It's really amazing how people can unearth videos like this one, where an unsuspecting
woman is just... love bombed by our Duchess.
And there were other... cringe moments at that event that I'm going to expose in this
video.
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This was at an United Service Organizations Christmas event back in 2014, where... celebrities...
perform and interact with veterans.
But I don't know where did they get this clip, supposedly from the backstage of that event,
where Meghan is literally squeezing this woman like a lemon.
I don't know her name, so let's call her Sally.
Let's watch the complete clip so you can see what I mean:
The first thing that went through my mind when I saw this for the first time, is why?
why would anyone think that it's a good idea to treat someone, who is obviously NOT into
hugs, especially from an overexcited stranger, treat her like this is the ending of some
Richard Curtis film?
I think that even an amoeba would perceive that Sally was really uncomfortable.
Because there are layers to these kind of gestures.
Stages, if you want to call them like that.
And the first stage is this one, when Meghan has just invited her into the frame, and Sally
is not that uncomfortable...
Yet.
She's got just a shy smile, and her forehead and eyebrows are relaxed.
It's important to notice that her head is leaning slightly away from NutMeg.
Now, here's the first problem.
Meghan brings Sally close to her and literally wraps her hands around her shoulders.
She's doing a couple things there.
She's invading her personal space, in fact, so far as to establish body contact with her,
but not as equals, because Meghan is behind her, so Sally can't see her at all.
That's more than enough to make any person feel anxious.
At the same time, those hands do not allow her to move in any direction.
Meghan is literally controlling her stance.
And that's why we have the first glimpse of, "Please drop the bloody camera and help me".
Sally is really trying to play nice but her lip corners are already pulling down.
The next clue is something that almost everyone hates with all their guts, and it's that Meghan
shifts and moves her hands over Sally's shoulders WITHOUT lifting them.
Rubbing, if you will, her shoulders.
That's why the victim turns her head and her eyes away, which is a subtle gesture of trying
to escape.
But you know how it is, once the lioness gets you, accept your fate.
So, Meghan keeps talking to the camera like she does not have a hostage under her clutches,
and Sally's face is turning into a display of being really uncomfortable.
Her jaw is tense, her lips are pressed, and she's squinting a bit.
It's like she's at one of those slapping competitions and she's about to receive a solid one from
none other than Rosie O'Donell.
In other words, she knows it's going to turn from bad to worse at any second.
Yeah.
She lowering her head is just accepting her fate.
Then, immediately after that, Meghan does her classic Terminator smile, which is not
creepy at all, Sally thinks about her family one last time and then, it happens.
Right there.
That's the moment something just broke inside her.
I bet that she was thinking, "I hope that this doesn't end up on the internet and is
picked up by some Youtuber with too much time on his hands"
Sally, if you're watching this, you were really brave.
Especially with all those teeth so close to your neck.
Jesus, that's more teeth than the entire Osmond family.
Now, viewer discretion is advised.
Because we have the unique, scientifically accurate depiction of the interior of Meghan's
mouth.
Yeah, I'm sure your face is exactly the same as Sally's at that exact moment.
But, what makes this expression so unsettling?
well, we know that anyone can display passing expressions, that are just the connection
from one facial emotion to another.
For example, when someone blinks, and you take a picture right when they are halfway
that blink, they will always look intoxicated.
That's how you get pictures like drunk Ben Affleck, or Groggy Britney or... no, wait.
That's regular Courtney Love.
But whatever.
I really suggest that you try and mimic Meghan's face here.
Go ahead.
I'll wait.
You're going to notice that there is a lot of tension on your face, especially your mouth
muscles, because it's not easy at all to shape your mouth like that and at the same time
lower your jaw so much.
Well, at least that's consistent with the usual tension that we've seen with Meghan's
jaw, that she's constantly clenching it, and that's why over the years she has developed
so sharp jaw lines.
What does this tell you about the subject's personality? this is absolute lack of empathy
and not having the slightest idea about how body language works.
And it's one thing when people do not understand how empathy works, they have a hard time reading
other people's emotions, but because of that, they remain distant and sometimes have a hard
time even establishing eye contact.
But a totally different beast is when someone has no clue of how to interpret other person's
feelings, attitude, body language reaction, general feeling of the moment, and they go
all in with a non solIcited bear hug.
This is important.
Because even if you had no problem in spotting how awkward was the moment, it's even more
important that you take the time to analyze, and really filter, be aware of what is going
on.
What does this interaction tells you abot the ones involved.
If you watched this in real life, most probably you might want to keep your space so Meghan
doesn't give you any of these surprises.
Which brings us to this second clip.
Meghan was singing with the other members of this particular event, and...
I'm just going to show you a still first, just to see what you can catch from a single
frame.
Yeah, she's physically separated from two very well bonded groups.
And usually, when there's a group singing on stage, they might want to be all together.
Like a closing ceremony.
Now, you might be thinking that this is just a coincidence, or I'm not showing you the
entire clip.
Well, it IS like this, the entire clip.
But what I want to show you is Meghan trying to bridge that gap.
And what happens next is uncomfortable enough.
It's like Meghan it's not there.
Because first she reaches out with her left hand to the woman, and you might think that
she turned around to Meg as a response, but in fact the she never makes eye contact with
Meghan.
She was looking for... something behind Meghan's back.
Also, notice that when Meghan reaches out to touch her, the woman's right arm, which
is the arm closer to Meghan, remains tightly close to her body.
There is absolutely no intention of returning the gesture and what's more, she looks really
tense.
But then, Meghan goes for the big guy.
She reaches out with her right hand, touches him and... he steps back.
What's even more...
I don't know, sad, is that he flinches.
He has this uncomfortable reaction to Meghan's touch.
So... he begins to play air drums hoping that nobody noticed.
You know that he really did not want to have anything to do with Meghan, because he is
ON STAGE, so he knows that there are a lot of eyes on all of them, Meghan touches him,
and he never establishes eye contact with her.
He absolutely ignores her.
It's like "we don't want to acknowledge your presence here".
I think Meghan sort of gets the message and then does that sandwich claw she does when
she's been actively ignored by people.
Like that time when Serena William's mother literally acted like Meghan did not exist.
There, Meghan put her hands together.
That's part of her body language baseline.
But this event was Christmas.
This makes you wonder, what did Meghan do to these people, what kind of boiling point
they reached, to ignore her like this?
Ow... right.
This is proof that you can exaggerate being friendly, and charming and fun... and you
just make people feel uncomfortable, to say the least.
Because they see through you.
They see through your facade.
No matter how much Terminator smile you got.
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