember that we can do it
on our own, and you shouldn't be stuck in any situation
because of someone else.
Because in life, we can only control us.