using conversational hypnosis to get
people to really hear what you're saying
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do you ever get the feeling when you're
talking to someone if they're not really
listening to you you can get that sense
that they're listening to their own
inner monologue or they're making
pictures in our mind of things that
we're going to be doing our worst
they're thinking about what they want to
say so they're not really paying
attention to what you're saying if you
haven't had that experience I guarantee
you it's happened to you just didn't
realize it
what people say what we have to say we
think is the most important thing that
there is to be said
which is why most of us aren't really
listening that well so how do you get
people to really listen up and really
listen to what you're saying well you
have to sound like you have something
very important to say and one way that
you can do that is by pausing and
dropping your tonality and begin to say
what comes next in a much slower pace
and with a lower tonality like I'm
almost breathing my words but you can't
keep this pace for long because you
might put people to sleep
are you going to piss off people who are
really visual really visual people make
pictures in your mind of what you're
saying and if everything is in slow
motion after well this will start to
wear so you can't keep that out what you
actually want to do is you want to vary
your vocal speed it's called vocal
variety and hypnosis what we do is we
pause right before we want to give it up
not command you don't have to be you
don't have to give a commando you can
just pause right before you say
something very important people want to
fill that gap and what you'll start to
notice is when you pause like that you
pause in an unnatural place where you're
about to say something you might have
noticed in your mind you were kind of
locked onto that because you wanted to
fill that gap that space so pause it is
not over years where you can reduce when
you use a pause and then deliver the
important message you have to say and
then once you're done take the speed
back up and continue on with whatever it
is so for example your intro this is
really good for presentations by the way
and for sales giving a presentation to a
group of people you want to talk fast
enough to where you're not putting them
to sleep right away they don't think
that you're going to be a war if you
start off talking really slowly might
just think this person is going to be a
board and they tune out you don't want
that
speaking really fast can actually get
people to listen better as well because
they need to keep up at the same time
though if you stick with one speed
throughout your entire speech
presentation sales presentation or just
talking to a friend or whatever
conversation if you stick to one speed
is repetitive and that's why people to
that's why people turn out but if you
speak in variety are you speaking fast
and then you slow it down a little bit
like this and then use when you pick it
back up it will seem natural and it will
keep the person more interested when
you're giving that presentation you're
having a conversation you're on that
date whatever it might be you start off
with your introduction you speak in our
old age
you do whatever the usual conversation
formality is and then when you get to
meet you give it that pause and you talk
allowing there to be space between your
words and you will likely notice people
leaning in or when they're sitting in a
chair will start to lean forward like
that and just remember what you've done
with the meet you need to pick it back
up get a little bit faster and move
through to the next part where you're
getting into the next meeting part of
the conversation presentation or
whatever it is that you're talking about
it does take time to get really good at
it
mastering your voice is a wonderful
thing to do it is your voice is very
powerful when you can speak and you've
mastered it where you can speak at the
speed that you want when you want your
conscious of it you're aware of it
you can also drop tonality or you can
raise your tonality the more you
practice this the more demanding and
charismatic you're going to be i would
recommend practicing in front of the
mirror i would recommend practicing by
recording yourself on your smartphone
you can and you don't feel like you're
deceiving people going to record
yourself doing a comment during a
conversation
many people don't realize how fast they
speak and when they slow down even just
a little bit it feels really a natural
so it takes some practice believe me you
speak faster than what you think you
speak most people do when you start to
slow down you're thinking you're going
super slow but in actuality people are
loving it because you are finally
slowing down and they can really take
time to let those words process it's
good to record yourself and you get a
sense of how fast you talking how slow
and you get away with speaking really
slow and you'll be really surprised
people you will think people are in our
noticing that you're doing something
strange a lot of times they don't unless
you go
slow like this and of course they're
gonna say that's kind of weird what are
you doing sort of practicing with
friends so that if they do calling on
say okay what's going on their friend of
yours you just stay home
yeah I'm trying this thing out where i'm
varying the speed at which I speak
the more you do it though the more you
practice it more natural it will be a
really good person to model a really
good example of what I'm talking about
is the actor Johnny Depp watch him and
interviews he's typically speaks very
slow very rhythmic and resonant and he's
got a great voice and it draws you in
he does very thought he tends to be on
the slow side but he does vary it and I
lately I've been watching interviews
with them and I can't believe that he's
not even saying that much but for some
reason online really tuned in to what
he's saying because he's actually
inducing a trance and the people he's
talking to I don't think he's doing it
on purpose but that's part of this
charisma give it a try and let me know
what the results are
I love to hear your feedback again this
is great for presentations great for
sales and great even for casual
conversation just try it out and see
what happens
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