Hello you gorgeous things and welcome to my super advanced lesson on flirting.
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Today is part of a two-part series.
In this lesson, I am going to show you how you can ask someone out, how you can
flirt with someone at a C1 to C2 advanced level.
And next week in the next video, I'm
going to show you how you can break up with someone at a C1, C2 advanced level.
It's going to be hilarious.
We're going to be focusing on British
English slang, and we'll also touch on some pronunciation as well.
In the next lesson about breaking up, we'll focus more on general vocabulary
and grammar.
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Right, let's get back to the lesson.
Okay, let's start with the first one.
This is a baseline.
It doesn't have any slang.
It's a starting point so that you can make comparisons with later passages.
Let's try it.
Ready?
My friend doesn't think you'll agree to go on a date with me, but I'd love to
take you out for dinner sometime.
Nice and simple, a nice easy start.
That's our baseline.
Let's move to the next level, level two.
I've been wanting to ask you out all night, but my mate told me I had no
chance of getting a date with you.
He'll be absolutely speechless if you say yes.
So you wanna to get a bite to eat?
No pressure.
So did you understand all of that?
It wasn't too advanced, but there are a
few words that I really want to look at.
The first one is mate, mate.
This here in this context means friend, and it's really common in British
English, but it's even more common in Australian English.
For example, my mates encouraged me to ask you out.
The second word is the informal contraction wanna, which is short for
want to, wanna.
Some people pronounce it wanna, others
wanna with more of an o sound.
Some use a, wanna, wanna as an alternative.
An example, do you want to go for a drink sometime?
And the final phrase from that text is a
bite to eat, a bite to eat.
Now notice the pronunciation here.
In fast speech, when one word ends in a vowel sound and the next one starts with
a vowel sound, we often add an extra sound to make it easier to say.
In this case, the extra sound is w, a bite to eat, to eat.
But what does it mean?
Well, a bite to eat often means a small meal.
However, we also use it in conversation to ask if someone wants to go out for
something to eat, not necessarily something small.
It's just very informal.
For example, fancy getting a bite to eat
at the local pub.
Note that you will also hear bite on its
own or a bite on its own.
Fancy a bite later, fancy something to
eat later.
Now, before I move on, I also want to
talk about something in this question.
You might have noticed that do is missing
from it.
Instead of saying, do you wanna get a
bite to eat?
I just say, you wanna get a bite to eat?
In informal speech, we often omit auxiliary verbs like do from questions.
If we want to go super informal, we can omit you as well.
Wanna get a bite to eat?
Okay, I can do better than this.
We can go more advanced.
Let's try level three.
Ready?
You are, by miles, the most stunning person
in the room, and I've been weighing up whether to come over or not.
My mate over there, the slightly trolleyed one, told me I didn't have a chance in
hell of getting you to go out with me.
He's gonna be gobsmacked if you agree, so
what do you reckon?
You wanna go out for a slap-up meal sometime?
No worries if not.
Okay, how did you do with that?
It's definitely getting more advanced.
Not too advanced though.
It doesn't sound like you're trying to be Shakespeare.
The first phrase is by miles, by miles.
You can also say by far.
It means by a very large amount or by a
long way.
We do not use the metric system when we
use this phrase.
We can't say by kilometres.
It just doesn't sound right.
An example, you're the funniest person
I've ever met by miles, by a long way.
We also had to weigh up, to weigh up.
This is a phrasal verb.
This means to think carefully about doing
something before making a decision.
There is another linking sound in that
phrase, to weigh up, weigh up.
Can you hear it?
We insert a little j sound.
My next word is extremely colloquial, informal.
It's trolleyed, trolleyed, and this means very drunk.
Ben's trolleyed.
Get him a taxi.
And next, we have an idiom, to not have a chance in hell.
Sometimes we omit the in hell part.
We just say, to not have a chance.
And even sometimes, to not stand a chance.
We also use it with the verb to be.
There's no chance in hell that he will go out with you.
Now, this example might sound a little bit mean, but it's an example of British
banter, our humour.
We often say these kinds of things to
close friends, knowing, hopefully, that they will know that it's a joke.
It's like playful teasing.
It can go too far, but be prepared for it
if you come to Britain and mix with Brits.
Next, I just want to mention gonna from
that text.
It's another informal contraction, just
like wanna or wanna.
Gonna is generally pronounced with the schwa.
Gonna, gonna.
You gonna ask him out or not?
Another great word, super informal, gobsmacked.
Gobsmacked.
So gob is quite a rude, informal slang
word for mouth.
Shut your gob.
If you are gobsmacked, you are so surprised that you can't speak.
You smack your mouth.
I'm gobsmacked.
I'm absolutely gobsmacked.
It's very informal.
I was gobsmacked when he turned up to our date wearing a tuxedo, black tie.
The final word that I want to point out from that text is an adjective, slap-up.
Slap-up, which often comes before the word meal.
This means a very large and delicious meal.
But I will tell you a secret.
I didn't understand the meaning of this for a very long time.
I thought a meal that was...
A slap-up meal was something that was
just slapped up in the kitchen, something that was made in a really careless way.
So honestly, if someone had invited me for a slap-up meal, I'd have said, well,
maybe you could put in a little bit more effort.
An example, I'd love to take you out for
a slap - up meal sometime, a really large and delicious and luxurious meal.
That was good, but I think we can make it even more advanced.
Here is number four, level four, the final level.
Ready?
My mate, the tipsy one by the bar, is
absolutely sick of me banging on about how stunning you look and told me to shut
my cakehole and do something about it.
Anyway, I decided nothing ventured,
nothing gained, so I'm here to ask you out for dinner.
He'll be floored if you say yes.
Maybe literally, he's more than tipsy, to
be honest.
And I'll be well chuffed to get a date
with the fittest person in London.
No stress if you don't fancy it though.
Okay, how was that one?
Would you say yes to me?
It was packed full of slang, so let me break some of it down for you.
We have to be sick of something.
If you are sick of something, you are
bored of something because it's annoying, it's repetitive.
You will also hear people say, I'm sick of it, I'm sick of this, I'm bored of this.
An example, I'm sick of you talking about Dylan, either ask him out or stop.
We also have to bang on about something, to bang on about.
This means to talk for a long time about something in a way that is annoying.
Ruth's been banging on about her date for hours.
Did you notice that when I'm trying to be
extra informal, instead of saying banging with the ng sound at the end, I said
banging, banging.
And sometimes we do this for emphasis.
It also sometimes happens when we talk quickly.
I've been singing for hours, singing for
hours, should be singing.
The next word is possibly the funniest
one on my list.
Cakehole, cakehole, which is British
slang for mouth.
Isn't that wonderful?
It's literally the hole that you put cake into.
So we've had gob and cakehole.
This is an incredibly rude lesson.
It's not a polite word, but you will
often hear it in the phrase, shut your cakehole, shut your mouth.
In American English, they often say piehole, which maybe means that Americans
prefer pie over cake.
Now I want to talk about the idiom,
nothing ventured, nothing gained.
This is a proverb, meaning that you have
to take risks to achieve something or to get something good.
If you don't take any risks, you won't get the reward.
An example, just ask Ravi on a date, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Next, let's look at the verb to floor, which means to confuse or to surprise
someone so much that they don't know what to say.
Very slang here.
You saw this phrase in the passive voice,
he'll be floored, but you can also use it in the active voice.
Amelia floored me when she asked me if I wanted to dance.
I didn't think she knew who I was.
After that, you heard the most marvellous
slang adjective, chuffed, chuffed, which means very happy or proud, or sometimes
even satisfied in a positive, in a really positive way.
I was really chuffed, surprised and happy.
I was really chuffed when Tom gave me his
phone number, or I was so chuffed with my exam result.
We sometimes say well chuffed or chuffed to bits for emphasis.
Using well instead of very or incredibly is uber slang.
It's not traditionally grammatically correct, but it's a common feature in
many dialects.
You look well nice today.
That food is well good.
Unless you're trying to integrate into a
specific community that uses it, I wouldn't say it's something that you
should really say, but it's really important to understand it.
And the final word that I want to talk about is fit, fit, which in the text, in
that context means physically attractive.
We met some really fit guys at the pub
last night.
Did you notice how I used a glottal stop
at the end?
Fit guys, fit.
I'm being informal.
And when I am with my friends or family,
I'm talking fast.
We're having fun.
I don't follow all of the RP pronunciation rules.
I do use the glottal stop.
I do make intentional grammar mistakes.
As I said, you don't want to sound forced, but really important that you
understand why people say them.
Okay.
What do you think?
Would you use any of these phrases to ask
someone out if you were in the UK?
And maybe you can adopt some of the slang
into your daily conversations.
Let me know in the comment section.
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