When I out of the blue just tap them on the shoulder and say "Hey, you're super
cute. I'm a matchmaker. Are you single?" They think they're on a TV show.
This country as a whole, our society as a
whole, is incredibly, incredibly frustrated with dating. I had somebody
call me a fairy godmother once. They said "Oh my gosh you're my fairy godmother."
I'm fast but not that fast in heels.
Hi I'm Alisa Purifico Morrell and I am a Senior Matchmaker with Three Day Rule.
I don't go into an office every day. I don't have a 9-to-5 job. A lot of
what I do is meeting people after the work day, on their lunch break or during
happy hours. I work a lot a night. Hello beautiful! How are you? A lot of the times
I meet people at their offices or at a coffee shop or at a wine bar.
You should combine a therapist, with a wingwoman, with your best friend, with
some sort of a recruiter-agent. That's essentially what a matchmaker does. It's
an interesting time in the society where, even maybe 10 years ago, a man might
approach a woman on the street and say "hello" or do a little pickup line or
something kind of fun, again like you've seen romantic comedies. But nowadays it's
a different tone. It's, um, not very common that people will approach someone out of
the blue. In fact, their heads are probably in their cell phones. People are
becoming more and more frustrated with finding people organically. I usually
have a couple of match meetings lined up for the afternoon or into the early
evening. And on the way to those meetings I might bump into somebody in the subway
or out in the street. If I see someone that is a potential physical match for
one of my clients, my job is to just go see if they're even single or available.
I've chased someone down the street before. (Panting) I can't keep up.
(laughing) Fail! I'm fast but not that fast in heels. Actually, I've done that a couple times, admittedly.
So, I'm quite good at running in heels. See that? That's uh, me wearing
down my heel from running around town so much. Gotta catch them! In New York
especially, one of my favorite places to pick up people is in the subway because
there's no better place than to sit across from somebody for potentially two
and a half three minutes where you're staring at somebody in the eyes.
So the beauty about being a matchmaker is asking the tough questions for my
clients when they can't. For example, if my client is looking for somebody
who you know wants to wait for sex in a relationship and they don't have sex
before the relationship. If I'm sitting down with a match potentially for that
client it's important for me to kind of dig for those questions. So you say good
intimacy does that mean you, um, you understood each other well sexually? Or
were you like you were able to explore thing? And in conjunction how does that
correlate to what you're looking for in a partner? They don't have to know
necessarily what my client is looking for. I just need to know what they're
looking for so I can bridge the gap behind the scenes.
So he want, he definitely wants marriage. He definitely wants a wife. When I
chat with about age range, he was, caveat, he was open from 30 to up to his age, which is amazing.
He does want kids though. Type wise, he
was kind of describing like a petite, Caucasian, dark haired type. The hardest
part about my job is having tough conversations with people when they
really start to tap into the inner crevices of their soul and their
insecurities and their vulnerabilities. You know, it's scary for them and it gets
sad for them. They know they have to have these tough conversations in order to
get where they want to go in their love lives.
Tonight I'm going to a networking mixer for an opening of a new startup in Uptown.
So I do a lot of work at nighttime.
I have a lot of clients on the startup tech space. So they really jive with
like-minded startup folks. Black coffee at 4:30 in the afternoon. Just getting
the day started. Heels and coffee, baby. That's the name of the game.