What is up everyone.
Welcome back to my channel.
Now, in today's video, we are going to talk about the top three fears that people have
when thinking about quitting their jobs.
And exactly how to overcome them.
Now, chances are if you're still watching this video, you're probably thinking about
leaving your job, but you're scared shitless to actually to do it.
Trust me, I've been there.
You can click here to watch my story, or listen to my story, of how I was able to quit the
nine to five and all the things that were going through my head.
But regardless, even though I've successfully left the nine to five for good, there were
a lot of fears that I still remember.
That's why in today's video, I'm actually going to break down the three top fears that
were initially holding me back from quitting my job.
And exactly how I overcame them.
So, if that's something that you might need help on, then keep on watching.
Now, the first fear on the list is the fear of judgment.
Being scared of what your mom will think, what your dad will think, what your boss's
boss will think.
All of a sudden, when you are considering in pulling the plug, suddenly you're hyper
aware of everyone's opinions all of a sudden.
And yes, I know.
In the present day moment, it's really hard to let the fear of judgment go, but what I
want you to do and what's really helped me, is actually think back on elementary school
or think back on high school and think about all the things that you didn't do because
you were scared of what other people thought.
Now, when you look back on it, you're probably like, "Oh my goodness.
I wish I did X."
But too bad I didn't, because at the time when I was in high school or when I was in
elementary school, I was so insecure that I couldn't see past that.
And so I didn't so the things that I wanted.
You know, for me, there were a lot of people in high school that I wished I stood up to.
Or a lot of people in elementary school I wish I stood up to.
But I never did because I was scared of what other people would think.
And now looking back, I'm like, "Vanessa!
Why didn't you ... " You know what I mean?
I would have done everything so differently.
And just trust that this moment in your life is exactly the same.
Five years from now, six years from now, you're going to look back and you're going to wish
that you quit sooner and you weren't so scared and you didn't hold yourself back because
you were scared of what your boss thought.
Another thing that helped put things into perspective for me, especially when I was
dealing with the fear of judgment, was when I asked myself, "How do I perceive other people
who have taken the leap?"
For me personally, I have immense admiration and respect for people who have done that
and have actually taken this brave act of courage to do the things that they want to
do.
So just trust that the way that you admire and the way that you look up to these people,
is the same way that other people are going to look up to you when you pull the plug and
actually follow your intuition to do the things that you want to do.
I remember when it was my last day at work and I was making my rounds saying goodbye
to everyone, there were a handful of people, even people that were more senior than me,
actually pulling me aside to tell them how they admired my bravery and how much they
wished that it was them instead.
So, I just want to share that example to show you that all the fears that you have in your
head of people judging you in a very negative way, is so wrong.
Because, trust me, there's a handful of people that want to take the leap, don't know how
or don't have the means to, that truly want to be in your position.
Actually having that act of bravery and taking the leap and pulling the plug officially.
And then lastly, still on the topic on the fear of judgment, is when I actually came
across this study where they research or they surveyed 1200 senior citizens in an elderly
home.
And they asked them, "What was their biggest regret in life?"
And, almost all of them answered that their biggest regret in life, was worrying too much
and not taking action in doing the things that they truly wanted to do.
And when I read that, I was like, "Wow."
It really put things into perspective for me that I have so many more years to live,
and for me to kind of put my life on pause for other people, just simply doesn't make
sense.
So that's why I at least wanted to share this study with you, in case it also pulls on your
heartstrings and makes you realize that life is too short to put your life on pause and
to stay in a career that does not make you fulfilled.
Because remember, your job is going to take up 70% of your time in your life.
And what is the point of spending 70% of your time in something that you hate and something
that you're dreading?
Because that's your life at the end of the day and you only have one that you remember.
Now, the second fear that might be going through your mind, that certainly when through my
mind, was job security.
Now, I'm going to be super real with you guys and tell you that that fear is actually quite
valid.
And it's actually a really common one that a lot of people face when thinking about quitting
their jobs.
However, what a I do want to mention is that often times, this specific fear stems from
our own fear of lack of control and lack of clarity.
As humans, since we're so solution oriented, when we are paralyzed with fear, it's hard
for us to make good decisions without blowing the consequences and risks out of proportion.
That's why to help you calm your fears and also help you see things more objectively,
I'm going to show you the exact exercise that I did to help me understand that things aren't
so bad.
The moment that I did this exercise, the next day, I handed in my resignation letter.
So keep watching.
So for this exercise, you're going to have two columns.
On one side you've got risk, and on the other side you've got solution.
Now, maybe something that you're super scared about is maybe you'll run out of money if
you quit your job to start your own business.
This is something that I was super scared about.
Once you write that down on the risk column, you want to actually solve the problem.
Now, maybe by solving the problem you could be saving money per month to quit by a certain
date.
Or like me, if you have this fear, you could maybe potentially take a less stressful transition
job, so you can spend more time on your business.
I did this after I quit my Fortune 500 job.
I actually had to work as a barista for a while making minimum wage in order to get
my business up and running and ensure that all my expenses were covered.
Another solution could be having a roommate, downsizing your apartment or living with your
parents.
These are things that you can actually, potentially do in order to solve this problem or this
fear that you have.
Now, this might not be only fear that you have.
So actually start writing all the risks that you can think of.
And again, doing the same process of thinking of the solution.
And at the end of the day, what you really want to ask yourself is are you going to die,
starve or be homeless if you quit your job?
If your answer is no, then I'm pretty sure you're going to have a solution.
Especially if this job is literally sucking the life out of you.
Really ask yourself if it's worth it.
And if there are any sacrifices that you can make in order to alleviate that stress and
that pain that you're going through by staying at your job.
Now, hopefully, by sharing this example with you, step by step, you can now see that you
pretty much have a solution for everything.
And if you are in a position where you do have a solution for everything, you can now
understand that things aren't so bad.
You just have to be willing to make certain sacrifices if necessary, to make your big
vision for yourself actually happen.
This is the exact same process that I went through.
And I'm really glad that it opened my eyes to the power of objectivity.
Now, the third and last fear that's on my personal list that held me back for a long
time, is being afraid that you're going to put everything you've done, to waste.
In other words, saying to yourself, "Oh, I've already gone this far.
I've already invested in all these trainings.
I went to school for this.
Yada, yada, ya."
All the time, money and energy that you might have invested in something, it's hard for
you to let that go.
Well my friend, this is what economists like to call the "sunk cost fallacy".
Let me break this down for you.
Now, I'm going to drop the definition right here so you can read it with me, but basically
the sunk cost fallacy is the idea that a company organization, or in our case, a person, is
likely continue a project if they have invested a lot of time, money, or effort in it, even
when continuing is not the best thing to do.
Now, if you're a visual learner like me, I'm going to put a comic strip right here so that
you understand the point even further.
Funny, right?
Another thing, I'm going to put one right here in case you want another example.
Now, I think you get the point, but ask yourself, seriously, even though, yes you've invested
all this time, money and energy into something, is it really worth investing even more into
it?
Or is your time better spent actually cutting your losses and doing something else with
that time, money or energy?
And I know, as humans, we like to avoid failure.
And the issue with sunk cost fallacy, is that we believe that if we actually abandon our
original investment, it's basically like waving a white flag saying we failed.
And we hate failure.
But, the smart decision is that you have to recognize that the past is the past.
Everything that you've done or everything that you've spent, is already a sunk cost.
It's nowhere to be recovered.
However, what you can change is your future.
So, if you are given the opportunity today to change your future, why are you spending
your time looking at methods that clearly don't work from the past?
It's kind of like dating someone.
If you're dating someone that's clearly not for you, you're wasting your time on that
person, when that time could be used somewhere else of actually finding the one and finding
the person you're meant to spend the rest of your life with.
Another thing that I want to share with you guys, and it's a quote that really struck
me during my journey of quitting the nine to five is this: The best time to do something,
was a month ago, a week ago, five years ago, two years ago.
Doesn't matter, but the next best time to do something, is today.
So just trust that five months from now, six months from now, if you actually don't take
action, you're going to look back on today and wish that you did.
So, I'm going to leave you guys with that last tip, but just know that I understand
how scary it is to pull the plug and actually leave a job.
But trust me, I left my job, maybe half a year ago and it was probably one of the best
decisions I've made.
Since then, I've started my own business.
I've been able to replace that income and it's been awesome for me.
So, if that can happen for me, just trust that it can happen for you.
And if you need more assistance from me, I'm going to actually link my website right here.
It's going to be in the description box and the comment section below, if you want access
to my private Facebook group, access to me ... Now, help a lot of people.
Ditch the nine to five, so that they can launch their online service based businesses.
So definitely check that resource out if you're interested.
Other than that, I hope you guys have a great week.
Hope you guys have a great life.
And thank you for watching.
And I really hope that all my tips kind of help.
I know that it's not an easy decision to leave the nine to five, but trust me, it's a phase
in your life and it will pass.
You just have to decide and commit to make that decision.
Anyways, bye bosses.
I'll see you next time.