Hey guys it's Melissa welcome back to Melissa Talks. Let's get into Fe and Fi.
I explained how Se and Si, two things you struggle with let's be honest ENTP you struggle a lot with
those two functions. But if you surround yourself with people and you actually try to understand and
empathize with the people around you you might accidentally do the right thing and get stuff
done and completely contradict all this typical stereotypes that we get slapped with. And all
of a sudden everyone thinks you're so sweet, you're so nice, you're so fun and friendly,
oh my gosh can we all just be your friend. Oh my gosh you just go into the room you understand
what's the predicament, is everyone getting along, is everyone happy, are the vibes off. Vibe check
it. Literally ENTPs are so good at vibe checks. There's a couple other types that are very in tune
with vibe checking, but ENTPs they're pretty high up on the list. So if an ENTP ever tells you just,
this is a side note random thing, if an ENTP ever says we need to leave we need to get out of here,
do not second guess that ENTP. The ENTP is picking up on things you have no idea to even consider
okay. So if an ENTP is in your friend group and you guys are bar hopping or just going to
different venues or you go to a house party and maybe it's a new house party and you've never
been there and your ENTP friend is ever like the vibes are off, something's going on in this place,
we need to get out of here. Listen to your ENTP okay. I promise you they're pretty in tune with
Fe. They can go into a situation and understand what's going on. When they're talking with
everyone they can understand how is everyone reacting to them, how is everyone feeling, are
people having fun, if they're getting sketch vibes they're going to be very well aware of them okay.
So going into a little bit more detail is what exactly is Fe. So Fe is the judging function. It
makes ENTPs want to actually use their skill set to help the people around them, their community,
their humanity. Think about if you were like the typical humanitarian, what are those people
seeking? What are they actually waking up every single day to go do? If you are a humanitarian
what are you trying to accomplish? Answer that. Fe is what makes you want to help the people around
you. ENTPs have great problem solving skills, so use your problem solving skills to actually solve
the problems of the people around you. If you see people struggling help out. You are internally
motivated to be around people and actually help people. You like people ENTP. I've said this
countless times. I don't know how many times I will say it, but I will say it again. You like
people ENTP. You're an extrovert. You like being around people. You like being helpful. As ENTPs
we're not known for expressing our feelings to the people around us, the people who we care for,
the people who we're actually fighting for. We're not good at actually expressing that we
love and cherish and whatever whatever they want us to say. We're not good at saying it,
but we're good at being there. ENTPs have a gazillion friends, a gazillion possibilities,
a gazillion projects they're working on. So if they're actually dropping everything to
be there for you, they're picking up your phone call, they're texting back every single time,
they show up on time to hang out with you, you call them in an emergency and all of a sudden
they're standing right next to you, that's an ENTP showing they they care about you.
ENTPs show their love affection, whatever you want to say, through their actions. When we're doing
things for the people around us we care about the people around us. We might not tell you guys we
really love you guys, but if all of a sudden we come into a situation and you guys are stuck on
a problem and we just come in and just solve it real quick, that was kind of us just saying like
we care. Because I'm going to be honest, there's not many ENTPs that are going to do nice things
for people that they don't like. So even though ENTPs are known for kind of being emotionless
and not considering the feelings of the people around us, that's true to a certain extent,
but of course everything is on the scale right. Every single thing is on a scale in life.
Everything is on a scale. I will just say that again. I'm so tired of everyone just saying
it's this or that. Like clearly it's not. So extroverted feeling it's pretty basic in a sense,
it's kind of complicated because you know whatever it's that's how the functions are. But at the same
time it's like, do you go into a situation and care about the feelings of the people around
you? Do you just completely bulldoze the mood just cause? Probably not. I mean maybe if you're
young you're not really good at understanding like your actions and the repercussions of
your actions. But as an ENTP matures they're not going to try to just kill the vibe, ruin the vibe,
or just be a buzzkill. They're going to want to keep the party going, making sure everyone's
happy, being super friendly, bringing people together, connection making. Ne and Fe when used
correctly in a very positive way, my gosh that's a force to be reckoned with. Fe is what motivates
you to bring people together, laugh or if all of a sudden the mood gets really quiet you will liven
it up again. Like you're good at understanding externally what needs to happen to make sure
everyone is, um good vibes good vibes all around. Okay it's like you're entertaining, but you're
entertaining with the intent of making the people around you, the people you actually care about,
happy. ENTP you're utilizing your skill set of Ne and Ti to benefit and help the people around you
which is your Fe. Fe I always say do not forget Fe because literally Fe could make her break you
if you aren't surrounded by people. You're going to have a very difficult time staying focused,
paying attention to the details, etc. Please just go watch my past five videos if you don't know
what I'm talking about, so you need to use Fe. You watched the shadow function video correct right?
When you forget Fe and you only go with Fi, no that's a recipe for disaster please stop.
You care about people. Stop thinking you're superior. Wait I'm I'm going too far. That's,
I'll get to Fi in a second, but stop thinking you're superior. You care about the people around
you. Even though I always talk about how Fe is going to come in clutch and just go save the day,
when you forget to use Fe or you're just not using Fe correctly it's very very bad. Honestly Fe is
completely correlated with manipulation in my mind. High Fe users, y'all manipulate through Fe.
An ENTP you're no exception. You can use Fe to your advantage. Like I just said,
you can go into a situation and wine and dine the people around you. You understand what the people
around you need to in order to get whatever you want. You can understand and empathize with the
people around you. Extroverted feeling, you just know what's going on. You just know the vibe. You
just know what's needed. Politicians have always been good as a scapegoat for this, so let's just
go with politicians. Yeah politicians use Fe in the wrong way. That I will give the best example.
Counselors therapists use Fe to empathize and understand their clients. Politicians use Fe
to manipulate this system. Let's just call it how we see it okay. So if I understand what you want,
and how you're feeling, and all of this, I can lead you down the wrong road super quick if I
wanted to. We're very good with manipulation. I've said this multiple times. So like I always say,
please use these um functions the right way. Don't use them in the wrong way because you're
going to feel the consequences one way or another, it just takes time. Because if you're messing with
the feelings of the people around you, and you're purposely messing with the vibe, if you're being
malicious with your Fe, it's only going to take a certain amount of time and the right people to
cross your path before you feel the pain of what you just did. And ENTP high Fe makes you want
to be around people, makes you want to understand people. I like people. I like understanding human
behavior. I've said this multiple times and Fe makes you want to surround yourself with people,
to make connections, to actually listen to more perspective, so Fe kind of motivates you to put
yourself in those situations. And by doing that it will benefit Se Si. But at the same
time please just keep it in mind use it in the right way. Yes you're charming, you're fun,
and you're friendly ENTP, but don't force people just because you're good at manipulating people.
You shouldn't play with people. There's a lot of memes that always talk about how ENTPs see their
friends as play things. I don't necessarily know how to give a proper defense to that other than I
don't believe mature ones do. Maybe when they're young and they don't necessarily understand the
repercussions of using Fe in a very malicious way. Help the people around you, don't manipulate the
people around you. Try to understand the people around you, don't use the people around you.
So be genuine with your actions. So use Fe to build a proper community. Use Fe to help your
surroundings. There's a lot of details with this, but it's your third function you're not a Fe dom.
But I will say if you're watching this and let's say you're around the ESFJ, the ENFJ, the ISFJ,
INFJ, all four of those are going to manipulate you through emotions. They're going to try to
manipulate you through emotions. Do you understand me? Those are high Fe users. When Fe and Fi
are not solid you might be thinking you're using Fe correctly, but if you've never finalized Fi,
your own moral code, it's just only going to take a certain amount of time before you're pretty much
doomed. So you need to keep both of these in mind. They do work in tandem. All of your functions kind
of work together. You can't ignore any of them. So ENTP just keep Fe in mind. Use Fe, be around
people. Actually acknowledge how are the people feeling, what are the people struggling with,
and figure out how can you actually help the people around you. And build a network and
community that you actually want to be a part of and actually surround yourself with. Building
the right network and actually being around the right people are going to change your life in the
most positive way possible. It will benefit your life you will be so much happier I promise you.
Now Fi is introverted feeling. I did a separate video on this. I do recommend going and actually
just watching. I will just do a very very quick overview. Fi is your morals and values. It is how
you actually feel about something ENTP. As an ENTP it is in our blind spot, it is our polar function,
meaning it is the second to the bottom function within our stack. So we're pretty out of tune with
it. We just completely forget about it and we're very wishy-washy with our quote-unquote moral
code. So ENTP, do you have a moral code? Have you ever written down what lines will you not cross?
Do you actually know how far you will go with things? Because if you don't have a defined moral
code that's a problem. ENTPs think that they're morally superior to other human beings simply
because they don't have to follow traditions, they don't have to follow the rules, quote unquote.
Yes you do ENTP, to a certain degree. So if you don't have a moral code and you don't actually
know how far you will go with things and basically how bad you will be, I definitely recommend you
take the time to pause this video, get a piece of paper, and write out who are you as a person and
how are you going to live your life ENTP. Fi is pretty fluid for ENTPs. Morals and values,
hmm interesting. Do we need to even consider these things? Yes yes you do. ENTP stop thinking you're
morally superior. Once again go watch the shadow function video. It will definitely give you a
wake-up call like you had no idea. We're just fluid with uh how we feel about things. We're
very wishy-washy which is that's what scares a lot of people about ENTPs. We're unpredictable,
we're not consistent with our decisions, we're not consistent with who we keep around,
and we're not consistent with literally anything. Therefore that doesn't really provide a lot of
people with security. They can't really trust us, so it does present a slight problem. So Fi,
you need to be considered of others. That's why I said you need to actually write down
your moral code. You need to write down your own moral code ENTP. You need to write down
your own values. So introverted feeling is basically like your gut. It's telling
you what is right and it makes you considerate of others. So if you're aware of your own morals and
values and you're aware of what lines you will not cross do not fear about utilizing Fe in a bad way.
You're going to be considerate to others mainly because you're going to respect your own Fi and
your predetermined whatever thing you wrote on that piece of paper. Guess what? You're not going
to use Fe in a bad way. So um guess what? You just solved your problem. Not really, you just
helped your problem. I don't know if I'm making sense to be honest. Because I'm pretty scattered
with this video because I feel like I've talked about these two functions a lot, but now that I'm
talking about them I feel like I haven't. But at the same time I have because they're so involved
with everything else I've ever talked about on my channel. So ENTP please set your own moral code.
You need to be aware of your own feelings, how you feel about certain things, how you feel about
certain behaviors. Figure out how you actually feel about your past behaviors. Did you do the
right thing? Did you cross a line? Did you ever apologize? You have to be aware of these things,
acknowledge these things, and realize you cannot continue doing these things. If not things are not
going to change. So that was a very complicated thing to talk about, but at the same time it's
something to definitely consider because you care about the people around you. You have an amazing
skill set ENTP, but where certain functions are within your stack it's a recipe for disaster if
you are not aware of these things. So I went from the bottom up on purpose. Se and Si, we struggle
with these things, but Fe stimulates Se and Si. If you are not aware of Fi you're not going to use
Fe in the right way. They're all connected. So you have the skill set. Just be aware of your skill
set and your capabilities. Fe is understanding the feelings and values of the people around you.
Fi is understanding how you actually feel about things. So figure the stuff out ENTP. Start with
Fi. Highly recommend start with Fi. Please double check your blind spot. Just like if you're driving
you double check your blind spot. Double check how you actually feel about something. These things
aren't that complicated, but at the same time they very much are. As always I hope you guys
enjoyed this video. Don't forget to like and subscribe and I'll talk to you all soon. Bye.