- Hey player.
Have you ever wondered what it takes to be a good boyfriend?
Well, Billy Memes asked me,
can you do a video on how to be a good boyfriend
for a beginner like me?
No problem, Billy.
I think there are three things you can focus on
which I want to share with you guys right after this.
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- For those of you that are new here, my name is Josh.
And every single Monday through Friday,
I make videos sharing tips, ideas and stories
teaching you how to be your best self.
And today, I want to focus on
what it takes to be a better boyfriend.
I think there are three things you can do.
Depending on how long you've been in a relationship.
Each of these three things will differ
in the amount of time and in the amount of investment
you have to make in them.
But, without further ado,
the first thing you're gonna wanna do,
is showcase your appreciation for them.
Let them know that you accept them for who they are,
and you want to celebrate that.
That doesn't exactly mean posting tons of photos
and statuses about how in love you are with your partner.
It could simply come down
to you just letting them know that you appreciate them.
For example, instead of constantly telling your partner
I love you, I love you, I love you,
try to focus in on something specific
that you love about them,
and show them that you appreciate that.
Spend some time thinking deeply
about what you actually love about them.
It could be anything.
Like, I love the way that you doodle in your notebook,
or I love the way that you send me snaps
every night before you go to bed.
Highlighting specific instances like this
show that you're paying attention
to the small, little details.
And those are the things that they're going to pick up on.
It'll help them realize that you are paying attention,
and you are present in the relationship.
You're not just there because you're there.
The next thing you should focus on,
if you're trying to be a better boyfriend,
is displaying your confidence.
Let your partner know that they can feel safe and secure
when they're around you.
Now, this can play out in a multitude of different ways.
One example might be that
if someone's making fun of your girlfriend,
you'll step in and you'll put an end to it
and stand up for her.
Another way maybe, to show her that you're an active person,
that you care about things in your life
and you're willing to pursue your dreams.
Confidence comes in many forms,
but one of the most attractive ways
a person can really put it out there,
is by having a clear vision and goal for what they want.
If your girlfriend sees that you're kind of a slacker
and you don't really care about anything,
well, that's going to show her
that you're not confident in your ability
to go out in the world and make a change.
So, show her that you do care about things.
That you are willing to put yourself out there
to try and fail and to do things that matter to you.
And that doesn't always mean succeeding
and getting things right.
The fact that you're willing to put yourself out there,
to try new things,
even if they end up failing for you,
showcases confidence like no one else has.
And the third thing you're gonna wanna focus on
is opening up and displaying your emotional availability.
Too many guys keep their emotions bottled inside
and never let them out,
which ends up causing them to fight
a lot more with their partner.
Being emotionally available means being honest.
It means that when you feel hurt or sad,
you're open to the idea of talking it out with your partner.
And you're not just going to pretend like nothing's wrong.
Your girlfriend may ask you from time to time,
what are you feeling?
And if you hear that question a lot,
it probably means that you're not sharing enough with her.
You're not letting her know what's going on in your head.
And sometimes, if you're not really feeling anything,
talk about that.
Good partners are there for each other
when times are good or bad.
So, if something's on your mind
and you're rattling it around, open up, talk.
That's going to create a healthy dynamic
between the two of you.
And I also want to throw in three quick things
that you can do right now
to help strengthen your relationship.
The first one being,
make plans to hang out with your girlfriend.
One on one.
With the focus of that hangout being that
you guys are just going to talk and share with each other.
Number two, shoot them a message after this video
and compliment them on something very,
very specific that you like about them.
And number three, talk to them more often
about something that matters to you.
Maybe you're big into sports
and you want to be an athlete one day.
Talk about that.
Maybe you want to start a YouTube channel,
become a YouTube star.
Talk about that.
Let them in on the details of the things you care about.
I think if you focus on those three points,
you'll definitely have a better relationship,
and you'll totally be a much better boyfriend.
But, what do you think?
What do you think it takes to be a better boyfriend?
Leave your comments below and we'll talk about it.
If you have a question you want to ask me,
but you want to do it in private,
you can always shoot me a DM over on Snapchat or Instagram.
I do my best to answer as many messages as I can.
Thank you so much for watching.
Before you head out,
definitely check out the other videos
I have listed over there on the side.
I go more in depth on what it takes
to have a strong and healthy relationship with someone.
So, check out those videos
and I will see you tomorrow.
As always guys, love and peace.