Hi there, it's Clay with modernlove.life and this is Relationship Inner Game.
Now, over the past couple of videos we've been talking about the five emotional stages
that your ex goes through on the process of getting back together with you.
OK, and we've talked about the first three so far, so today we're going to be talking
about the fourth stage of getting back together and this one is called the crisis point.
And oftentimes in my work with people over the years, people are actually very excited
to get to the crisis point because they know it's the one right before they get back together.
But really the crisis point is no cake walk.
What actually happens typically at the crisis point is that your eggs will do things like
tell you, hey, you should move on.
We should move on.
We should not get back to you.
We should date other people, stuff like that.
Right?
And if your ex is telling you to move on, it absolutely could be a sign that the two
of you are at a crisis point.
It's not a definitive sign that you are at the crisis point.
Your ex could be at maybe wall of reactance, in a moment of frustration that can say just
move on or something like that, but if they're at the crisis point, they often will tell
you to move on.
Now, why is this?
Well, you see over the past couple of stages of getting back together, your ex's emotional
reactions towards you.
Again, that sort of resistance to wanting to interact with you has been decreasing.
Whereas the positive emotions between the two of you have been increasing.
So here at this point you have mostly positive emotions, low negative emotions, and what's
going on is your ex really is noticing that they're having a good time interacting with
you.
They're really feeling that emotional connection.
However, there is still kind of that lingering doubt in the back of their mind and they can't
really put this off any longer and they're being forced to confront the actual decision
about whether or not they should make a clearing in their life for the two of you to get back
together and this a crisis.
This decision that they are confronting could take many different forms.
It might take the form of a rebound relationship for example, of your exes and a rebound relationship
and they're starting to develop a very strong emotional feelings towards you.
There is going to come a point in time where they have to decide, am I going to break up
with this rebound relationship partner that I'm with in order to get back together with
my ex?
Or Am I not and I'm going to stay together with the rebound relationship partner.
Right?
They can kind of kick this can down the road for a while, but once the emotions start to
really heat up, you know, based off of what we've been talking about so far, decreasing
that react and increasing the emotional connection.
There will come a point which we call a crisis point where your ex is forced to make that
decision in order to avoid having to go through the very stressful prospect of making that
decision.
They may tell you to do things, to actively discourage you from trying to be in a relationship
with them, such as telling you to move on, such as telling you to date other people such
as telling you to give up.
OK, so that is how you know you are in the crisis point.
Now, when you are at the crisis point, the most important thing for you to do is to have
a strong emotional connection with your ex and to continue to focus on that with a lot
of conviction, a lot of integrity, a lot of composure, knowing what you want and being
willing to speak it while still maintaining that emotional connection with them.
OK?
Now this can be very tricky, which is why we break this down in the advanced relational
skills that we teach in our courses, programs and on our youtube channel as well too.
So definitely check that out.
Now, if you're watching this video on youtube, please go down below into the description
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connection so that you can get past the crisis point.
OK?
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you to a page that will tell you more about how to talk to your ex from a place of complete
integrity, which will allow the two of you to come together, connect on an emotional
level, and help encourage your ex to make that clearing so that the two of you can actually
get back together.
OK?
So anyway, I've hoped that this has helped you out.
Please go ahead and leave a comment down below letting me know what types of videos you'd
like to see me making a future.
And in the next video that we make, we're going to talk about the fifth and final stage
of getting back together.
So I'll see you then.
Please take care.
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