What do you say to those viewers that don't pursue their dreams and are locked into their
careers? Because they are too afraid to take risks
and pursue something meaningful well, the first thing I would say is well,
you should be afraid of taking risks and pursuing something meaningful, but
You should be more afraid of staying where you are if it's making you miserable
it's like the first thing you want to do is dispense with the idea that you get to have
any any Permanent security outside of your ability
to contend and adapt it's the same issue with children
it's like You're paying a price by sitting there being
miserable and you might say well the devil I know is better than the one I don't
It's like don't be so sure of that. The clock is ticking
and if you're miserable in your job now and you change nothing in five years
You'll be much more miserable and you'll be a lot older.
but isn't it a luxury to pursue what is meaningful? Our viewers have mortgages. They have children.
they have payments and loans. It's a luxury to pursue because we lack the resources
Well, I don't think I don't remember now. I'm not talking about what makes you happy
It's a luxury to pursue what makes you happy It's a moral obligation to pursue what you
find meaningful. And that doesn't mean it's easy
it might require sacrifice if you need to change your job to let's say you have
a family and, and, and, and children and, and a mortgage you have responsibilities
You've already picked up those responsibilities. You don't just get to walk away scot-free
and say well I don't like my job I quit that's no strategy. But what you might
have to do is you think well this job is killing my soul
All right. So what do I have to do about that? Well, I have to look for another job
Well, no one wants to hire me. It's like okay. Maybe you need to educate yourself more
Maybe you need to update your your curriculum vitae your resume. Maybe you need to overcome
your fear of being interviewed Maybe you need to sharpen your social skills
Like you you have to think about these things strategically if you're going to switch careers
You have to do it like an intelligent responsible person that might take you a couple of years
of Effort to do properly.
When you say pursue something meaningful. Is it important to have a vocation?
I think it's more important to, to have a, an ethos, an ethic
The first thing that you want to do is figure out imagine you were taking care of yourself
like you were someone you cared for Then you should figure out well if you could
have what you needed and wanted what would it be?
What sort of friends would you have? What would your family relationships look like?
How would you conduct yourself with your children? How would you educate yourself you need to
think through how it is that your life could be properly
Arranged if you had that ability and then you can aim at that. And the funny thing is
is that if you do Pause it a goal of that sort and work towards
it you will move towards it the goal will change
because you'll learn things along the way but I mean I've
dealt with hundreds of people in my clinical and consulting practice and we set a goal
we develop a vision and Work towards it and it things
Inevitably get better for people. So it's not a luxury. It's it's difficult. It's a
moral responsibility and it isn't happiness It's it's not the pursuit isn't for happiness.
And that might be the best thing that ever happened to you because if the structure
you're in is going in that direction and you can't stop it it's like get the hell
out of there and find something else so it's not that hard to find a job when
you already have a job that's another thing to keep in mind too. you know
whenever you're working and you will be especially in the world that the world
of today where jobs are relatively uncertain is you should always have an
escape route planned and it should be active because if you don't have an
escape route and you can't get away you can't say no and if you can't say no you
can't bargain and if you can't bargain you're a slave so those that's how
that's how the world is set out at the moment it’s probably always been like that
but it's something that you really need to know because you got to watch if your
if your being is objecting to someone to something that someone is forcing you to
do maybe you're right maybe you shouldn't be doing it and lots of people
end up living meaningless lives and that that's a that's not a very good term
because there's no such thing as a meaningless life because one of the
meanings of life is suffering and there's no bloody way you're going to
escape that so you will not have a meaningless life you'll have a life
that's only suffering and I wouldn't recommend that