hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about 10 signs you're a
lonely genius now let's begin number one social passivity many hyper-intelligent people struggle
to socialize they want to be social but their brains are jam-packed with creative analytical and
abstract ideas these overwhelming thoughts impede their ability to socialize so they never learn how
introverted prodigies are often inexperienced and misunderstood in the social world but they know
they're socially awkward so they compensate with social passivity well just take this situation you
see a stranger who's wearing the same shirt as you do you start a conversation with them or do
you hover nearby waiting for them to approach you the first is called social activity you're taking
the initiative you're starting the conversation but introverted geniuses do just the opposite
they're not confident in their social skills so they wait for other people to approach them
they take the passive approach unfortunately social passivity doesn't get you very far
you won't meet many people unless you take an active role in your social life but many geniuses
don't so they end up feeling lonely now not all passive people are geniuses but many lonely
geniuses are passive people number two playing too long all right let's say you're an amazing
guitarist one of the best in the world millions of people listen to you play but what happens when
you play for too long well it doesn't matter how talented you are people are going to lose interest
geniuses experience the same issue especially if they're extroverted these prodigies are naturally
social they love to meet new people and to form new bonds yet they feel lonely on a regular basis
why is that because they don't know when to stop just imagine you're at a restaurant with a group
of new friends you're excited to make a good first impression so you share a story or two
you capture the attention of everyone at the table but instead of stopping you just keep talking you
ramble on for 20 minutes rattling off story after story your new friends were interested at first
but now they're just bored and irritated it doesn't matter how educated or interesting you
are you overdid it extroverted geniuses share too much too often they want to express all the
interesting ideas that are packed into their heads but they don't know when to hold themselves back
if you know someone who tells long intellectual stories well they may be a lonely genius
number three understanding shortcomings not every genius is an intellectual powerhouse some are keen
observers of human behavior they read other people they're experts in social cues and body language
these geniuses can unravel complex social phenomena they identify personal biases and
psychological paradoxes they notice key trends and patterns in our society their insights are
profound but these geniuses are often lonely why is that social intelligence is a double-edged
sword they notice interesting patterns and biases but they also have a hard time making friends
they treat other people like subjects to be studied they're not relating to you
they're not bonding with you they're analyzing you and that can be isolating to make matters worse
social geniuses are largely pessimistic they understand how the world works so they clearly
see the mistakes and shortcomings in our behavior they're drawn to all the things we as human
beings do wrong and once they understand those failures it's hard to overlook them
number four resource driven friendships geniuses may struggle to make genuine friendships they
may have friends but those friends may stick around for the wrong reasons these friends don't
care about you personally they're only after your talents they know that you're a gifted individual
with amazing potential so they cling to you hoping to leech off of your success the problem is many
geniuses cling to these bad friends you may be accustomed to shallow friendships in your mind
it's normal for friends to mooch off your success it may be normal but it isn't healthy it's scary
to end any friendship even a bad one but these friendships do more harm than good these people
may pacify your lonely feelings in the moment but you'll be even lonelier in the long run do you
know someone who clings to the wrong friends this person may be a genius who's scared of being alone
number five the intellectual barrier geniuses have a hard time explaining themselves because
few people think the way they do when talking to others this can be incredibly frustrating
a genius may explain themselves 30 different ways but every time they're met with awkward silence
and a blank stare geniuses conceive concepts in ways that other people just can't understand it's
not a matter of complexity or education a genius may explain themselves as clearly as they can but
the other person's mind just doesn't work that way it's almost like you're speaking another language
imagine talking in french to a group of english speakers no matter how long you talk your audience
will not understand you there's a language barrier that no amount of communication will cross many
geniuses encounter a similar barrier instead of a language barrier this is an intellectual barrier
let's say a genius has an iq of 160 they're talking to someone with an iq of 90.
this creates a large intellectual barrier between these two people and that barrier
makes communication almost impossible this experience is commonplace for a genius they
want to express an idea but their audience doesn't understand and that can be very lonely
number six deeper connections just think of a satisfying experience you accomplish a goal
you help another person you spend quality time with your loved ones for most these are moments
of pride and fulfillment but a genius needs something more a genius isn't satisfied by
normal interactions they want to reinvent the way things are done they want to discover or transform
something every chance they get anything less is boring geniuses rarely find other people who
share their ambitions most people aren't capable of these deeper transformations they don't want
to reinvent the wheel but geniuses do that's why geniuses feel lonely in their pursuit of change
if you know someone who's constantly chasing something more they may be a lonely genius
number seven the unhappiness of knowing ignorance can be a blessing in disguise just
imagine this situation your doctor tells you that you're going to die in the next 24 hours
it could be 5 minutes from now it could be 23 hours from now you just don't know but you spend
the next day wondering when it's going to happen in this case knowledge is torture because you
know you're going to die you spend the whole day panicking if you didn't know anything you'd live
this day like any other happy and unaware the same can be said for geniuses they're
constantly in pursuit of new knowledge but that knowledge often backfires yeah they understand
more about the world around them yeah they can make connections that few other people understand
but to make those connections they sacrifice their peace of mind their sense of fulfillment
maybe even their happiness and the worst part is no one really understands why a genius is unhappy
the rest of the world is blissfully unaware but not all geniuses can ignore the truth it's
an intellectual burden and that burden is hard to carry on your own number eight the bias blind spot
intelligent people identify mistakes in the world around them but what about their own failures
lonely geniuses have a biased blind spot they're unable to recognize their own flaws so they never
learn and they never grow that stagnancy may be the root cause of their loneliness a lonely
genius may blame the world for their solitude they think society doesn't like or understand them but
the truth is they've been sabotaging themselves they blame the world for this misunderstanding
but most geniuses misunderstand their own issues if you know a lonely genius listen to the way
they criticize other people they may condemn their failures without recognizing their own
number nine disconnected experiences shared experiences bring people together all right let's
say you and a stranger work in the same office you now share a unique experience with that person
you can laugh and tell stories about your job that person will understand what you're talking about
because you have something in common geniuses struggle to share their experiences on a basic
level they perceive experiences differently they notice and latch on to different things than most
people in broader terms the experiences of a genius may be unusual or unique
they spend their time doing things no one else understands their passions and careers
fly over most people's heads and to the rest of the world their experiences are completely
unrelatable without experiences to share geniuses may feel isolated number 10 prideful privacy
pride is a tricky thing for a genius a stranger may view you as a remarkable individual
they think you've accomplished plenty in your life but a genius views themselves very differently
let's say a lonely genius writes a book to the average observer this is an amazing accomplishment
but a genius doesn't feel proud of their work there are thousands of other authors in the world
a genius isn't satisfied with something others have done before they want to do
something new something innovative something truly extraordinary even then a genius won't
be satisfied they'll continue to push and push until they've surpassed everyone in their field
few people understand this craving for innovation most people feel proud just doing something they
love they're proud to be happy with their life but geniuses are not most people that's why
lonely geniuses keep their projects to themselves they're modest and private because there's much
more they want to accomplish even if other people are impressed they are never satisfied hey thank
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