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how can I tell if I have PTSD or complex
PTSD when my psychiatrist is diagnosed
me currently is having borderline
personality disorder and originally I
was diagnosed schizophrenic I see you've
taken your stroll down the mental health
field path okay I'm gonna try to contain
my level of fury relative to this
subject I know that many of you feel
like a spiritual teacher should not have
any strong emotions but that's complete
BS and by the way that's what happens
when a spiritual teacher has cut
themselves off in their temporal aspect
so I'm just going to tell you right now
at the level of fury I feel towards this
question is immense because you my
friend have found the failings of our
current society mental health needs to
change completely you're basically
putting forth the fact that you've been
diagnosed as all of these different
things as if it's a defect within you
all of these is why they can't nail down
a particular diagnosis for you it's all
just symptom ology and these people are
basically looking at your symptoms and
trying to categorize you in a box so
they know what treatment to give you
when they don't even understand what
that treatment does in and of itself
especially if medications are involved
so I need you to start to look at this
in a different way it doesn't matter
whether you've been diagnosed PTSD
diagnosed borderline diagnosed
schizophrenic
all of these labels are just ways that
one psychiatrist or psychologist can
talk to another person in one sentence
can sum up a bunch of symptoms and give
us somewhat of an understanding about
what's going on with this person it does
not mean anything for you I also want
you to see that all of these behaviors
which are coming through symptoms which
they label are an adaptation that means
that the root of all of these things is
in fact trauma our trauma
forces us to separate off from the
aspect that was vulnerable to the aspect
that kept us safe and oftentimes that
creates behaviors in our adult life
especially teenage life and sometimes
even childhood that are less
then beneficial to ourselves and
behaviors that get us in a lot of
trouble with the system so I need you to
see that these issues you're having are
adaptations that you experienced as a
result of the trauma that you went
through I'll give you an example with
borderline chelli
borderline you're gonna see this with
any kind of attachment trauma
now that's trauma relative to
relationships and closeness if you've
had any kind of trauma there abandonment
is a big thing with people who are
borderline invalidation is the biggest
thing when it comes to people who are
quote unquote borderline so let's look
at this let's say you grew up in an
invalid ating environment which you did
what happens when you have an emotion in
that environment chances are your parent
turned against it so when you said I
feel really sad the parent goes there's
no reason to feel sad right now it's
ridiculous it's such a beautiful day or
something like that
it's an invalidating environment to your
emotions which leaves you in a position
where you feel pain but you're being
told you shouldn't feel pain and yet you
feel it anyway and so you start to
distrust yourself and so the emotion
starts to build and you actually create
no capacity for regulation of your own
emotions because how do we learn to
regulate our own emotions if our parent
regulates our emotions and if our parent
is seeing their emotions don't exist can
they regulate our emotions No
so we never learned to do it so
basically in our adult life what happens
we have no capacity to regulate our
emotions when somebody says something to
us we go from Park to fifth and fifty
seconds and suddenly we're in a towering
rage and we logo and look at that when
you say oh my god it's borderline that's
not borderline this is the result of
having a traumatic experience in
childhood where our emotions were
invalidated and so we had no hope of
resolving them and so this is how we
evolved in our adulthood so we have to
start to shift our focus within the
mental health field towards what
happened to this person and how can we
provide the missing experience for this
person so that we can give them
different tools for coping with these
types of experiences and triggers that
they're experiencing in their adult life
I really don't want you to start looking
at whether you have one of these
conditions or another one of these
conditions because as there's
progresses we're gonna get rid of them
entirely it's no longer going to be a
conversation whether this person has
borderline or this person has
schizophrenia a person will be treated
as a whole organic unit where all the
trauma that they experienced creates
ways of coping with it adaptations do
those benefit the person No
so we're going to give them different
tools we're going to give them different
experiences Healing is all about
experience in the opposite right so if
you experienced being invalidated and
childhood all weird
you can solve borderline condition by
validating their emotions in real-time
and actually creating resolution for
them and then the whole condition is
gone so it's not a defect it's an
adaptation see that about yourself there
is nothing wrong with you
that's my rent I am so mad at the
current mental health system I can't
even tell you and I am personally taking
it on
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