I'm living with an manipulator, a narcissistic person.
He verbally abuses me.
I'm trapped in my own home
and we have been fighting every single day since
this coronavirus started.
He works in the medical field.
He comes home and he doesn't take off his clothes,
he doesn't take off his shoes.
I'm sick, I have asthma,
I have respiratory problems, an autoimmune disease
and I'm trapped with a manipulator.
I am worried that Ron's going to bring this home to me.
This house is 2,600 square feet.
He never did a (beep) thing in this house.
He expects me to clean, look at this.
He has never dusted in this room once.
He's never cleaned any of these rooms.
I hung all his clothes, I did all his laundry,
up until a week ago.
Now we're approaching the dining room
and living room area and then he has
his man cave and for 15 years I've done nothing
but clean and dust this room.
Yeah, try cleaning all these chairs.
I busted my rump doing these.
He's keeping all this furniture, by the way.
This furniture over here, of course the table of eight.
I mean this is the kitchen
that I've been cleaning for 15 years.
Ron has never cleaned the floors, cabinets, nothing.
There is a fish tank that Ron bought me
for my birthday, that he's keeping.
That's his back yard.
By the way, he's keeping all the stuff
that he gave me for a birthday present.
I need to get out of here, I don't know what to do.
I need your help Dr. Phil.
I am desperate.
(intense music)
Now meanwhile Ron says that he's afraid either Diane
will kill him, or he'll have a heart attack
and die because things have gotten
so bad between the two of them.
This probably the most horrible time of my life
because I have never had to deal
with so much tension in one time.
My wife is hanging me out to dry.
She's taking me for everything.
She refuses to pay for her own livelihood.
She bases this on the fact that she's disabled
but I saw her carry almost 100 boxes out of here
in one day and for a disabled person that's remarkable.
This is where we start our arguments.
I'm usually sitting here and my wife
is always over at that desk.
(yelling) And then I have to cook
for you every single day to see you not eat it.
And then have the (beep) nerve to say,
"I ate dinner already".
I usually run over here and I lock it.
This is how I escape to my office.
She cranks down the temperature
on the air conditioner everyday and I have to turn it up.
She just leaves the doors open with the air conditioner on.
She doesn't have any problem with that.
She has her own bed, brand new.
And he told me the other day
to get the bed that I bought and to bring it in here
and to sleep in this room.
And she refuses to use it.
She is making us sleep in the same bed
and that is not cool to me.
Dr. Phil, what can I do to maintain a safe,
some kind of a civil atmosphere
that both me and my wife can exist in
and make sure that we're still safe and healthy?
Ron and Diane are both joining me on Zoom.
So thank both of you for being here.
Oh thank you, Dr. Phil. Thank you.
I've noticed that you're sitting right next to each other.
Is that difficult for you guys
or are you able to be civil at times?
Well right now I have my angel with me.
She is a quartz crystal.
I call her Ariel and she's protecting me right now.
And you feel like you need protection?
Of course.
Well Ron was actually saying that he feels like
he needs protection from you.
That you're either gonna kill him
or cause him to have a heart attack.
Maybe spiritually.
Do you both feel like you need protection from the other?
Yes, at times I feel that I do.
I mostly hang out in my office and try
to stay away from her because any time
I'm around her it's very uncomfortable to me.
Now you guys have been together
in this house for 15 years?
14 years in May, or July, I'm sorry.
All right and Diane, you could move out
but you're saying you're not going anywhere
until you receive a settlement after May 26th, right?
In a way, yeah.
I can't move out because of the coronavirus, number one,
but outside of the coronavirus,
no I can't move out because I don't have
any money to move out.