Eat Like This & Look Like An IDIOT!
Bad Table Manner Mistakes Guide To Dining Etiquette
[0:00:00] Ten dining etiquette rules that every man
needs to know.
Are you ready gents?
Let’s get into it.
[Music] Now, I know that some of you guys are thinking,
dining etiquette rules, Antonio?
Come on, that stuff is so dated.
No one has used that information for a hundred years.
Guys, nothing could be further from the truth.
If you’re eating with people that you may be don’t know very well, maybe it’s with
business, maybe it’s actually going out on date and you’re meeting someone for the
first time, maybe it’s with your fiancée’s parents and you are actually getting interviewed
over at her house.
Guys, the point here is that you want to actually have these basic manners and these basic dining
etiquette so you just don’t show up and, yeah, make yourself look like an idiot.
Dining etiquette rule number one.
Make sure if you need to RSVP, you actually do RSVP.
And that’s simply good manners to simply say you are going to be there.
Another thing, show up on time.
You don’t want to show up thirty minutes early and you don’t want to show up thirty
minutes late.
You can be may be a few minutes early few minutes late, but in general try to show up
at the exact time.
Tip number two.
Pay attention to the dress code.
Gentlemen, I’ve said this before.
There is always a dress code.
So, if you’re going to a casual restaurant, understand, okay, how is everyone else going
to dress?
If people – or even if it’s a casual restaurant, but people are dressing up because it’s
a festive it’s a special occasion, then you want to dress up.
Why?
Whoever is putting this together, they want to create a feeling they want to create a
sense of ambience.
If you’re going to go to somebody’s house, okay, maybe ask the host, oh, how are people
going to be dressed?
There is nothing wrong with actually asking how you should dress and present yourself.
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Dining etiquette tip number three, gentlemen, is to pay attention to the customs and the
traditions of the group of people that you’re with.
So, let say you walk into someone’s house, you’re there to have a meal and you noticed
that everyone is taking their shoes off.
Well, first off, you’ve got to noticed that many families do this and then you need to
take your shoes off as well.
Next up, notice if they start with a prayer, follow their lead.
They probably know that you’re not of their religion and just go ahead and, yes, acknowledge
and be quiet be respectful.
Dining etiquette rule number four.
Wait it be seated and don’t just start grabbing food especially when you walk into a place
and no one is eating yet.
Understand that the person that put this together may have a special plan, they may have an
order.
So, you don’t want to just take a seat at a large table when they’re – they may
actually have assigned seating and you go in there and just mess things up.
Don’t be that guy.
Dining etiquette rule number five, gents, understand the basics of a table setting.
We’re talking about the dishes and utensils that are right in front of you, how to use
them in what order and what are the basic rules.
Let’s get into it.
Okay.
So, when you first take a seat, you want to take that napkin right in front of you, put
it on your lap.
Fold it up, that’s where it goes.
Now, looking again in front of you, what do we see here?
To the right, we see a knife and that will oftentimes either be a cutting knife or a
butter knife.
We’re also going to see two spoons to the right.
Now, one of them maybe a dessert spoon, the other one is going to be a soup spoon.
This is assuming that multiple meals are going to come up.
And one thing you want to remember is that you want to use the utensils from the outside
going in.
Now, let’s look on the other side, we’re going to see two forks.
Sometimes even more, but right now let’s look at that small fork.
That going to be either the dessert fork or the salad fork.
So, if they bring you a salad, the small fork is the one you use.
The dinner fork is the one right next to it a little bit larger.
Now, let’s look up over to our right.
We’re going to oftentimes have a wine glass.
We’re going to see a water glass.
Now, on occasion, you’re also going to see a bread plate with a butter knife and you’re
also going to see coffee cup and saucer.
Again, guys, you don’t have to use every dish and utensil, they are there to give you
options.
So, this next dining etiquette rule, I see people break it all the time, eating before
you should start eating.
So, if you’re eating with one other person, it’s pretty obvious you wait for them to
get their food as well.
If you’re going to eat before them though and let’s say that their food is a bit delayed,
you can simply ask them permission or they can give you permission preemptively to go
ahead and start eating without them.
Now, if you’re working with a group of four or you’ve got six people, you’ve got ten
people, then in that case you want to wait ‘til about half the people have been served
before you start eating.
Now, of course if there’s a delay, go ahead and say, hey, do you guys mind if I start
eating.
No one wants you to eat cold food, but what you want to look for is get a group of people
so you can start together.
Dining etiquette rule number seven.
If you want food, ask it to be passed to you.
If you’re going to be passing food, pass it counter clockwise or to the right.
Now, that’s an old rule and if you see food getting passed to the left, no reason, you
know, to break that, just go with it.
The idea is bringing order to disorder.
[0:05:06] Now, what you don’t want to do is stand
up, pull out your knife and just reach across the table, man, slam, take that piece of meat
and claim it for your own.
At the end of the day, that’s not really good table manners.
Dining etiquette rule number eight.
Eat like a gentleman.
I’ve got five guidelines here.
Number one, chew with your mouth closed.
Number two, make sure to not talk with your mouth full of food.
Number three, taste your food.
You should not eat everything on your plate in about a minute-and-a-half.
Guideline number four, no slurping no crazy sounds as you inhale the food.
And, finally, guideline number five, bring the food to your face, not your face down
to the food.
Makes sense?
Dining etiquette rule number nine.
Know how to have a meal conversation.
So, a meal conversation should be simple, it should be lighthearted.
It should be something that doesn’t offend or upset the person you’re speaking with.
Wait ‘til after the meal.
Yeah, I understand sometimes you need to have a serious conversation with this person, but
wait ‘til the food is done.
Now, this next dining etiquette rule I see kind of disappearing, but I’d like for it
to come back and that’s when you get up just simply say excuse me.
You don’t need to announce it to the table that you’re going to the bathroom or that,
hey, I got to crap and where’s the [bleeping sound].
No, just that last bit is a little bit rude, it’s much more elegant to simply say excuse
me.
All right, gentlemen, now it is your turn.
I want to hear from you down in the comments what common dining etiquette rules do you
see broken all the time in your area.
I love hearing back from you guys, I love hearing different stories.
And, you know, when you see someone break these rules I’m not going to day to correct
them in public, but I am saying, hey, you are responsible in my opinion for setting
the example.
Even when you’re eating by yourself, I would say have basic etiquette dining rules that
you follow that you practice, so when the time comes it’s second nature and you’re
not, you know, falling back into bad habits.
Makes sense, guys?
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