- Hi welcome aboard the struggle bus.
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No, but all seriousness folks, we're talking about signs
that each of the 16 personalities might be struggling.
Now, of course, if anyone is riding the struggle bus
they're gonna act differently than their usual self
but each of the 16 Myers Briggs personality types shows this
in different ways.
There is a spectrum of struggling from,
oh I had a bad day 'cause I got stuck in traffic
and I was late to work
all the way to I feel totally depressed
and I have felt this way for months.
Don't talk to me about life.
Disclaimer, this video, isn't a replacement for therapy.
I'm not a doctor so don't go like oh, this thing Frank said
in a video applies to me, I guess I have bipolar disorder.
But this video is presenting red flags that maybe indicate
that you should take a step back and say
what's really going on here?
Is my friend struggling? Am I struggling?
I am struggling right now.
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Everyone get up on the struggle bus. (vocalizing)
First stop on the struggle bus is the ESFP.
This type is usually the life of the party.
They're pretty carefree, at least that's how they act.
And they tend to enjoy being right in the middle
of whatever's going on.
When they're struggling, though, you're likely to
see them get uncharacteristically solemn and withdrawn.
They'll stop wanting to participate
in whatever new fun thing is happening.
You'll also hear them get negative about the future.
Maybe even uncharacteristically cynical.
At their worst, you might hear an ESFP start to come up with
wild theories for why whatever they're struggling with
is happening.
I'm talking like they think ghosts
or aliens or something is haunting them.
Are haunting them?
When ESTPs are struggling, one big thing they'll do is get
suspicious of people's intentions without any substantial
reason, they'll get paranoid thinking
that other people are purposefully trying to trick them
somehow, even if those other people have no bad intentions.
ESTPs will even lash out at others
especially when they feel bad about themselves.
And this usually manifests as the ESTP shaming others
for the same thing they themselves are ashamed of.
ESFJs are probably the easiest type to see when
they're struggling because they are extroverted feelers
and dominant extroverted feelers at that.
They wear their emotions on their sleeves,
just like right there.
If an ESFJ is struggling, they will openly express
what they're feeling oftentimes processing their emotions
out loud in real time.
That's what extroverted feeling does.
And while this sounds healthy and talking
about what is bothering you is definitely
the healthiest way to deal with the struggle.
Sometimes the ESFJs take it too far
and they'll just kind of like explode with emotion.
They'll just be like overwhelming everyone around them
with a dramatic, if not hysterical outbursts.
ENFJs also have extroverted feeling dominant.
So they are usually pretty open with their emotions
and struggles, but having introverted intuition
as their second function causes them to be more aware
of how their emotional expression might negatively
affect others or themselves in the future.
So they tend to be a bit more guarded.
The thing to look out for is an ENFJ trying to hold
in their emotions like a boiling pot
ready to boil over the edges of the pot. (laughs)
The ENFJ who is struggling, might be like, this is fine.
And they'll say it with a big smile
but they'll be tears streaming down their face.
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ISTJs are very private with their emotions.
So it could be a little difficult to get a read
on what they are feeling at any time.
Happy, sad, whatever hard to tell.
But the most obvious sign that they are struggling is that
they obsessively try to fix something in their environment.
Like they'll say, well let me do some maintenance
on my bicycle so they'll go work on it for a while
and they'll be like nope, I can do that better.
And they'll take like eight hours doing and redoing this
repair that should have only taken them like an hour.
What's happening is they feel outta control with whatever
they're struggling with.
With, I used with two times in the sentence, unnecessary.
Basically what they're doing is the things that
they have control over, they go overboard with.
ISFJ, like the ESFJ, the ISFJ has extroverted feelings.
So they prefer to process their emotions
in a way where they can bounce them off other people.
But when you see the ISFJ processing the same exact thing
for months, or even years with no progress,
that's no good. That I'm not here to say
that you should process whatever you're struggling
with right away and just move on instantly like,
oh you pooped your pants at a job interview.
You should be over that the next day.
That would be traumatizing for real though.
But with ISFJs, they can keep obsessing over the same
details of what they're struggling with endlessly
with no forward motion.
Now they do this in an attempt to control the story
of their particular struggle but sometimes life is too messy
to force into a neat story.
Pooping your pants might be too messy. (laughs)
Ah, I crack myself up over here.
We have fun on this channel at least I do.
ENTJs have introverted feeling
as their inferior cognitive function.
And this means that they regularly feel unsure
of who they are morally so when an ENTJ is struggling with
an emotional decision they'll try to ping off
of others to see if the decision they made
or thinking about making is moral or right.
They'll be like, I know it was correct.
I know that this is like gonna get the result that I'm going
for but I'm not sure if it was like a good decision.
So if an ENTJ is struggling, they might abruptly switch
gears away from business and ask questions that seem
unrelated to the task at hand.
We gotta watch carefully 'cause it happens fast.
They'll be like, okay, we gotta get this done.
We gotta get this done. And am I a good person?
Then they'll switch out and be like, okay
gotta get this done. Gotta get this done.
Blink and you'll miss it.
When ESTJs are struggling, you're gonna see them
become very sensitive to other people's words.
And this is gonna seem really out of place
because the ESTJ is usually the person in the room
who can take criticism most constructively.
Like if you tell an ESTJ that their idea is dumb.
Yeah. They might act upset for a minute
but they'll be like, okay, dummy.
What's your idea? And if you present a better idea,
they'll be like okay, yeah, my idea is dumb.
They just want something that gets results.
They want the best idea.
When they're struggling, though, they will feel like every
little criticism is a personal attack.
So they will snap back.
Maybe even adopting a my way or the highway attitude
for things that don't really even matter that much
like Timmy, I will fire you
if you do not put the toilet paper over.
That was really stretchy for an example.
ENTPs when struggling get overwhelmed by their commitments.
ENTPs don't naturally love commitments, let's be honest,
but when they're feeling good, they can handle them.
When they're struggling, however, they start to flip out.
Every commitment feels like part
of the problem they're struggling with.
It feels to them as though everything and everyone
is conspiring to trap them somehow.
So they may shirk their responsibilities
either intentionally or simply due to feeling overwhelmed
as a way of trying to feel free of their struggle.
Even if it's completely unrelated.
Similarly, one of the biggest stresses for ENFPs is being
anchored down, being forced to do one task, job, or thing
for very long periods of time.
You can tell an ENFP is struggling when they start to
quickly uproot even long term commitments
or interests to do something new.
Maybe they're struggling so much that they decide to just,
oh, move across the country.
Maybe they randomly quit their job without much thought
into how am I gonna deal with the repercussions of that?
ENFPs normally love change and trying new things.
Like ENFPS will get up and move across the country,
even on a normal day.
The difference when they are struggling is the degree to
which they change things that used to be important to them.
So a normal ENFP might just be like
I'm moving across the country 'cause I love the other side
of the country.
A struggling ENFP might be like, I don't even care.
I'm just moving. Like I used to love where I am now,
whatever, I'm burning it all down.
The ISTP is not gonna be the best
at handling social interactions when they're struggling.
I mean, they're not gonna be the best
at it when they're not struggling, but when they are
struggling, you might find them overly correcting
other people's mistakes.
A struggling ISTP is also prone
to feeling like an outcast or like everyone hates them.
This is because extroverted feeling their inferior
function is responsible for reading and making decisions
about the social atmosphere.
Because of this, you often won't see a struggling ISTP
because they'll disappear until they've worked through it
which could take a while.
In their normal state, an INTP is what I have occasionally
called a space cadet, which is one of their stereotypes,
right?
All their energy is up in their introverted thinking brain
making them seem disconnected from reality.
When they're struggling, this gets really bad.
INTPs go from this charming absentminded professor who,
oops I accidentally put my Nintendo Switch
in the refrigerator to them being a shell
of a human being.
Struggling INTPs get so distant.
They'll just go through the motions of life
like a robot it's because on the one hand they don't feel
comfortable talking about their emotions.
On the other hand, their brain is in overdrive trying to
find the absolute perfect solution to their problem.
'Cause INTPs don't just want a solution.
They don't wanna just like move past it.
They wanna find the absolute perfect correct solution
which they could struggle with for a long time.
ISFPs when struggling will usually double down
on how they feel and be quite closed off to how that affects
others or even how it affects other areas
of their own lives.
Due to their inferior extroverted thinking, struggling ISFPs
will often make decisions that feel good in the short term
but don't make much sense in the long term.
They'll be inclined to make a purchase without thinking
about their budget or tell everyone they know
that they're starting a new project or a new job
only to drop it a few days later
and then start another one.
INFPs are a tough read when they are struggling.
I know they get a reputation for being these depressed mopey
people, even on a good day but that's not the full story
because INFPs have introverted feeling.
They're not usually an open book.
Who's just gonna tell you what they're really feeling.
One weird thing that often leaks out when an INFP
is struggling is that they will beat themselves up over any
small mistakes they make.
You'll see them get really stressed over things that usually
wouldn't bother them that much.
They might forget to wish their friend a happy birthday.
So then they have a meltdown where they go on and on about
how they're such a horrible person for forgetting.
For an INTJ with inferior extroverted sensing
when they're struggling, stuff like cleaning their room,
taking care of their bodies, and spending time with others
goes out the window until they feel like they're back
in control of their lives.
A lot of INTJs out there, may be thinking Frank,
I'm not struggling and I do that every day.
The difference between normal INTJ tunnel vision
and INTJ struggle vision is that normally an INTJ is like,
oh haha, yeah, I guess I've been in my room for three days.
Let me text a friend
or eat a meal or tidy up my desk or something.
Let me come back a bit to reality.
But when struggling is just like the rest
of their life goes up in flames
while they try to solve the issue.
INFJs are usually more comfortable expressing
their struggles openly than INTJS are.
There is a reason that statistically many therapists are
INFJs 'cause it's one of their strengths to be able to
process emotions and guess where those emotions came
from and how they might develop in the future.
But INFJs can also head down a much less healthy path
when struggling.
INFJs have extroverted sensing as their inferior function,
just like the INTJ and because of this,
they can find that in times of struggle
reality itself becomes just too anxiety provoking.
This turns into a desire to escape reality
and INFJs get obsessive with whatever thing it is
that they are using to help them escape.
So a struggling, INFJ may watch the same episode
of a TV show every night or go overboard and eat an entire
pizza every day or even do something like exercise
excessively or just get on a treadmill
and run for four hours.
It's their way, not only of numbing themselves to reality
but also trying to control reality by engaging
in something very specific over and over and over.
Thanks for watching.
Stay cool and attractive.