welcome to Landria Onkka on YouTube here to help you break through those fears living off some life
giving you the tools to manifest anything catch my webinar it is not on YouTube live it is on a
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information today we are going to talk about something that I think everybody can relate to
and that is being an enabler and energy vampires how do these two go together well they're directly
related we're going to talk about you giving away your energy because nobody actually takes it you
must give right everything you give you receive and helping people versus being an enabler now I
have definitely done this I'm sure everybody who cares about other people or really loves their
friends and family wants to see them do well right we all have done this on some point or
maybe you're in a relationship and you're trying to help that person what you're doing actually
is saying you're not okay and I am going to help you to become what I believe is best for you and
also bypass the lessons that come along the way that they need to get their butt kicked so that
they'll make a change so how many times have you given somebody money and then they don't change
they'd given more money or you know you help them and they they come to you and they say oh you know
my boyfriend I broke up and you go yes honey he was horrible for you and you know now you know
you're worth more and then he calls and she's out the door with the bad boyfriend again and
he's not really bad what he is is just teaching her some lessons that hey when you're done with
being abused then you know then we'll break up and you can go on your way these are all lessons an
enabler is somebody who often finds themselves wanting to be helpful but is really imposing
their own desires on somebody else now there's a difference between an enabler and somebody
truly helping if somebody came to you and said gosh you know just haven't been you know feeling
like I have purpose and you know there's these things going in my life and I don't know what to
do every day and you say hey listen I've got this spiritual teacher on YouTube and here's a couple
of her videos and you send a couple my videos now if your friend is going through some stuff
and you say and you say hey you know here's some videos about you know finding your life purpose
or financial difficulties or whatever and you find that they're not receptive to it you're now
the person who's trying to change them now that doesn't make you an enabler but what I'm trying
to say is if you have a consistent friend or a situation where somebody has problems and you're
always the person to fix it if it is giving them the videos or the book or the money or whatever
it is you are now an enabler enabler is when you consistently keep trying to help that person and
fix it and they are not doing it they must do it themselves so how many of you have written
me leAndria helped me how do I do that how do I get somebody somebody just texted told me direct
messaged me how do I get somebody to text me I'm thinking well get get out of your ego based
thinking for starters and and just live your life just live your life and be amazing right we're
all amazing we're such individual creatures but so the question is we want other people to help
us but if I were to do that which I can't anyways if I were to do that what would anybody learn if
they got the gold medal and they didn't know what it was like to get up at 3 o'clock in the morning
and run you know miles and miles every day and you know stretch and lift weights and what would they
learn nothing and they would miss that journey that is so valuable you couldn't remember that's
why we're here it's safe journey where you go oh my gosh aha have you ever reached some major
point without some kind of a crisis along the way right we've lost things in your we realized oh my
gosh this didn't make me happy there has to be something more because we think that's going
to make us happy right and so somebody you're enabling thinks that whatever is out there is
gonna make them happy and if they don't go inside here and make that personal change and and if they
come to you and say I would like your help or whatever not you giving a being a cheerleader
because you know that that's an addiction to for a lot of people and then they go back to
the complaining and then you are have become an enabler you if you are not helping them because
they have asked for certain things and allowing them to go on their path and fail so what happens
is that is an energy dream for you because you're one team you are actually wanting something from
them I know this because I've done this before I was desiring a positive change for them and
when it didn't happen I was disappointed why I had expectations you'll always be disappointed if you
have expectations expectations is the ego saying I expect something from you somebody said something
because my dad is an amazing person I mentioned on a video that the only thing that he ever said
he didn't like was he wasn't real thrilled with the Catholic religion and somebody said I'm so
disappointed I'm just just so disappointed when I heard that and I thought well you're gonna be
disappointed the rest of your life because people are not gonna believe and think the way you should
they you believe they should right and the fact that you're even thinking that well somebody
could say I'm disappointed that you're judging somebody else where does it end right so can we
stop judging stop having expectations and stop wanting that person of course we wish well for
them prayers sending them you know good vibes good energy now here's here's where this switch comes
that is better for you and better for them walk away I'm gonna tell you what an energy vampire
is nobody takes your energy let's get that out of your head if I hear that one more time people
suck your energy like somebody comes in the room we're all one energy that's it it isn't
like you have more or less than somebody you get depleted when you are going into a density a lower
frequency that's all that is you're not depleting your energy you're you're going into a density a
lower frequency of or lower vibration you're focused on that and that means your energy is
going into you're worried you know your whatever it is that you're going into that is your focus is
being all put into other areas instead of out here that's all there is it's just a really focus of
your energy no one depletes your energy there's no vampire that sucks the energy out of you all right
you must give it so here's what happens we have friends that do you have the friend that's just
always complaining I'm not talking about working out problems girlfriend talk you know we need a
good chat to work your stuff I'm talking about you go to a dinner party and there's like that
one person and every conversation is about their illness the one that they had their family how
bad their family was if it's most of time it's not even going on anymore you know all their
childhood traumas if I hear that one more time they then they have a story of what they are and
here's an I am though you know the abused child or the whatever and so you realize that there
there's their energy is so low it's in such a dense place and that is an energy vampire
that's one well it's such a heaviness and we are connected to each other you will pick up on that
lower in that energy and you'll feel like you're being trained but you're actually almost like an
empath you will feel the lower frequency and then more you round those people the more it's going
to affect you it's not healthy to listen to that stuff can you be the higher frequency in the room
yes don't hang out with those people it's time now I know we all want to help each other and
we will your energy is still intact but if your focus now is on what you're hearing and feeling
from them and that's the quantum field we want to focus on the higher frequency the higher thoughts
the higher actions solving the challenges finding out what the teachings are not complaining and
victim right that the the person over here is the victim they're always always somebody else's fault
or somebody said you know what up what about if you're a victim of abuse and yet hello what time
is it is it going on right now it's now what do you can do now that's gone what did you learn from
it anything obviously not and of course you're the only one in the world that has had these problems
everyone has every single person has dealt with major challenges we don't escape that all right
so this is a little bit of a spiritual but kick because I want you to understand that this split
of half you know of what's happening with the different dimensions it's happening because we're
one energy we're always going to be connected to the things that are going on and through raising
our own frequency is the best way we can help anybody else and once they get done with their
own journey and they decide they're they're done suffering then they too can right raise their
frequency so the energy vampire they're addicted to the complaints the victimization and they're
addicted to having you to help them they love it it makes them feel great gives him all kinds
of attention and then they go right back to the same ol same ol it's a pattern imagine a chord
that you have to somebody who's negative energy and uses clip and they float off like a healing
balloon off into the sky on their journey and you plus them take care of you your energy must be at
its highest right now and allow the others to go off and if they go down to the sea in the third
dimension so be it so be it that's okay don't like their way back at some point there's no good nor
bad don't freak out about this stuff do your job you're here on a mission and it's amazing you guys
are unbelievably amazing you're whole and perfect strong and powerful loving harmonious and happy
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some amazing stuff take one of my courses then we have weeks that you work on all of this with
a hundred and eighty videos I don't know how many like twenty-eight meditations it's crazy
what I give you alright yeah I've got the tools for you but I can't do it for you and you can't
do it for them alright tell him to put the teeth in in a little vampire teeth in but by shut the
door and you start raising your frequency and watch what happens it's gonna be amazing namaste