One of the biggest mistakes that you will make as a human on a path to success,
whether that success be financially, physically, spiritually,
interpersonal relationships, whatever it is, or success in all areas,
when you think of it as a sacrifice, you're making it extra hard on yourself.
It's really just a language trick, it's really just something
that you need to understand that how you speak to yourself
determines how you act. And a lot of you guys
make things harder on yourselves than what it really has to be.
For example, when we talk about building a company
and we talk about sacrificing the weekends and the nights out
and the times with friends, the vacations, we talk about it in terms of like it's
this painful thing, sacrifice. Or we talk about building a body
or we talk about building your mind through maybe “75hard”,
we talk about sacrifice and we talk about how hard it is,
and we talk about how painful it is, and we almost like hang our hats on that,
and I get that, I do that as well. I like to think I'm a bad m******r,
I like to think I'm putting in the f****g work nobody else will do,
and that makes me feel good. But the problem with that,
guys, is that sometimes that language can actually make shit artificially
harder than what it has to be. And so I want you to do this.
I want you to stop thinking of things in terms of sacrifice,
and I want you to start thinking in terms of investment, all right?
One of the biggest mistakes that you will make as a human on a path to success,
whether that success be financially, physically, spiritually,
interpersonal relationships, whatever it is, or success in all areas.
When you think of it as a sacrifice, you're making it extra hard on yourself.
And so what I want you to do is I want you to start thinking about investment,
and I want you to understand that when you miss the weekends with the guys
or miss the night out with the girls or you pass on the trip or you do this,
you're not sacrificing anything, you're actually making an investment
because the investment is delayed gratification and you just haven't seen the payoff yet,
all right? So when you miss a night out to work out,
you're not sacrificing a night out, you're making an investment in the future.
And that investment in the future is going to create a better life,
it's going to create more money, it's going to create better relationships,
it's going to create a better body, it's going to create more confidence.
When you're getting something in return for what you're giving up
it's not really a sacrifice, it's an investment. And this is something that all of you
guys need to get really clear on, because as men especially and some women,
we like to feel tough, we like to feel badass. And I'm guilty of pushing that a little bit
sometimes too, because I like to feel bad ass.
But the truth of the matter is, is that when I skipped something fun
to do something that's hard, I know that there's a payoff coming later.
And what this really comes down to is understanding delayed gratification.
And if you guys can understand and make the decisions
that delay the gratification you're making, an investment,
a sacrifice is really just you giving something up and it sounds like shit.
What sounds better? I’m making an investment in my future
or I'm sacrificing the night out with the guys. You're choosing to make an investment in yourself,
you're choosing to make an investment in your money,
you're choosing to make an investment in your body,
you're choosing to make an investment in your relationships.
And you need to remember that when you talk to yourself,
because if we constantly tell ourselves that we're sacrificing everything,
we're always going to feel empty. We're always going to feel like
we're not having anything paid back. We always going to feel like we're doing
all of these things for nothing, which is not the truth.
The truth is, is that we're doing these things for something.
And that means it's an investment. So that's my hack for you guys.
We don't have this long, drawn out process here. Just start replacing the idea of sacrifice
and instead think of it as an investment.
That will make your days much easier, much more fulfilling,
much more pleasurable if you know that you're going to get up
and do this f****g work, because it's going to get you this later
and you understand and believe that and you're making an investment,
it becomes that much easier to do. So this is really about tricking
yourself with using different language so that you focus on the right thing,
so that you're focused on the outcome, you're focused on what you're going to get,
you're focused on the work you're doing, you're excited about the work you're doing,
because you know that the payoff is going to come. Now, you might have to make
a little adjustment here or there, but the truth is, we live in an environment where
if you put X in, you get Y out most of the time, all right?
So find someone who has done what you want to do, pay attention to what they do,
make the investments that they're making and trust that the result is coming your way.
And if you do that, it will be much easier for you to move forward
than it is right now when you're telling yourself constantly
about all the shit that you're missing and giving up
and sacrificing for the future. You're not sacrificing shit.
You've already done that shit, you know what it's like,
you know what it's about, and you know where it's going.