Fourth, gain clarity, confidence, and capability. In this episode,
we are discussing step number four of seven on how to turn a negative experience
into a positive outcome. Get ready, you'll see why this is one of my favorite steps of all seven.
So, my name's Doug Andrew, I've been very blessed in my life to have authored at 12 books so far
and a lot of what I'm going to share in this series here on how to take a negative experience
and turn it into a positive outcome. There are seven critical steps and this is step number four
in this episode. I would recommend you if you have not watched the first three steps please do so
But step number four will sort of begin to shift your thinking into how you can benefit or learn or
capitalize to be able to monetize even what you're learning by overcoming this negative experience in
your life. No,w at the end of this episode, I want to gift you a copy of my 10th book entitlement
abolition it's a 200-page book. You contribute a nominal amount towards the shipping and handling
and I cover the rest of that and I'll pay for the book. But I also have a 20-page sort of white
paper document that talks about all seven steps in this negative experience transformer and
in this book and in the master class you have access to this as well as about 19 other tools
that I introduce and talk about in this seven-step process of transforming negative experiences into
the positive outcomes that we all want in life. Get ready, here we go with step number four.
So, I've been an entrepreneur for 48 years of my life and I've been blessed for over two decades
to be associated with Mr. Dan Sullivan. He is called the strategic coach and he has coached over
6,000 of the world's top entrepreneurs and one day my wife and I were in Toronto Canada on his
back patio eating dinner. I can still see the raccoons sneaking over the fence while we were
eating dinner and he said, "You know Doug, in this world we have a bad news Bonanza", now, that was
back about 15 years ago. It's even worse now as I've often joked you know stations like CNN
stand for constant negative news if you didn't know. It seems like we had about 55 percent of
the world's news was bad news when I was younger now it's 95% is bad news and we get it in full
living color and so Dan taught us as entrepreneurs how to take the world's bad news and turn it into
good news. Now, we don't relish in the bad news. But every time something bad happens in the world
people often get confused and they're wondering, golly what could we have done? Whether it's
a tsunami, an earthquake, a war, things that happen. The wall street you know the market crashes
and people panic and he said, "Doug, all you gotta do is be like a grizzly bear on a permanent
salmon run and go out there and scoop up bad news and use this formula and you'll have a radio show
in less than 60 seconds." so I use this formula whenever I do a radio show, a tv show. Whenever
I write a book. Whenever I give a talk in public or in church or wherever and this is very important
for you to understand as you begin to shift the process to get out of yourself and out into
how can I help others who are going through similar bad experiences by focusing on what
you're learning and how you're going to teach it to somebody else. You're getting out of yourself.
Maybe you've heard the phrase, "If you help somebody else get their canoe across the pond
your canoe gets across the pond." Because you're not focused on just poor mid little me
you're looking at helping others and is when you help others
you help yourself get to that destination that we all want also. So, here's what Dan taught me
that night we had dinner in Toronto Canada. He said, we have constant global change going on and this
is not new it's been going on for millennia and there's six general areas that we have this
change that is constant. Scientific, technological, economic, cultural, social, political, arenas and they
conflict. if you haven't noticed this there's a loss of context with individuals and consumers
because we often see politicians making economic policy or decisions and they've never run a candy
store before. But there are conflicts between what political agendas are and what happens to
the economy. Sometimes technology takes people off guard and we've seen some presidents get elected
because they were able to master you know Twitter or their technology or social media over the other
and then the next one comes up and tries to copy them but it's already out of date because things
change so fast. You have science saying oh there's global warming and then others say no
there isn't or that this is happening or that happening climate change and there's all these
conflicting pieces of information. So this is not new. People out there are wondering, "Well, what's
the truth?", So whatever it is people always feel confused. We have confusion. They feel isolated
in their particular set of circumstances and they feel powerless. So whenever anything happens the
bad news happens and I'm in my radio studio and I haven't had time to think about what I'm going to
share for the next hour. I just simply pull up bad news like a grizzly bear on a permanent salmon run
and I go oh because of this and this the domino effect caused the stock market to go down
and this and this and I say, "Why are people feeling confused, isolated, and powerless, today
about money, about their life, about their future, about the economy, about their job security, about
their health? I mean there's an abundance of this confusion, isolationism, and powerlessness.
It could be baby boomers back in 2008 who lost 40 percent and the value of their IRAs of 401ks
for the second time in a decade and they were feeling confused. They felt like they had lost
their future now twice and they had to put off retirement 10 years. It could be single women
trying to raise their children and all of a sudden, "Golly, I thought this is how my life was gonna be
and now I'm the breadwinner because my husband or my ex-husband has gone out and
now I don't have child support or anything like that." I've helped many many who are in situations
where they feel confused, isolated, and powerless. I remember talking to a lot of college graduates
and unfortunately, many of them were told you go to college to get a job. That was a
probably a wrong idea no you go to college to get an education. But they would graduate
thinking the world now owed them a living and they had this rude awakening and so they
they don't get a job and they're wondering, "Golly, what was this degree for? This is been happening
for millennium. How do you clear up confusion, isolationism, and powerlessness, with three c's?
Clarity, confidence, and capability. When you give somebody clarity or new direction
they no longer feel confused. You clear up confusion by giving people clarity or new
direction. You give people faith or confidence in a brighter future that their future is spotless.
Don't try to change the past that's futile. They don't feel isolated in their
particular set of circumstances because you're giving them confidence in a brighter future.
You give them new capability and empower them and then they don't feel powerless. Clarity,
confidence, capability, clears up confusion, isolation, and powerlessness. Now, how do you
muster up these three c's? With what Dan Sullivan calls LRC, the L stands for leadership.
See, people need someone to lead them to give leadership. When you have someone who is leading
it gives direction and clarity and they no longer feel confused. Relationships, when you develop
relationships with those that you care about your audience whoever that is. That gives them faith
and confidence and they no longer feel isolated because they have a relationship with you and they
feel like you get it. Over here creativity. You use creativity to help them get it on their
level of understanding and then you empower them with new capability, they no longer feel powerless.
How profound is this? This is the formula I use in all my books, my talks, my radio shows, and so forth.
But this is how you begin to change a negative experience into a positive outcome. You get out
of yourself and you start saying hmm why and how are other people who have similar setbacks
similar experiences who had an accident or this happened or that happen. How and why
are they feeling confused, isolated, and powerless? What kind of clarity, confidence, and capability,
am I getting and that I can teach them to have? How can I be the leader and develop relationships
and use creativity by mustering this and all of a sudden you start thinking about others
and you help them get their canoe across the pond. Guess what happens to your canoe? It gets there
too. Let me just say this any great person in the history of the universe as far as I'm concerned
has employed this formula to one degree or another even maybe not being aware of it. Gandhi,
Lincoln, Edison, but I'm Christian so, Christ. When I study Matthew, Mark, Luke. and John in the new
testament for example which I taught for eight years on a volunteer basis at an institute of
religion. Christ to me was a wonderful example of this formula. Because it didn't matter if he was
talking to one or two or ten lepers or a blind person or 5,000 on a mountainside. When he
interfaced with them he used leadership better than anybody, I've studied to give people clarity
and direction in life and they no longer felt confused. He developed relationships faster quicker
better deeper than anybody I've ever studied. He gave them faith and confidence and a brighter
future your future is spotless if you choose this path. He would show them the darkness of the
night if they kept doing what they were doing and the brightness of their future if they changed
their way and it gave them confidence that they didn't feel isolated in their set of circumstances
and he used parables metaphors stories. He used creativity so they would get it at their level
and all of a sudden they went away and they felt empowered at their level of understanding. So,
if this is already helping you and you can think of somebody who would benefit from watching this
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to the end of this episode. I'm going to gift you a copy of my most recent book about this topic
called entitlement abolition a 200-page book and you'll also have access to the tools that I refer
to in the following steps in this transformational process. In the book entitlement abolition and in
several of the other publications this is how I laid this out and you'll notice its confusion
isolation powerlessness and you clear that up by using clarity, confidence, and capability, the
three c's. By employing leadership, relationship, and creativity, LRC and my kids and grandkids
they can rattle these off just like that. This is how they deal with it. Now, what you want
as I indicated is to show people the contrast between the darkness of the night if they keep
wallowing in their misery poor little me and being a victim if they keep doing what they're doing
versus the and that's really captivity versus the freedom when you show them the brightness of the
day or their future if they'll change their ways and how they're thinking about things. So, this is
the critical midpoint in this seven-step process and this gives you tremendous freedom and it will
set you up for what I'm going to share next. I'm going to show you how you get a copy of this and
also the book entitlement abolition. But in this fourth step, you'll have exercises like this where
you write down how did this negative experience cause me or others to feel confused isolated and
powerless. What have I learned as a result of this to give me clarity, confidence, and capability,
and what creative ways might I be able to provide others get out of yourself now by
providing leadership, relationship, and creativity. So these are the types of exercises I want you
to be able to have at your fingertips. You can get a copy of this when you go to entitlement
abolitionbook.com and you can claim your free copy of this. You contribute a nominal
amount towards the shipping and handling going to entitlementevolutionbook.com. I'll fire out a copy
of this book to you but then there's options there if you like to listen and learn or watch
and learn there's even an 18-hour master class which I highly recommend. If this is resonating
with you and you want to use these tools and ideas to empower those that you care about.