Now we're going to look at ENFPs and the agreeableness trait.
First things first, what is agreeableness and why does it matter?
Agreeableness can be broken down into two components which actually help you understand what
it is overall which is compassion and politeness. People who are quite disagreeable have no problem
with negotiation. They have no problem saying what they think, telling you you're wrong and telling
you why they are right. People who are high in agreeableness tend to dislike confrontation. We
like to get along with the people around us maybe we're talking to someone and we know that they're
wrong but do we really need to start some kind of a conflict? I don't think we need to do that
today. People who are higher in agreeableness will probably be easier to get along with
and will be more nurturing. So there's a lot of benefit to being more agreeable. If you're
extremely agreeable it has some downsides in that. You'll never stand up for yourself and
you could also be quite naive and just go with the flow a little bit too much. People who are very
disagreeable will tend to earn more money because they're willing to negotiate and fight for income.
Now as much as it could cause the odd problem at home being very disagreeable has a lot of benefits
in the work setting. Being someone who is quite disagreeable in the right role will allow you to
make very calculated decisions, to say what you want, to negotiate better, maybe to fire people
or make changes that other people would find quite awkward to make. So there's some benefits
to being disagreeable. Generally, we are what we are anyhow but it's nice to understand the
reason some of us are one way or the other. So how would ENFPs rate on the agreeable trait?
Well let's ignore the odd militant vegan who's emailed me quite interesting views from time to
time and look at the majority of ENFPs and I would say we're going to rate on the agreeable side.
Not necessarily extreme but most ENFPs tend to be fairly agreeable. But I'm going to add a bit
of a caveat to this is that I think our core personality is actually somewhere in the middle
and on politeness actually fairly disagreeable where we are quite compassionate which is you know
the two aspects of agreeableness compassion and politeness. One aspect of politeness
is actually about how you relate to authority and you don't necessarily love authority and that
sort of thing. So I think one of the things with our type is we're quite malleable and so we will
often be more polite than we really want to be and really hold ourselves back. Now of course that is
part of agreeableness is basically you know, do you just say what you think or are you kind of
filtering and trying to agree with other people? So I would say we're going to come up on above
average on agreeableness but not on an extreme with it and this can cause some of the problems
that I see a lot with ENFPs is that we try to avoid confrontation often around hurting people so
maybe stay in a job or relationship a lot longer than we should and really drag things out and that
obviously has negative consequences. So some advice if you are more agreeable than average,
the first thing is you've got to figure out a way to deal with conflict. Now I'm not saying
you learn to jump into the lion's den and you know face off and deal with harsh confrontation
with every ENTJ you ever meet. You're never going to be able to play their game at that level. But
you need to learn how to get to that same result in your own way. So for example I'm not someone
who's great with confrontation or great with talking about money I'm not so bad talking about
money. Now I've been in business for myself for about 10 years so you have to get better with it,
but what I figured out when I was starting as a freelancer and this is what I teach in my Free
Freelancer Program now as well is if you're not comfortable talking about money or even if you
are this actually works better is you build that into your marketing and sales strategy so there's
an approach to sales and I do have a video on this about where you're basically listening right
you're not being pushy you're not trying to get yeses from people or anything like that and that
is an smoother way to have a conversation even if you are very uncomfortable with conversation. And
then when it comes to money you don't have to bring it up face to face looking at the person
you can use an effective proposal so there isn't this feeling of pressure and confrontation. So
if you know that being agreeable is causing you to hold back and maybe not state what
you want when it comes to what you should get paid or negotiation or something like that,
then you need to find a way to fix that to balance that out, because it ultimately will have a
negative effect on your bottom line and that is, of course, not something we want for you. Next up
we're going to look at ENFPs and conscientiousness which is essentially organization and hard work.
Are there going to be some surprises in this one? I guess you'll have to watch the video to
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