And so can we talk about how you going to act
like I didn't want to drive? - Yeah.
I'll drive. [laughs] [bleep]
I had to get an oil change.
And I couldn't go yesterday.
Can I get some?
Then this morning, I told you I just needed to get gas and oil.
The night before we left the house,
we talked about which car we were taking.
We agreed that she was going to drive
and we were taking her car.
In the morning, she gets wishy-washy about whose
car we want to take.
And hits me with the "so whose car are we taking?"
It's not about what you said.
It's just how you said it.
How did I say it?
[music playing]
Hello?
My husband is mad because I didn't end up driving.
and, like, why does that matter?
Maybe he's just, like, stressed out
I guess about final decision, so who knows?
I was just bringing it up, just as far as, OK, well,
we need to go, because I need to get these two things done
for the car before we leave.
I'm still figuring out who she is.
And I don't like when you say something and then
do something different.
Like, I'm not sure if that's the person I want be spending
the rest of my life with.
You got weird about it. - I didn't--
Like, whose car are we taking?
As in, I'm not trying to take my car,
like we already talked about.
Because I didn't get an oil change.
We talked about it last night on the drive home.
Her reaction, it makes me a little nervous
just because I do worry about the future 20 years
down the road.
I don't want to be that couple that
just don't agree on anything.
At this point, I feel like that's all we're doing so far.
No.
I'm saying, I didn't have-- my car was on E,
and I knew, OK, if we were-- - So what?
- --morning-- - Why'd you have to say that?
Like, who cares if your car was on E.
- Because we were already-- - You go to as gas station.
OK.
How do you know what my car was on?
We were going to have to get gas regardless.
When he gets super annoyed with me,
it just makes me really nervous and really scared
for the future, because we only have a few days
before final decision.
I just can't seem to win. - I don't know.
It's not about winning, but it's just about how
I feel about the situation.
So eff what I say.
[music playing]
Conflict is necessary in a relationship or marriage.
Two people are not always going to feel
the same way about an issue.
Conflict isn't good, however, if there's
not compromise, discussion.
And they need to have the maturity
to deal with the things they don't like in language that is
not hurtful to their partner.
Man, this rain is crazy, huh?
[laughs]
Jephte, [laughs] I'm not laughing.
[laughs]
I feel real sad.
Is it the rain?
We need to learn how to disagree.
Not attack each other and fight each other.
Because when you're with someone, you're a unit.
You're a team.
So when he is down and I'm up, I'm grabbing
his hand for us to go together.
That's what marriage means to me.
I will get over it.
I hope so.
[music playing]
[laughs] I'm not doing this with you.
I'm just not.
[laughs] You can't drive anyways, because you
don't have your glasses. [laughs]
[laughs] Jephte!
I'm just proud that we're able to come back
from this situation and be at the place
where I know we can be, and where
we need to be for each other.
Especially before going to final decisions.
This shows that he cares and he just wants
it to work as much as I do.
[laughs] I don't understand how this works.
Yeah.
It's crazy, right?
That's marriage for you.
[laughs]