Heya playas, this is a phone and with it you can do a lot of things like check your Facebook,
upload photos to Instagram or even ask a girl out by text message. This is The Josh Speaks.
You're watching The Josh Speaks. Before we cover how to ask a girl out by text, I want
to explain my reasons why you shouldn't. The main problem here is that by sending her a
text message you're doing very little to distinguish youself from everyone else. Anyone can type
the same exact thing that you did and because it's so easy to do, that makes your chances
of getting her to notice you drop tremendously. Although we're constantly on our phones, our
attention span for one conversation is near zero at this point, have you ever gotten a
text message from someone and purposely chose to ignore it because you wanted to do something
else because you wanted to do something else in your phone in that moment? Now imagine
that the girl you like is doing the same exact thing. The only difference is that she's getting
tons and tons more text messages, so many that she can't keep up with him. That's why
the best way to ask her out is in person. You can keep her direct attention and help
yourself stand out from all the other guys. So does that mean talking with a girl or asking
her out over text is useless? Not exactly. Texting should be used as a building block
for something more and where most guys fail though is in the first few messages that they
send a girl. Most of the time, they start a conversation asking for something instead
of offering something. For example, let's say you start a conversation with "Hey, what's
up? What are you up to?". While simple and potentially effective, you're putting it on
the other person to carry the conversation. What she's gonna be left thinking is "Is this
really worth my time to answer?". And unless she actually likes you, chances are you're
going to be moved lower on the necessity scale. So how do you avoid getting bumped down and
responded to with something just as generic like "nm, u?". Offer her something from the
get go, that can be in the form of a fun story that happened to you, a proposition that you
want her to agree with or a challenge that you want her to complete. If you start your
story with something like "Oh my god you won't believe what happened to me today". That will
help in starting to build her intrigue in the story that you're gonna tell her. She
may have responded with something like "what happened?". And from there you tell her a
fun story and you can even ask her if she's ever experienced something like that too.
If you want to create a proposition for her make it direct. Text her something like "Oh
my god. I just found the most AMAZING pastry shop or cool spot in the park that I just
love". You have to check it out with me. By creating definitively set plans that you're
going to do something and you want her to join you. It allows her to be more flexible
and choose whether or not she wants to go. What it does is save you the trouble of trying
to figure out a maybe answer. If she gives you a no, then just go check it out yourself.
A challenge can be anything that you find fun to do, for example take a selfie of yourself
in that moment and tell her to do the same. Or use the emoticons like a game of charades,
text her a whole bunch in a row and have her try to figure out what they mean. The whole
purpose here is to grab her attention by text so you can ask her out. By doing unconventional
things, you'll stand out from everyone else. What do you guys think though, have you ever
wanted to ask a girl out by text but were too afraid to? Leave your comments below so
we can talk about it. Now if texting is not your thing, and you prefer to ask a girl out
on Facebook,, check out this video right here where I break down step by step of what to
do when you're using Facebook to ask a girl out. If you really want to up your chances
of actually going out with her, build that interaction through text and then ask her
to meet up with you. When you finally meet up in person, that's when you ask her out
because you've built up this awesome persona through text, and now she's going to get to
see the awesome person that you are, in person. As always guys, love and peace. Hey thanks
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